AIBU to think marriages can work out?

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Flurry of break ups in every direction I look at the moment. We're only 4 years in with two young children and we feel like a good family unit, but all these breaks up due largely to 'growing apart' have me reaching out for some words of hope!

I meant to say that neither me or DH believe in divorce. Before we married we agreed that if we did split up we wouldn't divorce. We both believe that marriage is for life but, obviously, are realistic enough to realise that isn't always possible

From the outside DH family look like one who marry and never divorce. Get to know them and you'll realise they are no different to anyone else. In my family there isn't a single one of us who hasn't been married twice, going back generations. This is my second marriage, and I'm hoping my last.

DH and I have had some ups and downs but just celebrated 25 years.

OTOH I always thought my brother and SIL had a rock solid marriage but they split just before their 25 year anniversary

People give up too easily imho

I think this is patronising and inaccurate.

The only marriage I have intimate knowledge of is my own. The only marriage I'm qualified to judge is my own. Everyone else is only qualified to judge their own and whilst I'm sure there are people who might give up easily, I'm equally sure there are many more who stick it out and work their arses off to make their marriage work.

I believe in finding happiness. I believe that if you're both giving more than you take, you stand a better chance of it working. And I also believe that nobody should have to justify their reason for divorce or be told "you gave up too easily" when they've made the monumental decision to leave their marriage.