To not want 15 yr old to use purple permanent hair dye!

[tigwig76]

She's bought a Colourista hair dye today for darker hair apparently. I've warned her that once it's done it's done etc but typically she knows best. Her hair is fairly dark brown. She's used semi permanent dyes before and even they have stuck to her hair in the past. Plus school in Sep wont allow it if its obviously bright. If I forbid it I'll be even more in bad books than I normally am. Aibu to say no?

Yes, I think so. Dark purple sounds pretty safe. Maybe help her do it so she doesn’t make a hash of it!

What is your reason for saying no?

You can say no, she will probably just do it anyway. At 15 does she not have a right to say how she wants her hair? Can always be dyed our before school starts again.

My 15 year old currently has pink hair. I made then wait till the end of term and will worry about school at the end of the holidays.

In our case they would probably have done it anyway.

Worse things happen .

One of mine did her hair purple around that age- darkish hair so wasn’t too bright. I think it’s what you do at that age- can always dye over it? I’d help so she doesn’t make a mess of it.
But I get that others might say no and it’s not unreasonable.

Is she willing to dye it back to more natural colour before school restarts? Or , if not to costly for you, maybe comprise and take her to get her hair done at the hairdressers for a more subtle purple colour. As PP at 15 I would have probably gone against my mothers word and just done it anyway

Even if it says it's permanent it'll still fade and wash out. There's a good chance it will be barely noticeable by September and if necessary what's left can be easily covered.

YABU. It's her hair and she's 15. She can always tone it down before school starts off or hasn't faded out by then.

Is it the violet? I used this on fairly dark brown- it has some bleach in it so will brighten up a fair bit. It fades to a red quite quickly and comes off on towels weeks later still after washing. My roots showed through quite quickly so I've now coloured over it with no problem with a dark brown.

Yabu , there's nothing wrong with a 15 year old using hair dye. And she probably does know best. I knew at 15, ( I'm 27 now), that I looked better with hair dye and my mum disagreed. I felt a lot more confident and what on Earth reason was there to say no

She'll do it a more drastic colour if you say no. If she's anything like me she'll blame you anyway. Let her do it. You let her damage her hair. Don't let her do it. A spoil sport. And she'll do it eventually anyway...and learn the hard way.

Yabu.

Both my daughters have dyed their hair this holidays. 14yo pink all over semi permanent and 11 yo just the bottom 4inches dark purple permanent but we can cut that off at the end of the holiday. It’s the thing to do for teens and you can’t say no to everything so sometimes even if it’s not what you would like you do have to let them learn from Their own mistakes! For example you could tell her she needs to pay for any corrective action at the end of the holidays with her own pocket money.

As long as she agrees to use ColourB4 or similar a week before she’s due back to school I wouldn’t be bothered.

Yabu she's the perfect age to dye it a fun colour and september is ages away, just let her do it. Unnatural colours are never properly permanent anyway

It's her hair, it's the start of the summer holidays and this is the age to experiment with colours. There's nothing that can't be rectified.

Whatever you do help her with It! I had a fun afternoon repainting white doors and scrubbing the bathroom with bleach after Dd and a pink hair dye catastrophe 😒

Does nobody remember the frantic posts on MN last August when some hair dyes couldn't be removed or dyed over before school???

It’s summer holidays so let her. My DD had bright purple hair the summer she was 13 and then went back to school with boho blonde. (She naturally dark brown). Nowadays she’ll sometimes dye her hair black. That’s the age to experiment to be honest.

Agree with PPs, this is the perfect time for her to have a bit of fun with her hair, then back to sensible in September.

If she is anything like I was she will do it anyway. Bottom line is her body her choice.

Is it this one?

www.superdrug.com/Colorista/L%27Oreal-Colorista-Dark-Purple-Permanent-Gel-Hair-Dye/p/780166

if so, it's hardly extreme is it?

You could say No , OP, but as PPs have said she will likely do it anyway
I was once told no black hair dye , about your DDs age , and went ahead and bought it anyway.

If its what GibbonLover posted I think its lovely Its a dark deep purple rather than some bright purple.

DD has OCD, regularly dyes her hair but needs to shower and shampoo and scrub every day. Permanent dye doesn’t last long against such excessive cleanliness, so you could encourage that!
I’d let her, with the proviso being she may need to dye her hair normal before term starts. It’s a fun form of self-expression.