My boyfriend just called me a dog

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So, me and my boyfriend were just sat at my kitchen table, eating the food I cooked, and my BF had only given me two slices of chicken. I asked if I could have a bit more and my boyfriend slapped a couple of pieces of chicken on my plate and said 'here's some more scraps for the dog'. I've totally blown up on this comment and my boyfriend says he didn't mean it, says stupid things without meaning it etc. We've had a bit of alcohol lol. I really want him to leave but he's refusing because he left his car here and there is parking restrictions on my road in the morning. Who is being unreasonable please?

He is being U. Very disrespectful and an absolutely awful way to refer to you!
You asked him to leave. He needs to get out. Now.
Fuck the “parking restrictions” if he gets a fine he gets a fine. He should think about respecting you in your home if he doesn’t want to be told to leave!

Thank you Angry Squid. That's what I feel but he won't leave.

Tell him in no uncertain terms that he needs to go now and if he doesn’t you’ll call the police (which you’re within your rights to do btw as it’s your home, but whether you follow through is up to you)

Wait was he not just joking? What is he like normally? What was his tone when he said it?

You’ve both been drinking. Do you really need to call the police?

i would personally at least threaten it to get him to leave if I was unhappy with him there and he wouldn’t go.
I’m not sure if I’d follow through however (See previous post) but I’d be very upset/angry if someone stayed in my home after being told to leave. I definitely wouldn’t have him around for a good while at least and would try to get him out however necessary including with the threat of the police

My DP and I are always joking around and if he said something like that I would laugh and think it was him being silly.
I would also come back with my own insult to him (joking).

Your reaction seems a bit OTT - unless it was said with genuine aggression.

I wouldn’t tolerate been called a dog, nor having food that I’d cooked slapped down on my plate. It’s your food and your house!. He’s a bit of a twat isn’t he? And he doesn’t get to say that he won’t leave your home - tell him to bugger off. If he genuinely refuses to leave I’d suggest a call to the police. Or to any family/friends who will help you to eject him. How long have you been seeing him?

It's really hard to judge. Massively depends on what he's normally like and the tone in which he said it.

I’m sure the police will be delighted to be called out for this!

What a disrespectful cunt. He needs to shift himself now. Threaten police.

Call the police??!! Are you joking? ‘Can someone please come now, my boyfriend called me a dog, it’s disrespectful so I asked him to leave and he won’t.’ Jesus. Make him sleep on the sofa and talk about it in the morning when you’re both sober.

Sorry to be blunt, but he sounds like a right nasty twat.

He said it was just a joke, he's driven off drunk to park his car round the corner (off the main rd with parking restrictions in the morning) saying it's all my fault l

Surely that was just a badly judged/drunken attempt at a joke?

Unless there’s more you’re not telling us.

He is being very unreasonable. If you want him to leave your house he should bloody well do as you say and piss off.

@Helendee a man refusing to respect his girlfriend’s boundaries and leave her home when asked is a perfectly reasonable use of police time. Do you think men should just be able to do as they please with their girlfriends and their properties? Tell you what, can i just rock up at yours, get pissed, insult you and refuse to leave, you’d be grand with that would you?

Lock the door and go to bed while he’s gone.

He could always sleep in the back of the car and drive home in the morning. Cold and uncomfortable, but that reflects the way he made you feel.

Threat of police?
That’s got to be a record surely.

I would've assumed it was a joke and put my paws up and said woof woof or something similarly jokey. Unless it was just another in a long line of snidey insults of course. The fact it's hit a nerve Makes me think it is.

@ladybirdies

There’s always one who seems to think that everyone should tolerate shitty behaviour just because they would take it as a joke.

This was bloody disrespectful. Your house. Your food. I’d have thrown his dinner in the bin.

He needs to leave. You’ve asked him to and he needs to respect that.

He's a twat. Bin him off.

You’ve both been drinking.... this sounds like the weariest pile of crap ever. Bloody hell.

What? So if you’re with a man and he starts being out of order and you tell him it’s time to go and he refuses, what exactly do you do? All these people incredulous that anyone would involve the police, what’s your advice? Do you ring your dad or what? Men ignoring women’s boundaries and wishes doesn’t tend to end well or do you not watch the news much

Calling women dogs isn’t ok, refusing to leave someone’s house when they’ve told you to go isn’t ok. What are you people smoking ?

@Ladybirdies Me and my DH are always joking about too, but he'd never do or say anything so downright disrespectful. Especially not when dishing up food I've stood and cooked as well.