to ask what rent you would charge your 28 year old daughter...

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who was moving back home with her nearly 1 year old son. Daughter's wage is 24k per year. She covers childcare costs on her own.

Ballpark figure?

I'm a similar age and my parents charge me £80 a month I earn half of what you do though OP and my parents know that what I'm saving in rent is going towards a deposit for my own place. As soon as I get a more permanent job I'm moving out.

I also don't understand buying your own food thing. Surely it's easier to increase your general shop and throw in what's needed for the 1 yo then cook bigger portions and split the cooking days than to have two lots of food in the fridge, is this my bacon or yours, what time are you cooking so I can cook and oh I need that pan so you can't use it. Its your child, not some nuisance lodger

Nothing - id help her out, if this is possible for you!

Well done OP. That’s a nice gesture and I’m
sure your parents will appreciate it.

As not one person on here knows anything about the OP’s parents, then they too may save this up and give it back. However, they may also find that their shopping bill and utility bills increase. They may be struggling
For all posters on here know.

I am an advocate of paying my way in life and there is absolutely no way I would move back in with my parents without paying them something, especially if earning what the OP earns which must be £1600 plus a month.

Well done for escaping from your situation too. Takes a lot of guts to do that!

If my ex starts making maintenance payments then the £300 is more than doable as it would cover it. If he doesn't then I will have to give less. And once again my abuser has control 😤

OP, if I was your mother you would not be paying a penny given your circumstances, I’d let you save all you could for you and your DC.

Where does the rest of your wage go OP? Seems a hefty outgoing bill of £300 is too much.

I’m sure your parents would understand.

Don’t dwell on the ex. I went 16 years without a penny and the funny thing is they caught up with him eventually and he now pays me £40. every week to clear the arrears even though my DD is 30!! Serves him right!

I wouldnt want anything except you pulling your weight around the house!

Student loan is coming out and so is a pension contribution. I'm left with 1450 a month. £600 goes on childcare, then phone bill, car finance, paying off my career development loan that I had to get for my master's (managed to pay off nearly 10k in 2.5 years, I'm good with money). Then there's all the baby stuff, food, travel to and from work, union membership...

Are you getting advice from Women's Aid, Citizens Advice and/or a solicitor?

You can apply to the local council as homeless, as a victim of domestic abuse, as you have evidence (the injunction).

You can get child maintenance via the CMS, you don't have to wait for your ex to pay, or not, on a whim.

As a single parent you may well be eligible for Universal Credit, it includes help with childcare costs. It can also include help with rent but not if you're paying rent to your mum.

Did you ask a solicitor about getting an occupation order for the house or were you happy to leave?

I'm getting advice from women's aid. I have an IDVA. Also claiming universal credit though not sure I will be eligible when my maternity leave stops and I'm being paid.

I was happy to leave. I am the other side of the country now thank goodness!

What is your mum like? Is she supportive? Is your relationship with her good or complicated?

I wouldn't charge you anything, probably just chipping in with the food shop. If my children were in your situation I'd want them to get in a better financial situation ASAP.

My mum is amazing, but I'm moving in with my dad (who is equally as amazing!)

10-20% of disposable income.

I wouldn't be able to charge my child anything to come back home and get her life back together. Will the £300 cover your food etc?

It covers everything.

Oh sorry I assumed mum! Since you're asking mostly mums. Shouldn't have assumed though.

I hope he's replied to say don't be silly I don't want your money?!

Unless he will need a contribution of course. Does he have a partner or live alone?

Well, is it permanent? Or just temporarily (less than a year)
If permanent I would sit down with her and ask what she could afford??
Temporarily...I wouldn’t charge at all.
But I would say that she is in charge of her own food for her and Ds in either situation.but that’s just me.

For example I am currently living with my mum with dh and 2 dc...she is not charging us anything as it’s only for 2-4 months whilst we renovate. But we are buying food and cooking. She doesn’t mind us being here but i certainly am not expecting her to cook for us etc.

You're not factoring in claiming benefits as a lone parent.
Go through child maintenance right away.

I can't believe so many people wouldn't ask for anything.

24k is an average wage...why on earth shouldn't she contribute something?

Based on outgoings I would have a chat with your mum about the maintainance issue

Another that wouldn't charge anything but am in a position where it would not cause me hardship.

i think at least cover any increase in council tax and utilities, but other than that in your situation i would want you to save for your future