to ask what rent you would charge your 28 year old daughter...

[hereforit]

who was moving back home with her nearly 1 year old son. Daughter's wage is 24k per year. She covers childcare costs on her own.

Ballpark figure?

Thanks @SleepingStandingUp that was empowering to read!

Well, I offered £300 so I've clearly screwed myself over lol!

In your situation I’d not ask for anything from you but I’d want you to sort your own food. Can’t be doing with that.

I wouldn’t charge anything. I would be relieved you were safe!

I'd charge pro rata share of the household expenses for the adults in the household, so I wouldn't count the baby. So if there were three adults (Mum, Dad, you) I'd take the monthly household expenses and divide by 3. I'd adjust if you were buying your own food. Of course if it would be too expensive I'd only charge what you could afford.

When I moved home many moons ago, my parents didn't need the money to run the household. So they 'charged' me a certain amount to be set aside in a savings account each month as a way to get me going on a 'rainy day' fund. Turned out I was only home for a few months but it get me to continue saving on my own once I moved out.

I wouldn’t charge anything, just expect you to help with the housework and buy your own toiletries etc.

@hereforit no worries, your parents should be proud of you. Best of luck Inn getting your life back on track

I would charge her rent/keep. But I would put all of it, or as much as I didn't need, into a secret savings account for her and the baby for when she needs a deposit to buy a house, child starts school, she gets married, or has some other big expenditure or life crisis.

24K is a pretty decent wage. I'd expect half the bills (unless the place is a palace) and and small additional contribution towards wear and tear - say £50. Our bills are around £400 a month so I'd ask for £250. And to get your own food.

Depending on her attitude and expectation of entitlement. Nothing.

I think your offer of £300 is about right if it includes food.

A third to spend, a third to save and a third to hand over as rent (if living with parents).

Dm charges dsis the same age 350pm but she is on a salary of approx 35k and has no children. So maybe 200pm if this would be manageable? This may be too much depending on childcare costs? Otherwise pay towards council tax, gas/electric and buy own food?

Well done for leaving , claim your benefits etc while you have the security net of living at home. I think 300 pcm is a fair deal, depending on bills etc. Certainly couldn't live anywhere else for that!

I wouldn't. I don't understand parents that charge their own kids rent, except in extreme circumstances.

If I was going to take rent money from my son, I'd put it into a savings account for him to have when he moved out.

If you were my daughter I would just ask for money for food and a hand around the house. If you returning affected their benefits or council tax then obviously that needs to be factored in. I would expect to them to pay for child related things obviously but wouldn't charge rent unless I was broke myself

Oh I just saw that it's you moving home. I'm sorry OP. I wouldn't charge you anything.

If I could afford it - nothing.

Nothing- id want u to save everything you could

in the situation you describe, I would just ask that you mostly buy your own groceries and toiletries, but I wouldn’t nitpick even on that. At 28, I am assuming you understand that you need to be saving every penny possible to get yourself financially independent as quickly as possible.

If for some reason, I did not trust the 28
Year old to be saving, I would charge 30% of gross income, but I would be putting that into a savings account for her.

I left an abusive relationship and it took a huge amount of convincing to live with parents. They charged rent and help with bills/food/anything which I was happy to do. Their mortgage was paid, plenty of savings, final salary pensions, 6 holidays a year.

However, I worked 2 full time jobs day and night for 3 years to save up and get out of there. They claimed all the glory.

My daughter and my son's would be welcome and I would make them feel welcome. If they were working hard and we could afford it, I wouldn't charge.

Well done for leaving x

@73Sunglassloveris that you on your own so if child came home two adults half and half, or you in a relationship so she's paying half and you and partner pay half?

Fucking hell some of you lot are cold. Charging wear and tear if your child came back home, fleeing an abusive household, with a child to look after?!

OP if it helps I was exactly you 2 years ago. I had a 7 month old, and had to move 300 miles back home after a relationship breakdown.
I got my own place after 3 months (renting but never mind), have started again from
scratch in terms of furniture etc. I have a great job, and am thinking about moving back to London, I’ve so grown in confidence.

You’ll be fine.

Thanks everyone. I think I'm going to stick with £300. It will include food, and also a parking permit.

I don’t think I could never charge my adult children to stay with me.

Nothing as it wouldn't really cost anything extra to have them here.