To think it shouldn’t take three sodding hours?!?

[MissingTheMissletoe]

19 month old DS has never been a good sleeper, always been quite a needy baby. He won’t sleep on his own at all and it takes anywhere between an hour and a half to three hours of me laying next to him in my bed to get him to sleep. His dad suggested doing cry it out in his cot which I refuse to do (think it’s incredibly cruel) and because I won’t do that it is only me that does bedtime.

We have a good routine, DS is always tired and chilled out by bedtime but the second I get him into bed he becomes hyper, bounces around the bed, refuses to lay still, screams at the top of his lungs if you make him lay down and I just can’t take it anymore. I want to run away, between this and never ever getting away from him at all I just can’t take it anymore. I love him but he’s more exhausting and demanding than my first two DC put together.

I know I’m not being unreasonable really, tonight I’m just feeling so angry (though I don’t know why!) and like a really really shit mum.

People think a 19 month old is 'playing' the adult?

Jeepers, folk will do anything to justify letting a baby cry itself to sleep.

I have friends who have spent every night for the last 6 years spending 2-3 hours sitting, sleeping on their kids bedroom floors. They are wrecked and wretched but refuse to take positive steps such as cc. As a pp said, its actually not doing the child any favours to have this drawn out, hours long, slightly fraught time every night. Cc or a version of it works v v quickly and gives everyone the evening / rest they need. Glad it worked OP