Should I send a text

[itsrainingnappies]

Ok so this a bit long so please bear with.

I have had a best fried since school. We will call her Alice. Alice and I also have a mutual friend who was Alice's friend first but also became a friend of mine although never as close as Alice and I. I will call her michelle

Michelle has A DC older than my DC who aren't yet school age. So does seem to have/want more freedom than I do.

Alice is hard to get hold of, no DC busy job social life etc. I always seem to initiate contact and when I do she reply's and we make plans. The last few plans we have had Alice has cancelled for various reasons forgotten it was a birthday, working late you get the picture. I forgave all this because these things happen. I text her arranging to go for a meal and got no response even though she left the last message as she would look and get back to me.

We had a plan to do something together I heard nothing from them in the lead up to this but on the day michelle text but didn't mention our plans. Due to various activities that day I didn't get round to texting back until much later but then got no response back. Michelle then rang a few days later saying they hadn't heard from me so her and Alice had been for a meal instead. I was so upset I made excuses and left the phone call.

I have heard from neither of them since.

This takes me up to now. I saw on Facebook they went out last night, with others who I have met before. Yet again no invite. It hurts so much and I feel really pathetic saying it. Due to young DC I know I don't have the options of being as free and available as they are husband travels with work so it can be difficult. But I would gladly host here or arrange a babysitter if I was invited. It's more hurtful as last year michelle regularly rang and I was a shoulder to cry on as she was really lonely didn't do anything etc etc.

So my question is would IBU to text them both and say how hurtful I find these things? I have typed out and deleted so many texts it's crazy. I want to but at the same time have very little no friends so I don't want to burn the few bridges I have but then make me feel so rubbish.

WTF??? These friends have been out a couple of times and there was confusion over a night when OP thought she was seeing them. That isn't "walk away" territory. Nobody could keep any friends if they place such heavy demands on them. Do some of you want to actually help the OP or do you get some kind of a kick out of trying to make her feel unwanted when that's vanishingly unlikely given that Michelle spoke to her on the Wednesday?

Please don't listen to the nonsense OP. Text your friends and arrange a catch-up, then you can tell them you'd like to see them more. Meantime you to some baby groups and try to make extra friends who are at the same stage as you. Good luck!