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Intervening when another woman is being told to smile

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Goostacean · 26/07/2019 17:52

Just walking home from my tube commute and mulling over what I should have done differently just now: two guys at London Bridge, one of whom was bothering a lady waiting on the other side of the double doors I was standing by. The classic "smile darling. Why not? Come on. Ah one day you'll smile"- not just harassment, but lazy, unimaginative, stupid (isn't it all?) harassment.

She just kept her eyes to the floor and made little shakes with her head, whilst I listened very closely- was just about to say something when he stopped. I gave him an absolute unflinching stare straight in his eyes when he looked at me, and was DARING him in my head to say something (pregnant, ready to rage at the slightest thing!) but then he walked off.

AIBU to regret not saying something? What should I have said? I spent too long thinking and not enough time not-letting-people-get-away-with-shit.

OP posts:
AngeloMysterioso · 29/07/2019 03:19

I got told to smile on the train on the way home from my friend’s funeral. I burst into tears.

TwistyTop · 29/07/2019 03:32

I think your reaction was fine. If it had escalated I'm sure you would have stepped in. Also I think in these situations you can make things worse by intervening. It's really difficult to know what to do for the best.

TwistyTop · 29/07/2019 03:34

I have also been told to smile on my way home from a funeral. I was in a black dress and everything, I'm surprised they didn't pick up on it.

Patronising arrogant dickheads.

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