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To think people might not want to buy a house next door to a funeral director?

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MorgueDweller · 31/07/2019 21:07

Found out today that two doors away is turning into a mortuary/funeral director's business. So dead bodies will be stored there. It's currently a gift shop in a village, very residential area.

Neighbour who will live next door told me. My first reaction was that I wasn't bothered.....they'll be quiet! Neighbour is worried about house price being affected.

Ive now googled and it does seem that being in the same area as a funeral director wipes 6.5% off the value of your property. And I guess this might be more if you're only 2 doors away?

If we were to sell our house do you think a lot of people would be put off by this? Is it the thought of dead bodies which would put people off because this doesn't bother me? I'm slightly bothered about a possible increase in parking issues If there's lots of families coming and going. I'm not sure how busy it will be. I guess hearses May sometimes bring a body back in the middle of the night if they're rung to come and fetch a body.

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bubblegumunicorn · 31/07/2019 22:23

I was going to say I wouldn't want to live near a funeral directors then I remembered I actually looked at a flat above one a few years ago and it wasn't even a factor for me! So I guess a lot of people won't think about it in practice honestly shops change a lot and in a few years it could have changed in to a flower shop or something so don't worry about it until it comes to selling :)

DogHasEatenTheSqueaker · 31/07/2019 22:24

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest, but just asked DH (usually much stronger than me about death/dying due to his work) and he said he actively would avoid it, which I’m really surprised at.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 31/07/2019 22:24

There is going to be a member of staff living there "above the shop"

Ah, I see - I guess it's a family run sort of place?

But then, a small company's even less likely to do all the prep and storage on the premises (I can't speak for others, but none of them round here do). So I'm not sure how this will really be different to any other owner living over the shop?

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 31/07/2019 22:27

If it's already a commercial property then I'd say a funeral directors is probably the best option.

Imagine a takeaway? Urgh the smells. Or a cash converter. Or a meat vendor.

FlamingoFlamenco · 31/07/2019 22:37

I used to know someone who had a Funeral Directors living in the house next door to her.

He advertised his business by standing a coffin at one of the upstairs bedroom windows.

As for your concern - it wouldn't bother me, I've lived next door to church yards and seen many funerals happening in 2 of my homes now.

PickAChew · 31/07/2019 22:40

No night noise at all, btw. The office is very much 9-5 and we only see the cars during office hours. Some families meet there and, presumably, some meet at someone's home, like we did when each of my PIL died.

Have to confess that I find the spectacle of the cars setting off slowly with the director marching in front more than a little comical. We felt exactly the same when it was us in the cars - every one of us was trying not to giggle. DH didn't order that nonsense, though. It was other family members who wanted things to be "proper" - even if they ended up giggling, too.

MartiniDry · 31/07/2019 22:40

I wouldn't feel comfortable living that close to a funeral directors. Sorry!

PickAChew · 31/07/2019 22:46

We do have a restaurant a little further away (and many, many takeaways further than that) and, tbh, the smells coming from it are absolutely mouthwatering. Half a dozen Indian restaurants within 5 minutes walk and even the ones with such bad hygiene ratings that I'd rather go to Greggs smell good.

highheelsandbobblehats · 31/07/2019 22:51

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

stucknoue · 31/07/2019 22:52

They need a lot of space for a funeral directors, unless it's a massive gift shop I suspect it's more of an office and display area rather than where they actually store bodies - pretty sure that would involve change of use because there's chemicals involved in embalming etc. Around here chains have small shops on parades but then a big facility slightly out of town

Candymay · 31/07/2019 22:53

Oh I’m afraid it would definitely put me off. I’m still thinking about the dead body I found next door yesterday. I’m sitting here on the other side of the wall from where it was and I’m traumatised. (My neighbour died suddenly). So I would most definitely not be able to buy your house. But the thing is that lots of people wouldn’t be put off at all. Also your diagram shows that you are a bit of a distance.

MorgueDweller · 31/07/2019 22:54

It is massive. It was originally a 6/7 bed house. Then it was a post office and a massive extension was built on the back when the actual sorting office moved there. So there was a post office, sorting office and still enough room for it to be a house with a family living there.

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Dontsweatthelittlestuff · 31/07/2019 22:55

Many moons ago I used to live above a Chinese takeaway so a funeral directors would be bliss after that.

Plus there is a independent funeral directors not far from me. It s attached to a row of victorian terraces with only on street parking. When ever I see a for sale board along that stretch of road it is never up for long so clearly not everyone is put off because of the funeral home.

itstimeforslime · 31/07/2019 22:56

Wouldn’t bother me at all. I’d only be worried about the amount of traffic it would generate with people coming and going.

The funeral home where I live is ridiculously busy. So many people visiting those who are resting in it before their funeral.

Other than that I honestly don’t think I’d care about it 🤷🏻‍♀️

evilharpy · 31/07/2019 23:01

I’d be wary of the parking situation but that would be my only reservation.

My cousin lives next to a cemetary. A few years after she bought the house, her mum (my auntie) died and was buried very close to my cousin’s house. She says it’s a comfort to be able to look out the window and see her mum’s resting place and all the flowers on it and know her mum is still looking after her from heaven. I’m not at all religious but I thought that was lovely.

We have nothing at all to fear from the dead. I’d prefer neighbours who were deceased to neighbours who were Tories.

SparkyBlue · 31/07/2019 23:10

The actual funeral home wouldn't bother me at all but I'd be concerned about traffic and parking issues and streams of people coming and going. Then however I am in Ireland so like a previous poster said we use funeral homes differently and the processions nearly always leave from them.

SachaStark · 31/07/2019 23:30

My mum is a funeral director, and there is actually a residential flat above her place! The people living there aren’t employees either, just a regular couple and their small baby. DM and her staff have a lovely relationship with the couple upstairs, always saying hello, etc, and of course, there’s no chance of the baby keeping anybody awake at night! They all seem very satisfied with the arrangement.

They do sometimes have to bring people back in the night sometimes, but it’s not like a regular occurrence, e.g. every single night. Lots of people, of course, pass away in hospital, and go to the morgue there first, so are moved during business hours. Some pass away in care homes or hospices, and family often want to see their loved one first to talk to them or kiss them before they are collected, so, again, would usually wait until morning.

Also, of course, any doctors visiting to certify will be coming during business hours.

And I wouldn’t worry too much about seeing upset mourners and so on. Mum often tells me how it’s amazing how, even in the most tragic of circumstances, people are able to be very practically-minded when they come in to see her. After all, this is usually when they are performing the more “businessy” side of death, so tend to be pre-occupied by making decisions. And, of course, you would never see inside to the chapel of rest, where the mourners are likely to be most emotive. That is, naturally, the most private and secluded part of a funeral director’s and nobody should be able to view it from street level.

(On a side note, one thing I always think is very lovely is that my mum and her colleagues always talk to the people whom they come to collect. Always a kind of, “Hello Mr So-and-so, we are just going to smarten you up a little bit there, dear, now let’s get you up from bed, and so on.” I think it’s nice.)

Also, as PPs have said, it’s not very often that the whole funeral procession starts from the directors at all, rather it’s usually from the family home. My mum always stands outside to watch them off, though, if she’s not attending the funeral herself. She says that she likes to “wish them well”.

StoneofDestiny · 31/07/2019 23:33

It would put me off - too morbid.

shieldmaidenofrohan · 31/07/2019 23:43

I'd rather live next to dead bodies than a restaurant or bar. At least the bodies won't make a disturbance.
Our house is bounded by a church, a cemetery and a nursing home. No noise at all 😀

Lolly25 · 31/07/2019 23:46

The cars are usually kept in a separate place, they usually own garages. But I suppose the hearsr itself would have to come on the day of the funeral?

AlexaAmbidextra · 31/07/2019 23:49

Well at least the neighbours would be quiet.

saralola · 31/07/2019 23:49

It wouldn't put me off. My friend lived on top of one and it was never an issue for her. I'd also visit her no problem

BettyBooJustDoinTheDoo · 01/08/2019 00:06

I have lived opposite a church graveyard before, one that had not been in use for a hundred or so years, it never bothered me at all however I think if it had been a graveyard that was in use I would not have liked it because although I know I’m going to die at some point I just don’t want to be reminded of my mortality all the time. Recently my dream house came on the market, it was so gorgeous it should have been on a postcard or a box of chocolates, however opposite was a beautiful country house that had become the local hospice, having lost several close family members who spent their last weeks in a hospice I just could not face looking at it whilst I was doing the dishes or making a cup of tea, I know they are wonderful places that do so much good but it was just too much for me. It took forever to sell and sold for much less than it was worth so I do wonder if other people felt the same.

Auldspinster · 01/08/2019 00:11

I used to live next door to a cemetery, didn't bother me in the slightest, even though I could see the watchtower from my bedroom window.

Aroundnabout1 · 01/08/2019 00:48

Id b gutted.

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