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Original poster

To use dh’s role in my job app?

55 replies

Toomuch999 · 23/07/2019 19:15

I was reading some of the hilarious job applications in one of the other posts earlier and want to ask... if I reference my dh’s (political) role in an application I’m putting in as background to how our family have always supported a particular viewpoint, is it inappropriate and/or irrelevant or Aibu?

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PooWillyBumBum · 23/07/2019 19:17

You will look so out of touch and bizarre if you do this. It’s irrelevant.

FenellaMaxwell · 23/07/2019 19:19

What? Why on earth would you? Confused

Dollywilde · 23/07/2019 19:21

Actually, I have friends who work for NGOs and they’ve often referenced ‘my parents were longtime supporters of (eg) CND and that has fed into my thinking on...’ etc. But I’m not sure about husband - feels a bit tenuous. Also I’m always wary of referencing husband/children in any job app, just too many people who will use it as a ‘she’s too family orientated/will piss off and have kids/be off due to chickenpox’

Jojobears · 23/07/2019 19:22

Why on earth would that be relevant???

chaoscategorised · 23/07/2019 19:22

Do you mean like, you're applying for a job at a fracking (/construction/whatever) company and your husband is a local councillor who has supported fracking (/building developments/whatever)? I wouldn't - it's his role, not yours, so it's not your 'achievement' if you know what I mean!

Teddybear45 · 23/07/2019 19:23

Politicians’ family are often classed as Sanctioned individuals when it comes to jobs / finances / pretty much anything - so if you do reference them be prepared not to get the job.

thetimekeeper · 23/07/2019 19:25

our family have always supported a particular viewpoint

How is this relevant to a job application? Does the job spec require you to hold certain viewpoints?

ShagMeRiggins · 23/07/2019 19:28

Reading the OP I thought it was something downloaded from the App Store and was Confused

BlueSkiesLies · 23/07/2019 19:28

No. Your husbands job is not your viewpoint or your achievement!

Your husband could be completely opposed to your viewpoint and that shouldn’t have a standing on you getting the job.

NoHummus · 23/07/2019 19:29

I think it would be really inappropriate to do this.

Dollywilde · 23/07/2019 19:31

@thetimekeeper many do if you’re in that world. I’m not but being demonstrably supportive of their cause is part of the supporting criteria.

Dollywilde · 23/07/2019 19:31

However I agree that your partners support of it, if you’re not tied into that, isn’t really relevant.

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Toomuch999 · 23/07/2019 19:33

Yes, exactly timekeeper it does.

I am aware that, in most cases, partner’s roles are irrelevant, I just wondered if people thought that were still true if it demonstrated a particular active political allegiance - I couldn’t be with someone who held opposing values for example.

Maybe I’ll leave it out though...

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ArsenicNLace · 23/07/2019 19:33

I really wouldn't. I think you were one of those little wifey types who can't think for themselves and blindly follow whatever their husband thinks.

thetimekeeper · 23/07/2019 19:35

Fair enough.

Your husband's views or actions don't say anything about the views you hold. Surely if they're long held views on your own account you can demonstrate that.

meuh · 23/07/2019 19:39

It's impossible to comment without knowing more detail. If you're applying to be an MP's assistant and say your dh holds a political role for the same party I think that's pretty relevant, although maybe it's one to save for the interview rather than mention it on your CV.

If I was applying for a job with a charity I would also mention family links as it demonstrates a commitment and interest.

twirlsinfrock · 23/07/2019 19:39

I cringe even reading this. Don't put it in.

Serin · 23/07/2019 19:42

Unless you are married to Boris and you ate applying for some sort of mediation role Hmm

JaniceBattersby · 23/07/2019 20:07

I would actively not put it in. It just looks like you’re name-dropping, however relevant and if I were the recruiter I’d probably not give you an interview.

ContactLight · 23/07/2019 20:11

When I used to go through umpteen CVs when doing the initial scan prior to handing them over to my boss so they could choose who to invite for interview, I would have three piles - Yes, Maybe and No. Guess which one was highest? I had so many to go though, a quick look was all they got. Any hint of a possible negative and they were straight on the No pile, never to be looked at again.

It is very easy to get put on the No pile.

NCforthis2019 · 23/07/2019 20:14

I would toss the CV if I came across it - I’m looking to hire you not your husband. And if you had to cite you’re husband - then i wouldn’t have much faith on you if you had to use someone else in your own job application.

bunslinger · 23/07/2019 20:17

I once mentioned a course my OH was doing in a job interview because I was reading the lecture notes. I got the job (and the course was very relevant).

babysharkah · 23/07/2019 20:18

Oh goodness, don't! I would bin it straight away.

museumum · 23/07/2019 20:18

No. Unless you were wife of a senior diplomat and explaining a career break due to doing whatever senior diplomats wives have to do.

SilverySurfer · 23/07/2019 20:19

That would be beyond cringemaking and if I had received your application in the past I would have felt embarrassed for you and you would not be invited for an interview.