Ok so I know I'm BU but maybe with good reason? DBIL (we'll call him Richard) has sent DD2 a card with a small amount of cash for her birthday. Card has first names only, not from "Uncle Richard" as he normally would. No phonecall or text to wish her happy birthday.
Back story is Richard and wife have stopped all contact with PIL for whatever reason since last year. DP and Richard had words about it as PIL are lovely people who have done nothing but bail Richard out whenever he's needed it (financially and otherwise) but both sides calmed down and DP apologised for getting involved, so we thought things had been left civil enough but maybe a little strained. They live quite far from us so we didn't see them alot anyway, only at PIL house when visiting. Now they don't speak to PIL we don't see them or their children but we still sent them birthday and Christmas cards. Earlier this year our daughter was rushed to hospital by blue light ambulance due to a severe bowt of croup leaving her unable to breath and extremely high heart rate. They were aware of what had happened while we were in the hospital and not once did he text to see how she was. I understand after everything that happened, they might have still been angry at us but to know she couldn't breath and not at least ask if was ok seems pretty bloody mean to me! After that I told DH I was not interested in maintaining any form of relationship with them, after not giving a shit their niece could have died (it was that severe). DH had no problem with that as agreed it was out of order. We've not spoken to them since and TBH I didn't even expect them to send a card. So am I being completely U to not acknowledge someone who couldn't even be arsed to check that their niece was still alive in the first place?