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To have found this bloody attention seeking?

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QuestionableMouse · 29/07/2019 00:23

Have a new starter at work on a trial. She's a very hippy type and has been training with me all shift.

Asked her to do a simple job and she took ages doing it. It literally takes two minutes to do generally (open box of sauces, empty into tub, put box with remaining sauces away). I asked what was taking so long and she replied 'I have CDO. That's OCD to you but the letters are alphabetical order,.like they should be.'

Ugh. Is it just me or is that the most attention seeking thing ever?

She didn't include anything about OCD on her application which makes me think it hasn't been formally diagnosed. (Have a friend with actual OCD who has rituals he needs to do so I'm familiar with it.)

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73Sunglasslover · 29/07/2019 00:25

Maybe she was joking? Some people are a bit slow doing things.

MrsTerryPratchett · 29/07/2019 00:27

'I have CDO. That's OCD to you but the letters are alphabetical order,.like they should be.'

Sounds like someone trying to be clever and funny and missing the mark. Rather than someone with actual OCD. I would find out because if she doesn't have OCD, she really shouldn't be saying she does as a joke in the workplace.

steff13 · 29/07/2019 00:29

I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression, but I've never put it on a job application. What took her so long? Was she stacking the sauces rather than just dumping them in the tub?

WorraLiberty · 29/07/2019 00:29

The CDO thing is from a meme that's been doing the round on FB for a few months.

She probably just thought it sounded like a good comeback .

WorraLiberty · 29/07/2019 00:30

Would she have to mention OCD on an application anyway, if she actually does have it?

FreddiesMammy · 29/07/2019 00:30

I think she was just joking

Dumbledorker · 29/07/2019 00:35

Shes a very hippy type ? In comparison to What other "types" do you employ? Asking what is taking so long. Why not ask if everything is ok? Less passive aggressive and less likely to get a sarcastic response. New employees are likely to be slow at alot of tasks to begin with. Approach non judgementally and dont assume shit

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QuestionableMouse · 29/07/2019 00:57

@WorraLiberty the company asks for stuff like that to be mentioned because it can affect what stations you can work and also means extra support can be put in place if needed. (We have a lad with Downs who works on our dining area for example, who would never be asked to work in kitchen because it wouldn't be fair to him.)

I'm fairly sure she wasn't joking. She said it very straight faced.

@Dumbledorker well mostly non hippy types, to be honest. It's bloody hard work at times and you can't have your head in the clouds (like she does). I'm not sure where you get I'm assuming shit from but FYI I wasn't passive aggressive to her at all. I'd asked her to fill the sauces and then go back to getting orders. You don't have time to piss around when you have a screen full of orders plus some pending and a queue out of the door.

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Bertieandernie · 29/07/2019 01:00

Such an old and original comeback from her Hmm

PyongyangKipperbang · 29/07/2019 01:00

Would she have to mention OCD on an application anyway, if she actually does have it?

No but she should once she has a job offer in order to make sure that she gets the support she needs. I have a staff member with OCD. She is great at her job in general but there are certain tasks she struggles with due to her issues, so I make sure that she never has to do them. They are not life or death, and it makes a shift run much easier for everyone if she doesnt have to have deal with it. Its not so bad that it would be classed as a disability, so a protected characteristic, but I still make reasonable adjustments for her.

Also, sounds like the OP works in hospitality as I do and frankly if someone has a genuine issue then we work with and around it, but if they are attention seeking snowflakes then we just dont have the fucking time.

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QuestionableMouse · 29/07/2019 01:09

Yep exactly!

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ReanimatedSGB · 29/07/2019 01:09

She sounds like a lazy, whiny twat who will have a million excuses as to why she can't do her work. At least half of them will involve some reason why she's 'special' and therefore can't do any work she doesn't want to do, and why she shouldn't have to treat other staff with any courtesy. If she's on trial, you can get rid without any need for an explanation - get rid before the end of the trial period.

Jojobears · 29/07/2019 01:12

You work in McDs or somewhere similar? Honestly, it’s a horrible job sometimes. Staff seem to get treated like shit.

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QuestionableMouse · 29/07/2019 01:19

Yes, somewhere like that. Can honestly say I've never seen any staff treated badly where I work. We have a new fantastic business manager and she is really keen on treating people with respect.

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NeckPainChairSearch · 29/07/2019 01:29

She sounds like a lazy, whiny twat who will have a million excuses as to why she can't do her work

Nothing like a ridiculously sweeping judgment based on pretty much fuck all, eh?

ReanimatedSGB · 29/07/2019 01:41

Er, based on what the OP said.

Yes, a lot of jobs are crap and a lot of employers exploitative, But there are also some people who aren't just useless and lazy but who also want to make life harder for their collegues.

Durgasarrow · 29/07/2019 01:42

I'm going with lazy, whiny twat.

PyongyangKipperbang · 29/07/2019 01:44

Well I agree that she sounds like a whiny lazy twat and thats based on experience.

You get it a lot in this line of work. 18 year olds who think that waitressing is a nice easy job (after all, bringing a bit of dinner on a plate, how hard can it be?!) and get the shock of their bloody lives when they realise that the tables dont set themselves, that the fairies dont clear down overnight and leave it nice and ready for the morning, that not all customers are nice and friendly, that you dont in fact make £100 a night in tips, that you are knackered with sore feet at the end of every shift and that you cant just stand around messaging your mates between slinging the odd plate.

These rarely make it through the trial and of the ones that do, they dont finish the first month. I have had staff who's parents have come in and sit in the bar during their kids shift and question me when I have dared to instruct them to do something.

Generation Snowflake is a thing and its the parents who are to blame.

helpmeiamatoad · 29/07/2019 01:44

She’s on a trial. Just tell her you don’t think it’ll work out. Really not a big deal.

NeckPainChairSearch · 29/07/2019 01:50

Er, based on what the OP said

The OP just mentioned one sentence that this colleague said. Confused

Well, several posters so far are happy to write someone off as 'a whiny lazy twat' so obviously I'm in the minority of people who don't leap to conclusions based on pretty much fuck all, but there we go, I suppose.

tararabumdeay · 29/07/2019 01:54

One of my happiest/hippest students could do just about anything one day but the next her seizures were more frequent. Her confidence suffered.

In twenty years, I hope when she's settled with her meds and difficulties, she'll be better off than any brown sauce filling jobs' worth.

VenusTiger · 29/07/2019 02:38

Careful she’s not pretending to have ocd in order to use it as a comeback if you do get rid during trial

Rachelover40 · 29/07/2019 02:50

Her remark about CDO was clearly a joke.

She's new to the job so it will take her longer than you to do a task.
Sounds like a really interesting, fulfilling job that will stretch her abilities (hmm).

Rachelover40 · 29/07/2019 03:02

I meant Hmm

Ragwort · 29/07/2019 03:03

Typical patronising remarks about working in the hospitality industry.

People are quick to complain when they don’t get good customer service themselves, so why not accept that perhaps this person is just not suited to working in a busy, customer facing role and let her go after the trial shift. Totally agree with Pyong, too many people seem to think that catering jobs are just ‘so easy’ and actually offering proper customer service is somewhat ‘beneath them’.