To ask to be sterilised?

[RunningFeisty]

I'm 30, I have 3 kids. Hormonal contraception doesn't agree with me at all, I was on Loestrin and it made me bleed continuously, they swapped me to microgynon, and it makes me feel continuously nauseated!

I'm 100 percent postive that I do not want any further children, I suffered SPD with the last two pregnancies, and with one of my children having additional needs, my family is well and truly complete, I don't have enough energy for any more.

The thing is I know they are going to try and tell me I shouldn't be sterilised, I suffer anxiety and the idea of getting pregnant again fills me with utter dread. Obviously I know I can use condoms, but even then I panic that that might fail or burst etc.

@twolobsters DH said this to me when we were discussing sterilisation. I found it an utterly bizarre argument. He also tried to argue that as I am younger than him I might want to remarry and have more children if something happened to him.

@SuperSara i meant the NHS policy in some areas where they will sterilize men but not women which a PP mentioned.

Its the POLICY that is sexist and misogynistic

I knew this would be misconstrued

I spoke with my GP about this last week. Unfortunately, our trust doesn't offer them anymore - because the coil for women or vasectomy for men is considered cheaper and lower risk. However, she completely understood my reasons and is writing a letter to see if I can get on the list for elective surgeries. Private just isn't an option for me right now so if the NHS won't do it, i'll have to wait and see.

YANBU to want it done. Intellectually, I get that other options might be better in terms of cost and risk but the mental or physical trauma of those are too much for me. I can't take hormone contraceptives anyway, which is why my GP thinks I at least have a chance of getting the surgery.