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Original poster

Lost and found kitten, not coming to collect!

98 replies

fabaga · 30/07/2019 14:29

Long story short, over a week ago we found a sick kitten on our road. Took her in, to the vets, paid for medicines, stuck up posters etc etc.

On Sunday eve I got a message from the owner, who first thing Monday morning sent me proof she is theirs (photos etc). Said she (or he, not sure) is away and their partner would be in touch to arrange collection.

Fast forward to Tuesday and no word from them, chased late last night and was told curtly we need to contact their partner. AIBU that they should be a bit more grateful and also make more of an effort to collect the kitten promptly? Thinking now we should ask them to pay for the vet bill as it feels like they're just using us as a kitten boarding house!

OP posts:
IAskTooManyQuestions · 30/07/2019 15:07

@bingbingnoise - I was replying to another poster ... sigh

LaurieFairyCake · 30/07/2019 15:07

Yeah, they'd have to get past my cold dead body to collect this kitten Hmm

Leaving a sick kitten outside - fuck that

Would be at my house eating fish and cuddling me forever

Gruzinkerbell1 · 30/07/2019 15:07

It’s be a terrible shame if the kitten got out an open window and disappeared again...

verticality · 30/07/2019 15:09

They should have been more polite and overwhelmingly grateful for your help and support! You did a really good thing, OP.

But it sounds like the relationship is perhaps not very good. The partner who is home and who is supposed to be picking the kitten up is the one who is to blame - perhaps they are holding out on the other as a means of exacting some kind of petty revenge (this is the sort of thing my ex would do).

I would also be asking some searching questions about how the cat ended up sick and lost on your road in the first place.

emmac98 · 30/07/2019 15:09

They can't care that much about it if they take this long! If that was me I'd be down straight away! Go on OP keep the little oneGrinWink

Travis1 · 30/07/2019 15:10

I wouldn't be returning the kitten, bare minimum I'd be going to SSPCA reality I'd probably adopt it myself.

Skittlenommer · 30/07/2019 15:10

There is no way I’d be giving this little kitten back to people who failed to keep the floofy child safe in the first place. Can they not live with you! Look into their sad cat eyes and decide! Grin

Oliversmumsarmy · 30/07/2019 15:11

Could the person you are talking to possibly dumped the kitten in revenge for her Stbexp being away

Original poster
fabaga · 30/07/2019 15:16

Thanks everyone! I think if they hadn't come forward we were thinking of keeping it (hence why we paid the bill at the vets and didn't just hand it over) and I'm trying not to let that colour my judgement!

To be fair to them they did say they knew it was sick and had started treatment for it. But I'm surprised it took them this long to see posters/contact me, if it were us would definitely be going house to house looking for it as it's very young and needed treatment!

We are not contacting the partner and will ask for payment if they get back in touch for sure.

OP posts:
Lweji · 30/07/2019 15:17

Could the person you are talking to possibly dumped the kitten in revenge for her Stbexp being away

The opposite. The person the OP is talking to is the one away.
Although, it's possible or even likely that the poor kitten got trapped in the middle of a break up.

ithinkiammelting · 30/07/2019 15:27

Give them 7 days to pay the vet bill and collect the kitten, and tell them if they don't, then you will be contacting the RSPCA.

SavingSpaces2019 · 30/07/2019 15:33

it's obvious they don't care about it's welfare.
just get it micro chipped and registered to your address.

UrsulaPandress · 30/07/2019 15:34

Keep the kitten.

mamansnet · 30/07/2019 15:35

They're probably away on holiday and using you instead of paying for a cattery.

I'd wait for them to contact you and only give the cat back when they pay you for the vet bill.

TwistyTop · 30/07/2019 15:35

7 days is so generous. You've already had the kitten for a while, they are being bloody ridiculous. I'd give them only 24 hours, plus they'd have to pay the vet bill before I'd give the kitten back. But then I'm kitten crazy...

Matildalamp · 30/07/2019 15:37

Absolutely definitely pretend the poor puss got out and is lost again. Then keep her and give her the home she deserves!

MashedSpud · 30/07/2019 15:37

Keep the kitten.

The other people obviously don’t care if they let a sick, young cat out. Their lack of interest and communication speaks volumes.

If that was my cat I’d have been round your house thanking you and paying the bill ASAP.

YoTheGinPussy · 30/07/2019 15:39

UABVVVVU not to let us see a photo of the kitten.

MsJRMEsq · 30/07/2019 15:40

I wonder if they can't afford the bill?

PookieDo · 30/07/2019 15:45

OP was it chipped?

If not then they are lying to you I think anyway

MushySeas · 30/07/2019 15:45

Ask for payment before you release the kitten to them (is that kittennapping? Not sure) and I'd bet you don't hear from them again.

Or, if you really want to keep it, offer them £50 or whatever it's worth (breed dependent I suppose) then it's legally all yours!

MushySeas · 30/07/2019 15:46

And photo.

Please.

MitziK · 30/07/2019 15:47

Bet the partner abandoned the kitten because it was going to cost money and now he's insisting that he wants a dog or something/saying you're bound to expect reimbursement.

That kitten would suddenly take a turn for the worse and die - only to be miraculously reincarnated as a completely different animal that happens to look exactly like the original - if I'd found it. Or the vet had contacted the RSPCA and they'd have asked me for the owner's details, which they wouldn't mind me passing on, would they?

What's YOUR kitten's name?

SunshineCake · 30/07/2019 15:54

Don't be ridiculous. Don't offer them money for the kitten. You paid the vet bill that's enough.

WeetchysWifex · 30/07/2019 16:04

I would personally ask them to collect immediately with full payment of the vet bill.
Or you'll re home! They don't seem to be in a hurry to collect the kitten. Sounds like the kitten is better off in your care or re homed! X