AIBU to let DS get his ear pierced

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He brought this up a while ago, but he’s asking again. DH and I are ok with the idea but we are not sure because he would be the only boy in the school with them done. Is it too chavvy?
DS is 16

At 16 he make his own decision and live with the consequences!

He’s 16. If he wants , let him

At 16, I'd probably let him make the decision, though I wouldn't be happy.

At 16 cant he do it himself regardless of what you think?

Old enough to choose for himself, to look after it himself, and to deal with any consequences at school.
I'd let him, he can always take it out and let it heal if it turns out to have been a bad idea.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. I’d rather him be considering an earring than a piercing at that age too!

Tattoo even

Mine had his done at 13. As I’d allowed his sister to have it done, I felt I couldn’t say no to him.

He went through a phase of wearing shocking blingy earrings, but we basically just let him get on with it. He’s 25 now and hasn’t worn one for years.

At 16 you probably can't stop,him.

And it's better done at the start of the summer holidays (as he'll probably need to take them out for sports training and PE lessons on the autumn).

He's old enough to anticipate and deal with the consequences with his peer group at school.

If you wouldn't stop a daughter getting it done then it isn't really on to stop him (can't quite believe a 16 year old wouldn't just do it anyway, your DS must be better behaved than I was as a teen!)

Nope YANBU- let him have it done. I personally think that it's ok for a child to have pierced ears once they are mature enough to ask to have them pierced themselves & understand it'll hurt, the piercing will require antiseptic cleaning which can be uncomfortable, etc.

Ha! I thought you were going to say he was 7!

Of course a 16 year old can, why would he require you to allow him?

I did my DSs for him last week. Hes 11.
DD1 had hers done a couple of years ago and DD2 was getting hers done this holiday. His Dad has it done and he likes it. I told him he'll likely be the only boy with it done. He didnt mind and he can always take it out if he gets sick of it.

An earring is a piercing.

he is 16, so probably can get his own. I wonder if you would be having the same dilemma if it was a DD asking the same thing.

last year DS, who was 10 then, wanted one earring. All the lads in his class had them and it’s not chavy BTW, it’s a nice white middle-class school. He had it done at the start of the holidays but took it out a few months later because he didn’t want it any more. i’m not bothered either way. If it was a girl nobody would bat an eyelid.

Told three DS no tattoos, no motor bikes, so they asked about piercings, fine I said. They were shocked. I knew the holes would heal once they tired of it.

JagerPlease

Haha same! We used to just pierce each other, ears, lips, whatever we could get an earing through. At that was waaaay before the age of 16!

At 16, his ear, his decision. I’d tell him you’re okay with him having it done but ask that he goes to somewhere reputable which will do it properly rather than have him go to some cheap place behind your back which will just do it with a gun.

And piercings are becoming far more mainstream for young men. I wouldn’t worry about him looking out of place.

It's totally chavvy but his decision. He's old enough to decide.

I let both my boys when they asked ds1 at 12 ds2 at 9 - if you would let a girl you should let a boy.. Ds1 is now 21 and hasn't worn his for years and years, ds2 is 17 and still wears his. They attend(ed) very mc c of e primary and secondary schools and weren't out of place.

He's 16, it's his body. If he changes his mind he can always take it out.

Ear piercing no problem. If he changes his mind he can just take it out!

His choice (wouldn’t be mine)

Let him?

Why is he even asking? Why are you asking?

Of course it's fine. He doesn't need permission.

Ear piercing ok if he gets it done at a proper piercing studio, but be careful he doesn't go down the route of those horrible spacers, even the small ones to start with. My niece had a bf with them and had to get surgery to fix his ears when he grew out of them.