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Report husband for reading messages driving on motorway

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freddiemercury · 27/07/2019 17:41

We are driving at 70mph on motorway and husband starts looking at text messages. I asked him to stop as it is dangerous (pissing down with rain making it worse than ever) and we have our two children in the car....not to mention others on the road.
I've told him.if he does it again I will take a photograph and report him.

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IamtheOA · 27/07/2019 17:44

Or, just refuse to put yourself and your children in danger.

Don't drive with him

Melonise · 27/07/2019 17:46

Reporting him is one thing but I'd be inclined to make him pull over at the next opportunity and he can apologise and take the passenger seat or refuse to accept it's wrong and stand in the rain while I drive!

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freddiemercury · 27/07/2019 17:46

Kind of trapped in the car at the moment.... I said it as a threat to stop him.... so far he has...tho has told me I'm a nutter etc...oh joy

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Lizzielocket · 27/07/2019 17:47

Really, you would report your own husband??
I have to remind my DP not to text and drive every now and again, I wouldn’t report him though.

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freddiemercury · 27/07/2019 17:48

Couldn't think of another way to stop him....

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WorraLiberty · 27/07/2019 17:48

Reporting him is one thing but I'd be inclined to make him pull over at the next opportunity and he can apologise and take the passenger seat or refuse to accept it's wrong and stand in the rain while I drive!

And how do you think the OP is going to 'make' him do that, if she can't even make him see sense, regarding texting and driving?

recrudescence · 27/07/2019 17:49

Confiscate his phone until you reach your destination. Say you will read his messages to him.

TooTrueToBeGood · 27/07/2019 17:49

Well you could and technically nothing wrong with that as he is breaking the law. However, this feels like it's creeping into using the police to intervene in a relationship disagreement, rather than you growing a pair and sorting shit out for yourself like an adult.

GruciusMalfoy · 27/07/2019 17:49

YANBU for wanting to say something to stop him. If he makes it a habit I wouldn't be in the car with him driving.

WitsEnding · 27/07/2019 17:50

Take his phone away from him when he's driving. You can text for him if it's really necessary- I can't think why it should be.

EileenAlanna · 27/07/2019 18:11

I'd report him. How many people being killed & maimed in a motorway pile-up caused because he wants to use his phone would he consider reasonable?

HollowTalk · 27/07/2019 18:16

I dread driving on the same road as someone like that.

Can't you read his messages to him?

CatsDolls · 27/07/2019 18:21

How urgent are the messages FGS? Worth losing control of the car and potentially causing a pile up? Or can they wait until he's not driving.

Most likely the latter. Nothing is that important. Or if it IS either you let the passenger check the messages or you find a safe place and pull over to read.

VenusTiger · 27/07/2019 18:26

Tell him to stop teaching his DCs how to drive and text or you’ll be showing the whole family some horrendous footage on YouTube later 😟

mumwon · 27/07/2019 18:27

window open phone exits - actually op you gaged it right - its dangerous to distract him with argument so being blunt with this kind of no nonsense statement will make more impact. However when you get home -let rip! preferably with stats of how dangerous this is! if he needs to read or send text he should stop the car somewhere safe anything else is criminally stupid & dangerous especially with dc in car (let alone you)!

VenusTiger · 27/07/2019 18:30

Oh and also OP, if there was an accident (even if not your DH’s fault), police check mobiles now to see if anyone was reading texts, sending texts etc within time of accident! Insurance void and blame made.

alittlerayofsunshine · 27/07/2019 18:31

@freddiemercury

Bizarre! Confused Why report him? Just tell him to STOP.

My DH would get the sharp end of my tongue if he read text messages when driving. In 20 years of having cellphones/mobile phones, he has never done this. He never even has the phone in the front of the car!! If the phone rings, he waits til the car stops/he is at the destination and then looks at who it was.

Never understood how people can do this anyway tbh, as I find I generally need 2 hands to drive! Confused

thetimekeeper · 27/07/2019 18:33

How often does stuff like this happen? (Including calling you a nutter).

Isatis · 27/07/2019 18:33

Why report him? Just tell him to STOP.

What on earth makes you think OP didn't do this? It's right there in her messages.

LazyDaisey · 27/07/2019 18:36

You’d report him to the police but wouldn’t snatch the phone out of his hand? Or try any other method of stopping him first? Because that just sounds bizarre - like you’re about to file for divorce and you’re trying to get him in as much legal trouble as you can to get full custody or some other personal vendetta. Most people would... you know... exhaust all other options before pushing the nuclear button of police reporting

Karigan195 · 27/07/2019 18:39

Bloody hell. I think I’d do the same. Seriously dangerous

Ringdonna · 27/07/2019 18:40

Go on do it!

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freddiemercury · 27/07/2019 18:40

Ok...so reaching across and grabbing a phone at 70mph, might just be more dangerous...
I asked him to stop obviously...
I offered to read the texts obviously...
The reporting would only happen if he does it again...

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Yabbers · 27/07/2019 18:42

Refuse to get into the car with him ever again.

alittlerayofsunshine · 27/07/2019 18:44

@freddiemercury

Kind of trapped in the car at the moment.... I said it as a threat to stop him.... so far he has...tho has told me I'm a nutter etc...oh joy

Oh sorry, I see you told him to stop.

He sounds like a real catch... calling his wife/the mother of his children a NUTTER. Hmm

And he has NO regard for his family's safety!

I don't usually say this very often, but you need to LTB. He sounds vile.

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