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AIBU?

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AIBU to wish that next doors kids would stop screaming.

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ModreB · 29/07/2019 20:16

They were screaming and running up and down stairs until 12.50am this morning. Then got up at about midday, then started screaming again. The dad screams at the mum, the mum screams at the kids, then the kids scream at each other.

I get that kids make noise, they play and shout and I have no issue with that. I have 3 kids, now more or less grown up, so do understand that children make noise. But screaming at each other until nearly 1 in the morning is a bit much when your next door neighbour is trying to sleep, at a normal sleeping time.

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ModreB · 09/08/2019 02:31

Well, here we are. It's Thursday night/Friday morning at 2.20am and they are still running up and down stairs shouting and screaming. DH and I are away for the weekend, but need to be on the road for about 9am.

Dad is shouting at kids, kids are shouting at each other, Mum is shouting at someone, I'm not sure who.

FFS I feel like going around and saying, "You know we look like a middle aged couple who are pushovers, right. But we could have a full Alice Cooper style concert in the garden, this weekend, with no effort at all"

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NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 09/08/2019 08:23

Totally baffled by people like this. Im a 34 year old and i'm never up at 2.20am, children absolutely do not need to be. Dont the parents (At least one of them) have work to get up for in the morning? This is not hot mediterranean country where the night is the only time cool enough to be out and about . Complain to the council.

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ModreB · 14/08/2019 02:23

Well, here we go again. It's 2.20am and they are all up, shouting at each other. I will contact the HA in the morning as this is enough.

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feistymumma · 14/08/2019 06:31

Sorry you are going through this, we moved because of a family like this. I ended up getting so stressed by it and calling the council each time they made noise which was every day. The children would be screaming upstairs, their dad playing loud music downstairs - it was awful. Call the council every single time they are noisy. Hope the situation imoroves.

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 14/08/2019 06:43

My mother has neighbours like yours.

I dread visiting.,

Apolloanddaphne · 14/08/2019 06:46

That sounds like a nightmare. They obviously cannot/will not control their children.

PhilCornwall1 · 14/08/2019 06:47

@ModreB You mentioned HA, if so, put in an ASB complaint and not just a noise complaint, there is a distinct difference. If they are making this much noise, they are in breach of their tenancy.

House behind ours is owned by an HA and the people in there were a nightmare, a total nightmare, until they were evicted. I had a lot to do with that being done and I feel no remorse whatsoever.

BiBiBirdie · 14/08/2019 06:57

If I heard that at that time of night, I would be phoning the Police.
We had it with our neighbours a couple of years back, and I phoned 101, they sent Police round who gave them a stern talking to, and that soon shut them up.
Otherwise I'd phone social services and report a concern for welfare.

MsTSwift · 14/08/2019 06:59

Keep a detailed noise log. Complain all the time. That is totally unacceptable. Sympathy.

I detest loud families. You can be in a beauty spot 10 or so normal families with kids playing. Then LOUD family arrive and don’t we all know it. And before I am jumped on it’s not a SN thing in these families it is always the parents who are at fault being loud themselves. We were at a peaceful spot by a river for a swim recently. Quite a few kids pootling nicely. Then one of these families arrive. “ESME” yelledby mum every 2 minutes. Esme was playing nicely and was quiet herself.

LatteLove · 14/08/2019 07:03

That’s ridiculous. I know kids can be a pain in the arse in the holidays (mine was moaning at midnight the other day that he couldn’t get on the WiFi, wtf) but there’s no excuse for that kind of behaviour. They need to step up and actually parent their kids!

BossAssBitch · 14/08/2019 07:07

They will ‘try’? Fuck that, they need to sort their feral kids out

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 14/08/2019 07:39

It’s time to get complaining, OP.

I’d worry about the children, this is not healthy parenting.

HaveIGoneMad · 14/08/2019 11:40

Kids should not be up regularly at gone 2am that is shocking. I'd be very concerned for those children, I understand kids making noise (my eldest have 1 volume and endless energy as much as we do try to keep her quiet in the morning and evening) but never past 9pm latest (bedtime for us is 8pm max but if these kids are a bit older then 9pm seems reasonable). As for the parents screaming at each other that doesn't sound like a healthy environment either, it's not a rare occurance clearly. I think I would definatley be calling the HA and also thinking about a call to SS if it's happening very regularly.

MatildaTheCat · 14/08/2019 11:47

We have new neighbours next door but one who have a child who seems to only ever shout. It’s driving me nuts but your situation has put that firmly into context.

Definitely complain. If the parents are trying to get the kids to bed, albeit inefficiently, perhaps it would help if you knocked on the door and looked very angry indeed. Obviously only you know if that would be risky. Kids are often much more receptive to an outsider’s wrath than their own parents.

But 100% complain to the HA.

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ModreB · 20/08/2019 21:36

So, last night they were shouting until nearly 3am. Tonight, they have just started shouting.

It's not just 1 child having a meltdown, It's 3 children of school age and a baby of about 18 months. Charging and banging up and down stairs, arguing, high pitched screaming (from the younger girl), Dad shouting, Mum shouting.

The thing is, they don't seem to do anything in the day. I remember with my 3 DS's, going to as many free activities as possible, to just wear them out, so that they slept at a reasonable time.

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MsTSwift · 20/08/2019 21:50

Maybe they don’t work and sleep all day so they are able to gave the nighttime energy to disturb decent folk? We had neighbours like that once. It is very hard not to think Bad Thoughts. We thought we were quite left wing until we lived next door to a particular family with this lifestyle for 2 years.

LordProfFekkoThePenguinPhD · 20/08/2019 21:55

Loud radio (hmmmm classic or planet rock?) from 8am. That’s not unreasonable is it (unless you were up yelling until 2am).

Hoover
Cut the grass
Bagpipe practice in the garden, etc

Weezol · 20/08/2019 22:01

Get on to the HA first thing. You have a record of sorts on this thread so you can give a number of examples as evidence. They aren't going to change so you need to start complaining to the HA every single time.

flyingspaghettimonster · 21/08/2019 00:26

You could call the police and say someone is screaming next door and you are concerned. The knock at the door might make them realise how loud they are

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