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AIBU to fancy a drink while breastfeeding?

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chocolatecravings · 30/07/2019 21:11

We have a wedding coming up which I will be attending for the full day with DH and DS who will be 8 weeks old. I have just got in an argument with DH for suggesting we get a taxi so that I could have a couple of drinks throughout the day thinking that it's a nice day out at our friends wedding. I would obviously not be getting drunk just social drinking slowly throughout the day. He has said that it's ridiculous not to drive and pay for taxi because we will have the pram etc and it would be so much easier to have our own car for the sake of me having a drink. I've taken the huff a bit as I just thought it was a chance to enjoy after the baby but not sure if I'm overreacting and actually maybe it isn't responsible to have more than a drivers amount to drink with a newborn? I suppose maybe I just got annoyed that he presumed without considering I may want to have a drink to relax with friends when out for the first after being pregnant for 9 months... WWYD? AIBU?

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Treaclesweet · 30/07/2019 21:14

It's fine to drink while breastfeeding. He should drive if it matters to him so much!

DappledThings · 30/07/2019 21:18

Exactly what Treaclesweet said

Camomila · 30/07/2019 21:18

Why can't he drive if he thinks it'll be more practical?

As long as you aren't too tipsy to look after the baby (and don't cosleep after) it's fine to drink moderately and breastfeed, only tiny amounts of alchohol go into the breastmilk.

user1493413286 · 30/07/2019 21:19

If he thinks that’s such a fuss then he can drive. There’s nothing wrong with a couple of drinks over a day while breastfeeding.

user1483387154 · 30/07/2019 21:20

yep .... he can drive. enjoy yourself

qj17 · 30/07/2019 21:21

He can drive!

Boxerbinky · 30/07/2019 21:22

What @Camomila said!

Doodleoodleday · 30/07/2019 21:22

He is being very unreasonable! You have earnt a glass of wine or two! If he feels so strongly he should drive

katmarie · 30/07/2019 21:22

Absolutely fine to have a drink or two while breast feeding. The biggest risk is getting falling down drunk and dropping the baby! (Joke) Seriously though, it's fine, you should be able to relax and enjoy yourself too. My only tip is to drink plenty of water, breastfeeding is dehydrating anyway and when you add alcohol in there too it can make you feel more dehydrated still. Other than that, relax, enjoy and tell your DH if it matters that much he can drive.

Original poster
chocolatecravings · 30/07/2019 21:23

Fabulous thank you very much! I never know if I'm overreacting or not nowadays with these hormones so good to hear I'm not being unreasonable!

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Shushandpat · 30/07/2019 21:23

YANBU. I'd be having as much as I wanted to drink, and would invite him to drive if he feels that strongly about it.

ItsAllGoingToBeMagnificent · 30/07/2019 21:25

I’d get him to drive if he thinks you need to take the car, you had to stop drinking for 9 months, it’s your turn to have a few drinks and relax.

raspberryk · 30/07/2019 21:25

He can drive and if he's that bothered could feed expressed milk and be the main carer for the day, just as you've sacrificed 9months plus!

WeShouldOpenABar · 30/07/2019 21:27

Let him drive, and avoid ale! My boobs got huge on a night off on ale and my pump broke oh the agony

RedTrek · 30/07/2019 21:27

The blood in your milk is the same as in your blood. Meaning it's way below 1% even if you actually were extremely drunk. Your milk will not be alcoholic and is perfectly safe for a baby.

The dangers of drinking and breastfeeding are if you get so drunk you fall asleep and accidentally smother the baby. I'm sure you can restrain yourself so you don't get to that point Wink

He can drive if he doesn't want to pay for a taxi. It's definitely your turn!

Oysterbabe · 30/07/2019 21:29

It's fine to drink but is that his main issue? Sounds like he just thinks it'll be easier to have the car than faff with the buggy and car seat in a taxi. Maybe he could drive it.

hammeringinmyhead · 30/07/2019 21:30

He shouldn't presume you will be designated driver. But after so long not drinking I found more than one pint or glass of wine made me quite light-headed, so I wouldn't have bothered with a newborn in a taxi for the sake of my one drink.

AngeloMysterioso · 30/07/2019 21:32

For you breast milk to contain as much alcohol as orange juice you would have to be paralytically drunk. It’s fine.

RedTrek · 30/07/2019 21:33

True, even if he just wants the car for the convenience, I bet you've been designated driver plenty of times during your pregnancy? So still his turn 100%.

I bet he suddenly won't feel as strongly about it when it's the prospect of a dry wedding for him.

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 30/07/2019 21:37

You will be fine to drink if you fancy it

You might not feel like you fancy it though. I love a drink but couldn't face it for the first few weeks - the tiredness and the dehydration from breastfeeding and being paranoid about falling asleep and rolling on the baby etc put paid to that!

RedSheep73 · 30/07/2019 21:54

Tbh, at 8 wks I probably wouldn't. A few months on, yes, you can have a glass just after you've fed them and be pretty confident there won't be much by the time you feed again, but at 8wks you're still feeding quite often and unpredictably. And you might not be able to relax much anyway with a tiny baby at a wedding...

DappledThings · 30/07/2019 21:57

.A few months on, yes, you can have a glass just after you've fed them and be pretty confident there won't be much by the time you feed again, but at 8wks you're still feeding quite often and unpredictably

You can be confident that there's only a trace amount in your milk if you feed while drinking, a few minutes later, an hour later or the next day. It's really fine.

mamansnet · 30/07/2019 22:27

A doctor friend once said to me: when breastfeeding, have a glass, but not a bottle.

He knew me too well.

MRex · 30/07/2019 22:33

Have a few drinks, just not too drunk so one of you can still safely set up the car seat and hold the baby. As others have said, research shows it's safe, you'll be fine.

Depending on where the wedding is, could you get a hotel room and all stay over? It costs as much or more, but makes more of a "holiday" out of it and usually there's then breakfast with the wedding party the next day, a walk etc. Also then you can escape to nap with the baby briefly if you've had a bad night before the wedding.

Original poster
chocolatecravings · 31/07/2019 09:07

Thank you everyone. Looks like I will try and broach the subject again with him :)

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