Christening Church Donation

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My husband and I are disagreeing about the donation amount to give to the church for our daughters christening tomorrow. Anyone care to share the amount they gave?

@HeadintheiClouds I think you missed newmom's other post. The £10 she suggested was a donation when attending a Christening, not as a donation for the service.

‘Priest’ doesn’t mean RC only. Rectors, vicars, curates etc in the CofE are all priests.

The £14 is for CofE. I assume a priest means a Catholic Church, so no fees at all, technically

No, high Anglican in my case. All our clergy are known as Fr. X

I feel so bad reading this thread. A few years ago, we had dd christened at a lovely local church. The vicar was fantastic but shortly after the christening I started studying and life was a blur of sleeplessness and lack of time for anything.

We completely forgot to give a donation and we even stopped going to church (dh is not into it anyways but I am)

Without wanting to threadjack, how can I make up for this in a not too weird or embarrassing way please? Should I donate now? If yes, how much would be appropriate? How would i donate it?

@DappledThings Ah, interesting . I didn’t know High Anglican churches used that term.

Paleoil, you really don't need to, but if you wanted to send a cheque could you put a note in saying something like "thanks so much for x's service in (year), at the time we weren't in a position to make a donation but now I'd like to send on this cheque as a gesture of my appreciation" is that too embarrassing?

That person has already clarified they thought the question was about attending as a guest not about being the parents of the child being baptised.

Oops, totally missed that! Apologies.

Rainforevermore That's a very good idea! Thank you.

Unless you're hard up, £10 is very rude. These things take a lot of preparation and work from the minister as well as volunteers. Churches are charities and often very hard up.

icantuckmy...

Its ok I only tell the story on mumsnet and it isn't very Christian calling someone a twat now is it!

Did the vicar not make a special visit to you @dappledthings? I doubt very much that there was no extra work involved.

We gave £100. It was a private service not part of the regular mass.

Lauraloop1516 A special visit? No, what for? I chatted to him after mass one Sunday and asked if X date was ok for us to have baptism included that Sunday. Popped into the vicarage another day to fill in details for the register. That's all.

It depends on the church and the country. Our church advised it was a donation but the minimum donation was €50.00.
There is always a few DC getting christened the same day.

We gave £100 22 and 17 years ago! I’m not a regular churchgoer, but it’s the “family” church if that makes sense. We assumed it was a donation to church funds, not a “fee”. In fact money was never mentioned by either of the ministers involved.
Ironically I’ve ended up going a fair bit over the last couple of years as I take my dad (Church of Scotland)

Totally missing the point of the thread but I thought you meant as guests in the collection plate, felt I'd seriously fucked up at the christenings I'd been to before!

We gave £100, but with the vicars agreement all the other donations from my DC’s christening were sent to Great Ormond Street where he’d been a patient for the 6 months preceding.

€50

Our church doesn’t ask for anything however a plate does go around during one of the hymns. Also there’s a great big sign in the office and as you enter the church telling you it costs £165 an hour to upkeep and run so that is what we put in. Seemed the right thing to do.

My DD was Baptised at the end of June this year and we gave a donation of £50.

Church of England.....
Ive done 1 outside of the normal service.
1 was during normal family service for 2 kids. Two different CoE churches.
Never asked or suggested a donation, for either.
Normal collection plate/offeratory was at last one (he actually even forgot! so said basket was at the door on way out)
In fact CoE websites often make a point that it's a free service.

What denominations are you guys that are making donations for the service?

greatOne Catholic.

I asked for a recommendation from the people that help to organise paper work, etc after mass and they said £30. We gave £50 as that’s what we could afford.