My boyfriend just called me a dog

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So, me and my boyfriend were just sat at my kitchen table, eating the food I cooked, and my BF had only given me two slices of chicken. I asked if I could have a bit more and my boyfriend slapped a couple of pieces of chicken on my plate and said 'here's some more scraps for the dog'. I've totally blown up on this comment and my boyfriend says he didn't mean it, says stupid things without meaning it etc. We've had a bit of alcohol lol. I really want him to leave but he's refusing because he left his car here and there is parking restrictions on my road in the morning. Who is being unreasonable please?

DH and I take the piss out of each other all the time but we have lines we won't cross. Even if he was attempting to be funny, he needs to do some serious grovelling! Discuss it tomorrow when you're both sober and he's had some time to stew, and let him know you won't tolerate that!

He's gone now thank god, got a taxi. Before that he said that I want him to drive home drunk. Of course I didn't want that. That's another thing he's out of order for.

A joke is funny, if you didnt find it funny (which I most definitely wouldn't and I like a laugh) he should apologise.
He shown disrespect and needs to learn that's not ok.

Dont let him back in tonight and speak when you are both sober tomorrow

Frankly I'd be more pissed off that he drove drunk

All these posters saying call the police - what would be left for something serious, nuclear annihilation?

Madame Butterfly
You can try it if you like but I wouldn’t recommend it.

So what do you reckon will happen tomorrow?

Will you feel like you have over reacted after a drink? Or will you be glad he left and call it a day?

I suppose that's what matters?

People don’t talk like that to the people they care about. He doesn’t respect you, is this really the life you want?

Maybe it’s time to think about whether you want to stay with him?

Calls you a dog, and has form for driving home pissed......that’s bad in itself - he could kill someone.

If he’d called me that and wouldn’t leave I’d be asking him if that made him my bitch!
And I’ve just left an emotionally abusive relationship!

You’ve both been drinking and he goes out and drives his car? I don’t care if it’s just round the corner or just one metre, drunk driving is irresponsible and illegal.
As to the dog comment, it depends how much it bothers you when you’re sober. If you look back on it sober and think it was indeed a joke fair doos. It there’s anything else that makes you think he doesn’t really respect you, then have a think on what you want from life.

“You can try it if you like but I wouldn’t recommend it.”

Oh, ok, so you agree it’s unacceptable behaviour that no one should have to put up with? Why do you think it’s unreasonable to call the police about it then?

“If he’d called me that and wouldn’t leave I’d be asking him if that made him my bitch!”

Yes because the best thing to do in drunken rows is to escalate and antagonise

Youre well rid. His attitude this evening stank.

he's driven off drunk to park his car round the corner (off the main rd with parking restrictions in the morning) saying it's all my fault

This is the most worrying insight into your b/f's mentality.

When you feel a bit calmer, think on about how 'it's all your fault'.
Does he usually hold you responsible for his poor behaviour, OP?
He is in effect saying "now look what you've made me do" ...
You didn't ask him to drive drunk.
Don't let him give you shit for HIS bad judgement.

If he’d called me that and wouldn’t leave I’d be asking him if that made him my bitch!

^love this!

Glad you got him to go, not sure why none of us thought of a taxi!

What is he like normally? as much of a tosser as he sounds? I'm thinking you could do better....

Well that escalated quickly, a misplaced drunken comment to drink driving and suggestions to call the police! Can you imagine some poor officers have to go respond to that !

Why did he give you a stingy amount of food?

You cooked you get best bits/ decent portion etc

If I cooked for a bloke and he dished up gave me sod all id be not impressed.

If I asked for more and he called me a dog I'd bin him.

In future, with your next boyfriend, dish the food up youself.

Why is he metering out your chicken to you in your own house?
Why did you have to request more food?
Why did he feel he could call you that, it's disrespectful and seems to suggest 'shame' at you wanting more chicken?
Why did he laugh at you after the fact, seeing you were upset and try to bat it back on you?
Why didnt he leave immediately, on request, without a fuss?
Why did he drive drunk and try to blame you for that too?

I think I know the answers. He's a colossal prick.

Actually in this situation I'd be asking myself 'would I ever, ever have said that to him?'

The answer is no, then he bloody well shouldn't have said it to you.

It sounds to me like a cruel, unkind comment designed to belittle you and shame you. I think that's concerning.

Sober up.

I'd forgive the dog comment.

The rest of it, the driving drunk (even if only round the corner) would be enough for me to end it. Knob.

He sounds ghastly OP and shame on him for drink driving.

If I was him I'd go forever. Life is too short for drama.