To say that people should take a fucking pregnancy test?

[Ffsbitchplease]

Just that really. If you've had sex, there's a chance you may be pregnant

Nobody on the internet can tell you if you're pregnant or not, so AIBU to tell these people to just fuck off and take a pregnancy test?

I think this is a miserable thread. I don't have a problem with people wanting support, about strength of lines or fertile days or whatever.

Don't join in if you don't like those threads.

The best response I saw to one of these was "if you wee on your keyboard the internet will tell you". I have borrowed it on occasions.

Trickyteens
The thing is (speaking from experience) if you're struggling to conceive or are going through fertility issues, it's really emotionally unfair for people to build hopes up.

Sometimes it's worth being a kind voice of reason against a sea of ' Its probably a false negative / it's definitely lines congratulations / people who say it's negative need to go to specsavers / sore boobs was my first BFP symptom'.

More often than not it would be kinder to offer compassion and support with sensible advice to wait until after a missed period before testing.

Unless you've been there I don't think you'll understand.

Been there? I am there. Been trying for a second for over 5 years.

I don't mind the line eye threads. Sometimes tests are weird. And it's least it's something we can actually look at as opposed to 'my boobs hurt' which could just be getting your period. Those are the threads I don't get. No one could possibly tell you if you're pregnant from 'dizzy, sick and boobs are sore'.

Yanbu.

I take the point about infertility can make you obsessed and what to type it out and discuss it. However,if you mentioned you have been struggling to get pregnant, people will give lots of time and wise words.

Most of the 'could I be pregnant,' follow the same pattern. OP not TTC had sex and for some reason thinks their contraception 'failed' or say something like 'we stupidly had unprotected sex around ovulation'. I say 'failed' because there are an unbelievable large amount of women who post in mumsnet that have contraception failures. Far more than actual stats would support.

And who tracks their ovulation days AND has unprotected sex on those days if they dont want a baby?

I think most of the 'could I be pregnant' threads are started by people who are trying to get pregnant, but for whatever reason, dont want to admit that.

I also dont believe the amount of contraception failures claimed on mn. Like people who are taking medication and claim to not know it impacts the pill. Or the really stupid ones where OP says she always forget to take her pill, several days running, all the time and then stay they are shocked their are pregnant.

I'd agree that most of the 'could I be pregnant threads are started by people who want to be pregnant.

Perhaps we could ask for any threads in the wrong place to be moved?

Sorry to hear that @yabbers. I guess we all deal with things differently.

They annoy me too.
It also annoys me when people pee on sticks before their period is even due.
But then I'm old enough to be menopausal thus old enough to a) be grumpy about impatience and b) to have had to wait till I was 3 weeks late and go to the doctor, and by the time I got the results I was being sick all day every day.

@Socksontheradiator I hear you! I wasn't TTC when I got pregnant the first time and I was at least 6/7 weeks by the time I took a test. I had no idea what was wrong with me or where my period was so used a test (like chemistry tests in those days, invoving mixing wee in test tube etc) and by then I was being sick, also all day every day.

I was the same I was 22 on the pill which i took religiously. I went to the drs because I wasnt feeling right I had no idea when my periods were due back then. Needless to say I was shocked when they told me I was pregnant and even more shocked when it turned out I was 11weeks gone. I had no inkling at all.

I think this is a miserable thread. I don't have a problem with people wanting support, about strength of lines or fertile days or whatever.

Agree with this! One of the most patronising threads I have ever read.

Plus no one brings anything new. You're all laughing at the same comments.