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To think mum instagramers giving festival advice should be honest about hiring a festival nanny?

91 replies

089ville · 27/07/2019 06:18

A very big Instagram family are playing music at a family festival and sharing it all along with their tips for going to a festival as a family.

However they were unmasked on tattle (a gossip website) that during the daytime the kids are a few ft away and looked after by a nanny.

I don't mind the nanny but aibu to think they should at least be honest about it and not hide it?

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 27/07/2019 06:22

99.9% of stuff Mumfluencers share isn't true. It's all a load of sales bollocks and one upmumship designed to increase followers.

Dontgiveamonkeys1350 · 27/07/2019 06:27

You believe what people say in message gossip boards?

KatherineJaneway · 27/07/2019 06:30

They're selling you a dream, not reality.

TequilaMockingbird0 · 27/07/2019 06:35

Have they actually lied about it or just not mentioned? I'm assuming you mean the Hoopers.

Surely it's fairly obvious to most people that if they're both busy doing festival things/'work' then there will be childcare arrangements in place for the kids, especially the youngest ones. And what's the issue with them having a nanny with them?

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089ville · 27/07/2019 06:39

It's definitely true as someone found an Instagram with it tattle.life/threads/mod-fod-5-dont-be-fooled-by-the-crap-that-i-flog-im-still-im-still-clemmie-from-the-blog.2307/post-370478

I get that they're sales people but they've been handing out advice on how they're doing a festival with 4 kids and have failed to mention the nanny. They had one during the daytime yesterday and their work their consists of one DJ session for an hour on a later day. No issue at all with a nanny it's just conveniently not spoked about, but probably will be now people know

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leckford · 27/07/2019 06:50

I totally fail to understand why people follow other people like this, I would imagine the image they project is mostly lies, but they make money out of it.

I was at Hickstead yesterday with a friend who works in media and we walked by a queue of small girls who were there to pay to see Esme who apparently has a massive UTube following, has made a fortune and is 18.

I had never heard of her before but she is a big deal, truly weird.

cardamoncoffee · 27/07/2019 06:54

They are selling an aspirational lifestyle so are trying to give the impression that they have it together. The reality is that they are like everyone else, ie trying to spin 10 plates in the air, except they have more money. The dis ingenuity of this pair really annoys me. FWIW I don't care if they have a FT nanny, but have the decency to own it.

crisscrosscranky · 27/07/2019 06:57

YABU for linking to that site.

SolitudeAtAltitude · 27/07/2019 07:01

These bloggers sell a fantasy, it's the same what magazines and advertising do, just for the modern world!

Only numpties believe it is all real

putthetellyon · 27/07/2019 07:03

Can't believe anyone still reads her blog

timeforakinderworld · 27/07/2019 07:05

I don't really get this but that message board is awful. Why waste time having a go at people like that? So petty.

TemporaryPermanent · 27/07/2019 07:17

Twas ever thus. Katharine Whitehoen who was a really famous columnist in the 70s and 80s back when there weren't so many of them, had an insanely busy life and 2 kids. She writes about the staff she employed (And Its pretty clear she did the employment work and not her husband). A daily cleaner, a nanny, an au pair and her mum stepping in frequently. At least. She was interviewed, talked about all the help she had, and the interview was published with only her mum's help being mentioned. Because nobody wanted to say the truth - busy parents use childcare. The image is of the perfect nuclear family, but most families are more nuclear than perfect.

I don't follow this sort of lifestyle stuff but I'm sure id swallow it if I did. But it's fiction.

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089ville · 27/07/2019 07:18

Agree coffee! Just be upfront with it all.

It's just a gossip website, I get that everyone is not into that but it's far tamer than the mail comments or other gossip forums.

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Lllot5 · 27/07/2019 07:21

God I’m old.
You know when you’re in a foreign country and you don’t speak the language? That’s what I feel like most days.

Yesicancancan · 27/07/2019 07:22

I can not for the life of me fathom why anyone would be interested and waste their precious time with this shit.
Go live and love your own life instead of spectating a fictional series of events.

LolaSmiles · 27/07/2019 07:24

I don't think you're wrong for wanting more transparency. Influences like this (hate that term) make a lot of money by selling a fake lifestyle that is largely based on making other mums feel useless and like they need whatever magic dust the instagrammer has.
It's all smoke and mirrors.

People should realise it's largely lies and apply a bit of critical thinking, but I can see how people end up falling for the illusion.

Ellisandra · 27/07/2019 07:37

Caveat emptor.
If people are too stupid to realise that it’s all lies, more fool them.

If you’re reading about their festival trip just to read about them, then you need to get out, get interests, get a life.

If you’re reading it because you want some festival tips, then just take the tips - if they work for you, doesn’t matter if they’re totally made up.

It’s all just marketing and it’s your look out if you fall for it.

I had the misfortune of going to see the Why Mummy Drinks woman live. I was actually looking forward to it, though it wasn’t my choice. Disingenuous twaddle. She’s supposed to be so “real” (which just means, complains about kids and husband). She made some stupid comment about school sports days and what even is a “quad”. Ha ha ha. I’d take that coming from my run down council estate mate - not from her, who went to one of the top girls’ private schools in her area.

It’s all just shit and though I do agree they “shouldn’t” mislead, I’m totally on it being more fool you for the consumer of this tripe.

AnalUnicorn · 27/07/2019 07:39

I suggest finding a new hobby

TheFatberg · 27/07/2019 07:41

Festival nanny seems like a great idea to me, especially since they have 4 kids and probably do have "work" to do when they get there.

Gingefringe · 27/07/2019 08:13

who cares?

Tellmetruth4 · 27/07/2019 08:14

Not having a go at anyone but why do adults follow these people on Instagram? It seems to cause a lot of bother. Is it to learn about stuff? Live vicariously through others? I don’t get it. I’ve never had an Instagram account mainly because I don’t trust Facebook and no longer log into that platform so I’ve never signed up to their other platforms. However, at least with Facebook you’re keeping in touch with people you know but I don’t get the point of Instagram.

Tellmetruth4 · 27/07/2019 08:15

Instagram just looks like a platform full of millions of people playing make believe.

JoyceJeffries · 27/07/2019 08:15

I really don’t understand all these mummy bloggers. Who gives a toss about them?

flowery · 27/07/2019 08:22

I think I’m on another planet.

And I’m also mildly curious as to whether ‘a festival nanny’ is different from a normal nanny. Is it not that they have a nanny and took her with them? Or does the festival have a brigade of special festival nannies available?

EssentialHummus · 27/07/2019 08:23

I have similar with a real life acquaintance who is on IG with his lifestyle “product”. All about how his work means he has plenty of time with his kids and a very close bond etc, lots of comments fawning over him. The reality: he hides in a shed in the garden thinking deep thoughts, a nanny works 7-7 with his kids. Which is fine in itself imo, but the deception isn’t.