AIBU to wish that next doors kids would stop screaming.

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They were screaming and running up and down stairs until 12.50am this morning. Then got up at about midday, then started screaming again. The dad screams at the mum, the mum screams at the kids, then the kids scream at each other.

I get that kids make noise, they play and shout and I have no issue with that. I have 3 kids, now more or less grown up, so do understand that children make noise. But screaming at each other until nearly 1 in the morning is a bit much when your next door neighbour is trying to sleep, at a normal sleeping time.

It’s not hard to teach your children to be respectful to other people, which includes not screaming all the time! Sadly that family sounds like an absolute nightmare who don’t discipline or know how to be decent humans.

Make a noise complaint to the council. A strongly worded letter should help shut them up.

I thought this was going to be about me.

Trust me I do try to stop them screaming and yelling but we are just getting no where. My life is shit.

I agree that noise at 1am is BU but they probably do know how to be 'decent human beings' thanks for that maybe they are just a family who are really struggling.

It was 1.30 am before they stopped last night. We do not have this problem during school time, so I am at a loss as to why it happens now, during the holidays.

How old are the children? Does it happen all the time or have they just lost the plot with the heat? Mine are going to bed much later at the moment (although not up screaming past midnight!!)

You are going to have to bite the bullet and tell them screaming children after 10pm is not on. Give them a chance to rectify

If it continued they would be getting some Hardstyle at full volume pointed at their walls at 6am

So their children are up till past midnight and don’t seem to wake up until midday? How old are they? Seems like an unhealthy pattern, do the parents not work?

The dad works, I'm not sure at what. The children are less than high school age, but the eldest will go to high school this September. DH is a musician, so we could do a 500 watt amp/speaker through the wall, with my preference, Meatloaf, but I would like not to do this as not productive to a reasonable relationship.

DH doesn't play music after 7pm at any time, and never with an amp or speaker at home.

They don't sound very decent to me, I feel for you Op.

YANBU. This is why we moved to a detached house.

I know how you feel. We have new neighbours that moved in recently. They have 2 children of around 10 ish and they play in the garden til the early hours of the morning, shouting, screaming. The mum also sits making calls all day/night on speaker phone but shouts like she is arguing with the other person. They have kept me awake every night since they moved in.
I also have a toddler so am fully aware that kids make noise, but there's no need for them to all be shouting at eachother/down the phone constantly.
Getting in my car the other morning to go to work, I noticed their curtains still closed, and remembered it was school holidays. I had the biggest urge to beep the horn for a few mins and wake them all up. I didn't. But only cos I'm due twins in a few weeks and can get them back with 2 crying babies.

The holidays can be stressful, bedtime and morning routine go out the window.
Mine are all out of sorts and possibly loud, they obviously have a good routine during school, I wouldn't go as far as thinking they are not decent.
There may be SN too, my boy jumps on the spot, and shouts most days, he has a meltdown most days leaving the house.
Have a quick word with the family, they sounds like a pp mentioned they may be having some issues.
Even lack of money can make the holidays a nightmare.

The 500 watt amp is not such a bad idea, actually. I did something like that, with some awful cheesy music, to a neighbour who worked weird hours and who liked to blast heavy metal through the wall every Sunday from morning to mid-afternoon. When his music went off. mine went on for two hours. Worked like a charm: he never did it again.

I spoke, and there are no SN. I said that we work all year, including through the school holidays and need to sleep at reasonable hours. They will "try" to get the kids to stop shouting, but we will see.

Our neighbours kids, the kids from the house the other side of them, and the kids from the house across the road (about 10 kids total between the ages of 1 and 10) like to scream through our kitchen window (I won’t let my kids play out in the street with them)

Sorry, mine wasn’t a helpful comment but I can sympathise! Also following for any good advice on how to deal with them.

I love it when people say they'll 'try'.

Well their response wasn't very helpful, I'd be mortified if a neighbour had to spell it out for me.
They are not babies, they should understand, they may have thought you couldn't hear them, now they know they'll need to make the effort to change.
Strictly no shouting or playing games after 9pm here over the holidays, they can have some screen time after 9pm.

I lived next to someone like this before. I got up at 4 and screamed the house down 3 days in a row. Served the fuckers right.

I think it would cause me to move house (if that was possible). I hate that sort of thing.

Usual advice to this is that you do a noisy activity (hoovering, mowing lawn, etc) early the next day when they're sleeping in. Or else take your kids into the garden for noisy play.

FFS. It's now 12.15am and the dad is arguing with the kids about going to bed. Last night was OK, they were quiet from about 11pm. Which was fine.

I get the holiday disruption nuisance, I have 3 grown up DC's, and have been through all that. But, they were never allowed to stomp up and down stairs at this time of night.

If you wake earlier and have no plans, blast the sound system over the noise of the running vacuum, also cut the grass.
It sounds like torture OP.
The noise limit is cut off in this house for 21.30 any shouting or bouncing on stairs after is punishable.
You've already spoke to them, now time for 7am noisy action.

You have my sympathy. My rule is no outside at after 9pm. No outside play before 9am and quiet the house after 10pm. It's not that hard.

You must have our old neighbours! Saying that, I don't know if it's me, but it seems to have be ome much more acceptable for kids to scream and shout. Wherever I go where there are kids, all here is loud screaming, shouting and fighting. Kids are kids, but they used to be told off for being loud and annoying.

The other day, I was in the local swimming pool changing room showers and two kids were screaming at the top of their lungs to the point it made my heart rate spped up. I came out, their mum was right next to them and oblivious to it. I asked her why she was letting them shout like this, she responded that kids were kids and if I don't like it, I shouldn't be going to the swimming pool. Clearly normal behaviour in her world!

Well, tonight it seems to have stopped at 9.30pm. There is still a lot of thumping up and down stairs, but no screaming. They were out playing in the street shouting until 9.30pm though.

When my DC's were kids, the rule was, you have to come home and be quiet when the streetlights come on.