To think I'm about to be stood up

[Pinespow]

First date with guy tonight. Been speaking non stop on the phone for the last few weeks. He's text me all day saying how excited he is. I finished work an hour ago said I was going home to nap and to let me know when he was ready... 1 hour 20 later no response 😭

We said around "6ish" - I'm usually quite laid back about things so there's my wording.

I'm being stood up aren't I

Have you tried messaging him? Maybe he thinks you're still asleep.

He’s assuming you’re still napping: one hour ago you were going for a nap, he didn’t want to wake you.

(Or he’s a bit about adults who need to nap after a day’s work. Or am I projecting )

Just text him. If he’s that excited he won’t care you’ve text twice and if he stands you up then at least you know quicker and he wasn’t worth it in the first place

Have you messaged to tell him you’re awake?

Hang on, you went home at about 5 for nap, when you had a date at 6?

Phone him up.

I don’t know.... what are you supposed to be doing? Seems a bit weird that you haven’t specified an exact time and place to meet rather than leaving it to the last minute.

If I were him I’d wonder why you were going for a nap an hour before you’re supposed to meet him, doesn’t leave you much time to get ready? He might have taken that as a hint you weren’t interested.

Text or call and ask what the plan is. What’s the worst that can happen?

Ahh he just text saying let me know when you wake up...

Hang on, you went home at about 5 for nap, when you had a date at 6?

Yeah, makes no sense, does it? I’d guess he’s as as I am

So you finished work at 5, and were going to have a nap and get ready within an hour? Okaaaaaaaaaay that's not weird at all.

He probably thinks you're not bothered.

Text him! Let him know you're still interested because if I was going on a date with a guy and he needed to nap before I'd assume he wasn't that interested to meet me.

Were you planning an extremely long night OP? Given the need for a disco nap.

This is a tough one and I didn't really know what to say but just send him a text asking if he is ready and you will know your answer. There may be a reasonable explanation but knowing guys and what they are like, I don't blame you for worrying a bit!

I would text him. Give him an hour and then move on to the next. Don't get hung up on it, plenty more fish an all that!

If my date told me at 5 that they were going home to nap when we had a date planned for 6, I'd stand them up too.

Shortest thread ever

Ah cross post. Hope it goes well for you

If a date was planned for 6 and you announced at 5 you were off for a nap, I would think that was your way of saying you weren’t interested.

Just had a google for the phrase ‘disco nap’ and I love it!

lol, I have sneaky naps all the time but don't admit that to anyone in real life. I kind of admire your honesty. I'd think he was just waiting for you to wake up/perhaps unsure what to do given that you might be asleep!

I'm also a bit thrown by this. At 5.20. With a date at six. You text your date to say you're going home for a nap?

Honestly that's just odd. He's likely thinking wtf. 😂

Yeah leaving work at 5, going home for a nap when you planned to meet at 6, I would assume you werent that bothered.

I see he has text you now.

Honestly, maybe you need to chill a bit.

Have a good time though.

Have a lovely time!