I got drunk knowing I was pregnant.

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The other night I got very drunk knowing I was pregnant.

I've suffered from recurrent miscarriages in the past few years and am on anti depressants because of this.

We'd been having a break from TTC as I wasn't ready to go through it again and had recently felt a lot better in myself. After some time we decided to try again with the backing of the hospital and I got pregnant.

I'm now 7 weeks.

The other night I thought I noticed some blood starting, just a slight hint of pink on the tissue. I panicked. I went out and got so drunk. I'm so annoyed with myself.

I didn't notice any more blood but went to the EPU anyway and have just found out from my repeat blood tests that I haven't miscarried.

I'm so angry with myself. DH was away with work and I haven't told him.

AIBU to not say anything? I thought that was it again. I still don't believe this will come to anything. I just don't dare to hope anymore.

I guess I just saw the blood and thought fuck it, after everything that's happened before but it's no excuse.

I found I was pregnant on the Monday and had him in the Saturday
During that time I drank a few beers,ate cheeses like they where going outta fashion,went on rollercoasters,smoked etc

He’s now 19 and fine
He works a full time job and has a lovely girlfriend

Your baby will be fine-getting drunk as a one off won’t hurt

Sending massive hugs

Most people I know only realised they were pregnant when their hangover nausea never went away. I don't think that anything you've done now will have any influence upon the likelihood of your remaining pregnant - really hope you do, though, if that's what you want.

I wouldn't tell him, as it just won't help, whatever happens next.

Have you been seen by the EPU? I'd try and get seen by them this week, just in case - so you can see whether your assumption was correct or there's still an embryo. From your history and bleeding, you are high risk, so shouldn't have a problem in seeing them quickly.

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Please don't knock yourself up too much re this incident I very much doubt its harmed the little one. Hope it all goes to term and i somehow doubt too the little 'un will be muttering "mines a light and bitter";!

I totally get why you did it. I wouldn't mention it, it won't help anyone.

Wishing you the best for this pregnancy

This is a LOUSY thread to have a vote option on.

Have some unmumsnetty hugs {{hugs}}

One night getting drunk won’t make any difference. Don’t beat yourself up.

I would tell my DH purely because if something happened later I would need his help and support when I was blaming myself but it depends on the kind of relationship you have.
Please don’t be hard on yourself OP. You already know it’s not ideal but it’s not a black and white situation and as other posters have said it’s very unlikely to have done any damage.
However you do need help and support otherwise every time you perceive something isn’t going well or think it’s not working out, you could essentially have a pattern of engaging in self destructive behaviour. I had two losses -
One at 20 weeks - and I ended up having to have counselling because of similiar thoughts and reactions, a bit of “what’s the point anyway?”
So on that front I think you need to seek help/speak to someone.
Hope it works out for you OP

Op, I can imagine exactly your emotions seeing the discharge and drinking. I miscarried 4 times, but do now have 2 daughter's. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Op I can understand to a degree why you would do this but the people saying about it not affecting so early on etc etc please look at the screenshot below.
My ds has fas. He struggles daily because of it. Drinking at any point in pregnancy whether you "thought" you might miscarrying or not is completly wrong

This is a LOUSY thread to have a vote option on

Sorry the vote was more about where or not I would be unreasonable to not tell H.

Really don't be too hard on yourself.
Pregnant with DD I was a party girl, had 2 nights out on the trot. Woke up and had a mug of tea which promptly came straight back up.
Thought nothing of it til I was still puking a week later. She's now 12.
As far as I understand FAS is more prolonged and repeated exposure to alcohol not a one off.
I totally understand your concern, have been in similar circumstances but hold tight, OP there is every chance things will be OK.
I would not tell DH btw.

Hugs. Don't beat yourself up. I had a large glass of red (or two) after each of my miscarriages were confirmed. I can totally understand your thought process. It is rare for fas to occur after one instance of drinking. I hope that this is the sticky one. I don't know about telling your DH. It depends a bit on how he is likely to take it. The last thing you need right now is any guilt from him.

I had two nights out before I found out I was pregnant. I understand your fear and panic - your reaction was to try to deal with that through alcohol because you thought you had miscarried or that it was going to happen and you were trying to cope.

I think you can let it go and forgive yourself. I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well

Do not worry in the slightest
Loads of people do this
The pregnancy will either be fine or it won’t, nothing to do with this.
Hope it all goes well x

Don't fret OP . You thought that you were sadly losing another pregnancy so got drunk, and who could blame you ? Not me that's for sure . No do not tell DH ,
Congratulations on your pregnancy and hope all goes well for you .

scarfonthestairs and Poppi - have a good long think about the distress OP is experiencing and then STFU.

I would keep quiet in your shoes to be honest. What are you hoping to achieve by telling him? One night is not going to have done any harm. Lots of women go quite far into their pregnancies drinking and smoking before they realise. Be gentle with yourself, you've had a rough time of it.

Give yourself a break. I found out I was pregnant with DC1 when my hangover lasted several days. She's now 17 and discovering hangovers for herself.

Congratulations

What gorky said ^

Oh sweetheart, please don’t beat yourself up over this.

As your nurse told you, it’s ok.

Regarding your pregnancy, if it’s going to stick it will, if It won’t, it won’t. You can’t control it and if it’s the latter, you haven’t caused it.

Don’t tel DH (unless you need to, if that would make you feel better) and best of luck x

Hoping this one sticks for you OP. Whether it does or not will have nothing to do with you getting pissed for one night when you though you were at the beginning of another loss/grieving process. You have nothing to feel bad about.

I don't think it's fair to tell posters who disagree that it's ok, to "stfu". By posting on a public forum it means those responding are entitled to give their opinion.

Yes it's clear the op is under a huge amount of emotional stress but it's valid to say that drinking in pregnancy to point of getting drunk is not ok. Because it isn't.

Best of luck op.

Have you had genetic testing OP? You could have a translocation.

I was 10 weeks gone when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. I went out several times, drank, smoked cigarettes, and even smoked a small bit of cannabis. She's now 11 and giving me sass but is completely healthy.
I completely understand why you did what you did and there's no need to tell your husband.
I would tell him about the bleeding though. Let him support you. Wishing you and baby all the best.

I voted wrong I think! Don’t beat yourself up and don’t tell DH. I’ve had many miscarriages, it sucks.