It's long and I apologise. It may not make much sense but I'm partly ranting - so I am sorry.
Earlier on today DDad went to the cemetery to lay some flowers at the spot where my DMums ashes are buried.
It's the first time he has felt strong enough to go (it's been 10 months since her cremation) and he had psyched himself to be there.
We are both still very much struggling with her death and the circumstances surrounding it - I tried to revive her and I cannot get that moment out of my head. It swims round constantly.
He wandered round the area we chose for her final resting place and couldn't see her name anywhere, so visited the 'reception' area to check where her plot was.
The gentleman double checked with him that he had the right name (?!) and then told him to wait in the side room.
Turns out that my mums ashes haven't even been planted yet. It's been 10 MONTHS. She has been in the 'storage area' for 10 months.
I'm utterly furious. She hasn't been put to rest and has been left in what is effectively storage - I haven't been able to stop thinking about it all day.
We chose her plot, one right near trees and a stream, she'd have loved it. That plot is now gone. And my mum has been in storage.
I feel like I need to complain or just tell someone. I stopped myself from phoning earlier because of how angry I was and it wouldn't have been fair for whoever picked up the phone.
But would it be wrong to call on Monday and kick up a stink?
Surely that is absolutely no way to treat someone in death - my poor dad was heartbroken when he was told, standing with a bunch of her favourite flowers but couldn't lay them.
It's sent me back into a spiral too.