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To think mum instagramers giving festival advice should be honest about hiring a festival nanny?

91 replies

089ville · 27/07/2019 06:18

A very big Instagram family are playing music at a family festival and sharing it all along with their tips for going to a festival as a family.

However they were unmasked on tattle (a gossip website) that during the daytime the kids are a few ft away and looked after by a nanny.

I don't mind the nanny but aibu to think they should at least be honest about it and not hide it?

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GherkinTherapy · 27/07/2019 08:23

why do adults follow these people on Instagram? I would imagine it's the equivalent of flicking through a lifestyle magazine, but the problem is instead of the adverts and the lifestyle features being separate, they are intertwined. Also people seem to get very drawn in by the blogger's lives as represented online and take it personally when the lives turn out to be, like all adverts, heavily modified versions of the truth, or lies.

ChloeDecker · 27/07/2019 08:27

YANBU OP. It is all so very manipulative. I really worry about the next generation growing up on this and believing the ‘lies’ and the damage it has on their self esteem.

fancynancyclancy · 27/07/2019 08:30

Just remember that most of the big accounts on instagram are trying to sell you stuff but a lot of them go out of the way to hide that fact.

zzzzzzzz12345 · 27/07/2019 08:30

I still don’t know who these people are and have no desire to find out. Following real people doing boring shit in their real lives is the most bizarre activity of social media living.

Hidingwhoiam · 27/07/2019 08:31

But are the tips good?

Not been funny, buy plenty of people give tips and advice that they dont always use themselves.

fancynancyclancy · 27/07/2019 08:35

Following real people doing boring shit in their real lives is the most bizarre activity of social media living. Totally agree, it’s like the whole Mrs Hinch thing. I fecking hate cleaning, why would I want to watch someone else clean?? Bizarre

hopeishere · 27/07/2019 08:35

I've not seen the tips but I think it would be a bit silly to say "use the keep them busy bags to keep them entertained" (or whatever) when what was actually keeping your child entertained was a full time nanny.

stucknoue · 27/07/2019 08:40

4 kids at a festival? I would want a nanny too. Though I'm guessing it's camp bestival which is basically a giant crèche - last time we went mine were mid teens and discovered vodka and lemonade Grin

cardamoncoffee · 27/07/2019 08:44

I'm not into any of these IG people and often wondered who would be influenced by them. There was a channel 4 documentary on not so long ago about women on a psychiatric mother/baby unit. One of the women (appeared quite MC, nice lifestyle) mentioned that instagram had made her feel like such a horrendous mother and she ended up getting into lots of debt that at the time she felt were necessary purchases in order to make her a good mum. She had many suicide attempts and a really horrible time, which I'm sure runs deeper than IG but it really made me think that the transparency of these accounts are necessary. I'm glad that the guidelines have in theory tightened and people for the most part can see this as a marketing ploy rather than a lifestyle.

fancynancyclancy · 27/07/2019 08:47

The key marketing tool for a lot of influencers is their relatability therefore they can’t truly be transparent as then they won’t be relatable anymore.

Although I’m staggered by how many people get taken in by the spiel & believe that x product is great because x said so as opposed to x was paid to say it was great. Or how affiliate links work.

Abhann · 27/07/2019 08:49

Honestly, the people who follow these influencers must have the IQ of a table mat if they think this kind of nonsense is some kind of Guide to How to Do Real Life.

It’s like complaining that you don’t actually get your own Roger Federer when you buy a box of Lindt chocolate balls, or your family does not break into a jolly aria of happiness when you break out a jar of Dolmio.

NeverTwerkNaked · 27/07/2019 08:54

Surely everyone realises this is how Instagram etc work by now?

It's why I can't see the appeal in "following" these bloggers

4under4our · 27/07/2019 08:55

Live and let live.

Hidingwhoiam · 27/07/2019 08:58

I've not seen the tips but I think it would be a bit silly to say "use the keep them busy bags to keep them entertained" (or whatever) when what was actually keeping your child entertained was a full time nanny.

Not really. The nanny may just supervise them while they keep themseleves entertained with the entertainment bag, or whatever.

Take make up artists. They may tell you some techniques that they dont use, but are still good for some people.

PooWillyBumBum · 27/07/2019 08:59

I don’t know who these people are but I think anyone who wastes their energy on “influencers” and believes what social media tells them is a bit of an eejit anyway.

Of course it’s all fake.

PooWillyBumBum · 27/07/2019 09:00

Also I used to work with a well known fitness “influencer” who gave the impression of glamour and riches when she lived with her parents and looked like a completely different person in the office without all the makeup and flexing of her muscles. All smoke and mirrors.

user87382294757 · 27/07/2019 09:01

I guess it is like advertising which plays on anxiety- like the recent one from Andrex which is horrible- going on about how clean is your bum? It would be clean with Andrex Hmm

It is more sneaky as tried to be 'like you' - if you follow me you can be normal / coping / doing it all right. Or not. But yes you would think people would not buy the stuff linked to or whatnot. But is basically the same thing as marketing / advertising really.

PancakeAndKeith · 27/07/2019 09:02

It’s like complaining that you don’t actually get your own Roger Federer when you buy a box of Lindt chocolate balls, or your family does not break into a jolly aria of happiness when you break out a jar of Dolmio.

But the difference there is that you know you are being shown an advert. All these bloggers are passing this off as real life.

TwistyTop · 27/07/2019 09:17

They are running a business in order to make profit. Most of these people even have a PR team, or at least use a 3rd party PR company. I'm really surprised that anyone would think that influencers would be totally transparent about their lives. It's not real. Stop expecting any of it to be real.

Orangeballon · 27/07/2019 09:18

Can’t understand the sheep that follow influencers.

Chillijamntuna · 27/07/2019 09:27

I would never do it, I prefer to count my blessings in private and live a quiet life. It would be awful to illicit so much jealousy and insecurity in others.

fancynancyclancy · 27/07/2019 09:32

I used to follow fashion bloggers but I’ve actually started to buy mags again as they are very samey now. Personally I’m uncomfortable with what some people share particularly regarding their children but it’s their choice.

colourlessgreenidea · 27/07/2019 09:34

God I’m old. You know when you’re in a foreign country and you don’t speak the language? That’s what I feel like most days.

Yes.

Caveat emptor. If people are too stupid to realise that it’s all lies, more fool them.

And yes.

Why on Earth do people hold this crap in any regard?

OrangeCinnamon · 27/07/2019 09:36

I've seen the instagram post tbf I can't see any tips on purporting to be perfect mother whilst giving festivals with children tips though. Camp Bestival used to be very good when Dd was younger but I'd hate to be there with a load of instagrammers getting in the way

OrangeCinnamon · 27/07/2019 09:37

Too tired sorry !

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