To not want 15 yr old to use purple permanent hair dye!

[tigwig76]

She's bought a Colourista hair dye today for darker hair apparently. I've warned her that once it's done it's done etc but typically she knows best. Her hair is fairly dark brown. She's used semi permanent dyes before and even they have stuck to her hair in the past. Plus school in Sep wont allow it if its obviously bright. If I forbid it I'll be even more in bad books than I normally am. Aibu to say no?

Dd is doing an ombre purple on her hair this week - with my full permission, in fact I may have suggested it! She's 13, and if she doesn't mess about with silly hair as a teenager, there won't be any embarrassing photos to blackmail her with when I need my care fees paid for...
However, we did negotiate that if the colour is still strong (very unlikely!) she'll just cut that bit off before school starts.

I spent the week before going back to school scrubbing ds hair to remove the blue & pillarbox red dye that was supposed to only be semi permanent from his blonde hair, a year on because he has long hair you can still see it despite using dye stripper, washing up liquid & bicarb. Let them use wash out dyes because otherwise you probably will have to spend a week like I did .

I dyed my hair purple 2 years ago...its still recovering.

My roots grew, but dying it brown did not cover the purple. A colour remover made me literally the girl with 5 colours in her hair. Red, ginger brown, natural and still damn purple.

Hairdresser had to dye it a brown "2 up from black".

Went back a few weeks later and got blond highlights to lighten it up...

Purple is high maintenance.

Removing purple is tricky. Think it's the red in it. If her hair is in reasonable condition, and she is prepared to damage it with strippers to remove the purple, leave her to it.

Yabu, agree with everyone else and in my experience it won't be purple for long either.

Heck my 15 year old dd2 has different coloured hair every few weeks (currently her dark brown hair is bleached then dyed bright pink). I decided long ago, when I realised the school didn't mind, that hair colour was not something I'd make a fuss about. Much better to be focusing on her homework and relationships. Hair is hair. It'll grow out!

I used the pink colorista on blonde hair. It faded into peachy orange that there’s still bits of in my hair 3 months later despite two lots of salon bleach and tone since then. It also completely wrecked my hair with bits snapping off from the root. I have to intensely condition it now which was never something I’ve had to do before. Never had a problem with any colour before, just this one from Colorista.

Colorista is either the dark purple permanent (which fades esp the purple element) or the temp colour (which washes out stupidly fast)
Ahhh YABU

YABU, what kind of message does it send for you to forbid her at 15? Her body, her choice.
And likewise her problem when it comes to getting it out or over-dyeing in September, explain all this and let her have fun

I'd just let her get on with whatever crazy hair thing she fancies in the moment. It's all part of the fun of being young.

Just make it clear to her that she is responsible for making sure that she's compliant with school rules when she goes back in September, and if she isn't that you will support the school in punishing her. Give her that trust and the opportunity to be responsible.

Eh, YABU I think. She's 15, so in 3 years, legally an adult. Do you really want this to be the hill you die on? Let her have fun with her hair, and at the same time you're teaching her that her body belongs to her.

What purple did you use @nikkylou? I'm yet to find one with staying power. All professional ranges I've used fade to red within a few weeks.

OP, I probably would discourage from going down the permanent dye route, if only because it unnecessary to get a decent purple. Osmo Intense conditioning colour cream and Revlon Colour Bomb both have nice, gentle purple shades with decent enough staying power and no peroxide and they're gentle enough to use as often as required to keep the colour looking fresh. I use them between semi permant colours to refresh my colour. If I didn't have
strands of grey I would use them instead of demis.

shes 15, i think shes old enough to make choices about her own hair, and if there are consequences at school shes also old enough to own them if they occur.
my daughter is 11 and has wanted to dye her hair from its natural colour for the past couple of years. i let her do it and shes very very happy and no regrets for it. i think YABU.

I wouldn't let her do it at home (due to staining the bathroom) but if she wants to then let her, she is old enough to dye it back for when school goes back.

Interesting! Thanks for answers seems I should just let her then! 😄😄
It is that dye that someone linked to yes. I've no issue with the colour at all it's the permanent I'm concerned about as I suspect it will not turn out like the colour on the box then she'll be stuck in the cycle of forever dyeing hair. No way would I use colour b4 either that stuff makes your hair terrible colours!

I’d help her so at least it’s done properly, with the proviso that it gets dyed back to something approaching its original colour before school starts.

It's not actually permanent though is it? Hair grows :) I had all kinds of crazy colours when I was younger, and I never worried about the roots showing, so didn't get stuck in any cycle. It will be fine.

ColourB4 doesn't make your hair weird colours. It doesn't add or remove any natural pigment. It does nothing more than shrink the artificial colour molecules so they can be rinsed from the hair. The colour change beneath the artificial colour is caused by the peroxide you mix with the colour which is why I would always advise against using peroxide unless necessary and for that shade of purple it is not necessary.

In advance if her doing it get her to agree that she should go back to a colour school will accept before she starts back. Otherwise she should go for it. I dyed my son's hair orange when he wanted it - if this is the extent of the "rebel" phase tben great!

I think at this age you need to pick your battles. In the grand scheme of things having purple hair isn’t a biggie.