To want sterilisation well under 30?

[tippytoesah]

I've got a fabulous DC. I do not want any more DC. No thank you.

I tried the pill, I didn't get on with any of them. Dodgy periods, cramping, psycho mood swings.

The implant made me bleed for 6 months to no end.

I fell pregnant on the Mirena coil.

I am now pregnant again and on the copper coil! Both fitted by separate health professionals, so no chance of application error. No signs that my cervix isn't favourable for one.

I've bloody well had enough. I am absolutely sick of contraction methods either failing me or causing absolutely havoc to my cycles and mood. Dare I say it but it quite possibly impacts my state of wellbeing.

And what for? I don't know. Nothing. I don't want any more children. This seems incredibly unfair to make me suffer on when I could just be sterilised/tubes tied for good.

Has anyone successfully been taken seriously at a young(ish) age?

I'm so fed up >

Ironically, the only thing to never fail me or cause issues is NFP

Bump

You are not unreasonable to want to be sterilised, so why not ask? It's your body, and doctors should (in theory) support your choice.

Has your partner tried condoms in the meantime, or considering a vasectomy?

Have you tried double contraception (e.g. hormonal and barrier together?)

Have you spoken to your doctor or just assuming they would say no?

YANBU but why is all contraception falling to you? Can you partner have a vasectomy while you try and get sterilised?

From the NHS website: 'You may be more likely to be accepted for the operation if you're over 30 and have had children.'

I'd speak with your GP.

Sand I'm nowhere near 30 yet.

I wouldn't want to pressure DH into a vasectomy because it wouldn't be fair on him

Crikey you are fertile. Did the coils fall out or did you become pregnant with them in? (Sorry I’m being nosey).

I was going to say you’ve got no chance of sterilisation under 30 but with your history who knows.
Definitely try some barrier methods in the meantime. Maybe diaphragm and condoms?

I was absolutely sure I didn't want more children when I was 23 and was sterilised. Now I'm 32 and can't have any more children. My first marriage failed, and now DH can't have any of his own. You never know what twists and turns life will bring.

There No worries! Both were securely in place when I became pregnant

One True, But I do know I will never have any more children. One DC is enough for me.

Pregnancy isn't kind to me. I suffer horrendously. And I don't want any more children. I'm thrilled with having 1DC.

It doesn't matter if DH vanishes, I remarried or etc. No more DC.

I may be swayed if I can have all the gadgets and glam mummy and baby items if I married a millionaire No chance otherwise though

My first antenatal appt when pregnant with DC2 the consultant advised me I needed a CS. I asked if he would sterilise me at the same time. He agreed, I was 28yo and never regretted it for a moment.

Yanbu, because if you wanted to change your gender you would immediately be given irreversible treatment, no querying that you might change your mind .

Derailing and incorrect ohyesiam.

A friend of mine had it done aged 25 due to falling pregnant quickly after her 3rd DC. I think it was through the NHS.

I really want it done as well, definitely do not want anymore kids. Have health issues that mean I shouldn't have anymore but when I mentioned it at my smear I was told I was too young. How old is your husband? I only ask as when i mentioned mine wanting the snip, the nurse told me hes too young (29) and what would happen if I died and he remarried and he wanted anymore? Shouldn't laugh, but I couldn't help myself. How morbid!

Depending on the area you live in, it may not be an option anyway. Where I am it's pretty much impossible to get a gp to refer you.

YANBU at all. I hope you get it sorted. Sadly my understanding is that GPs don’t like this idea but have no problem giving men the snip. Meh.

You will have no problems if you do it privately. It is more expensive, yep, but far cheaper than having a bunch of unwanted children. And no one will harass you with questions of "are you really sure?" or assumptions that "you will change your mind".

How much would it cost to get done privately?

Will they give me a consultation whilst I'm still pregnant?

If it's £2k then probably not. But if it is under £800 then I'd be more than happy to pay it....

Sterilisation is not 100% effective, and also the tubes can rejoin. This sometimes happens even 10 or 20 years after the operation. Not saying you shouldn't get it done, but it might be worth doing some research first just so you know what to expect from it, and compare the side effects and possible complications with other contraception methods. You sound insanely fertile OP!

It's not going to be £800. It's a full operation with anaesthetist and surgeon. Probably over £3k.

If your DH is very young too they might not want to perform a vasectomy on him either.

Might have to be a belt and braces approach of pill plus condom plus abstinence at fertile time or something until you get a bit older.

I had it at 30, single, with an only child but I believe even that was unusual.

We’re childfree by choice and my DH had a vasectomy in his 20s. I’d like to be sterilised too and I’m in the process of jumping through the hurdles. I’m 33 and having a HELL of a time getting someone to agree!!

Apparently I am old enough and wise enough to decide to have children but I can’t decide not to! It’s bonkers!

Slightly different but a close friend has been referred to a consultant for the same thing, they have done wonderful children but definitely don’t want anymore and they are only 25! So it’s possible :)