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Report husband for reading messages driving on motorway

69 replies

freddiemercury · 27/07/2019 17:41

We are driving at 70mph on motorway and husband starts looking at text messages. I asked him to stop as it is dangerous (pissing down with rain making it worse than ever) and we have our two children in the car....not to mention others on the road.
I've told him.if he does it again I will take a photograph and report him.

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MyKingdomForACaramel · 27/07/2019 18:45

He’s a dickhead but tbh the whole arguing and you taking a photo to report him I would imagine is just as, if not more, distracting than the texting

Gardai · 27/07/2019 18:46

If you seriously can’t communicate with him then LTB and as a PP said, stop using the police to sort your inability to communicate out,
Yes it’s dangerous what he’s doing but if he can’t see that then he’s a knob and leave him when you get out of the car and get a train.

Cabezona · 27/07/2019 18:46

It won't make a blind bit of difference. I reported somebody who was driving at 40 in a 60. When I overtook, they got their phone and took a picture of my car while they were driving and then stared at me menacingly when they later caught me up due to traffic. I don't think the police actually do anything.

StCharlotte · 27/07/2019 18:48

In future make sure you have his phone when you're in the car with him.

Sit him down and show him some news stories about cunts driving using their mobiles. This one should do for starters:
www.theguardian.com/uk-news/video/2016/oct/31/lorry-driver-tomasz-kroker-tracey-houghton-mobile-a34-dashcam-video

Screamanger · 27/07/2019 18:54

I would never report my DH. What good would it do as if he gets a fine or worse it will effect the whole family.

I will admit I text and drive but it’s legal where I live.

herculepoirot2 · 27/07/2019 18:54

You do need to have a serious talk with him about this behaviour. Do you drive? I’d be inclined to refuse to let him drive the kids and do all the driving myself. I wouldn’t report him, though.

SmellbowSmellbow123 · 27/07/2019 18:55

Get the phone, put it on flight mode till you arrive. Sorted.

Boopeedoop · 27/07/2019 18:56

Tell him all phones go in the boot while traveling. That's what we do.

Blondieg · 27/07/2019 18:59

Scream anger please stop texting and driving. Just because your country hasn't yet put laws in place surely you understand how dangerous it is

Archie1411 · 27/07/2019 18:59

Divorce him - your clearly married to a prick!

EdWinchester · 27/07/2019 19:00

My husband has his phone mounted on the dash, but his phone detects that he's driving and switches to DND mode.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 27/07/2019 19:03

Next time you get in the car with him, insist on him leaving his phone in the boot. Do this every time

LatteLove · 27/07/2019 19:06

I’d do it tbh. He sounds like a fucking dick.

LatteLove · 27/07/2019 19:07

I will admit I text and drive but it’s legal where I live

Oh that must make it less dangerous then.

Is it also legal to drive carelessly and/or dangerously?

Alsohuman · 27/07/2019 19:12

Tell us where you live @Screamanger so I never go there.

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 27/07/2019 19:25

Don't you mean it isn't specifically illegal?

I bet driving dangerously and driving without due care and attention aren't legal, and even if they are, causing death through careless driving wouldn't be.

fluffygreenmonsterhoody · 27/07/2019 19:31

Ever since DH’s best friend got killed by a driver who was distracted by texting I’ve got really zero tolerance on it. Funny what it takes to focus the mind.

He’s being a dick OP. Don’t get in the car with him again unless he hands it over or puts it in the boot.

Purplejay · 27/07/2019 19:33

Report him no, tell him to stop yes and if he persists, not get on the car with him again.

Each2TheirOwn · 27/07/2019 19:35

You've told him to stop and explained why. If he does it again then yes, report him. It's not just himself and his family he's putting at risk but also every other road user. His behaviour is inconsiderate at best and potentially lethal at worst.

Shodan · 27/07/2019 19:37

Whilst not getting in the car with him ever again may save her and her children's lives, it wont save the lives of other road users, if this idiot carries on reading text messages at 70mph on the motorway in poor weather conditions. Or at any other time while driving.

I'd follow through on your threat if he does it again- I'm sure he would rather NOT be responsible for the deaths of other people?

Aprillygirl · 27/07/2019 19:50

Really, you would report your own husband??
I have to remind my DP not to text and drive every now and again, I wouldn’t report him though.

You have to remind your DP, presumably a grown man, not to text and drive?? Wow how proud you must be to have hooked up with an irresponsible manchild Hmm

OP if my partner called me a nutter for being concerned about the safety of my kids, myself and other innocent drivers he would not be my husband for long.

madcatladyforever · 27/07/2019 19:52

If anyone put me and my son in danger like that, not to mention other road users, I would grab their phone and throw it out of the window. I kid you not.

Screamanger · 27/07/2019 20:00

Alsohuman

Maine, in New Hampshire seatbelts and insurance isn’t a legal requirement.

We travel mainly on gravel logging roads, it’s not uncommon to see someone driving with a beer in their hand.

HeresMe · 27/07/2019 20:04

Travelling at 70 and texting your other half is scum no excuses

P1nkHeartLovesCake · 27/07/2019 20:09

Would I report my own dh, honestly? No I wouldn’t. Can’t really imagine the kind of marriage when you’d report the other partner to be honest.

Seriously posters are talking about divorce over this Confused 😂 ffs only on here.

I would of told him he was dickhead told him to put the phone down