Sons new friend is horrible

[Tails5290]

I've always said I would not choose my children's friends, until I met this one. He's a few years older than my kid and we've just moved nearby to said kid.
He is really rude to my lo, ignores him when it suits him, gets him to do stuff that will get my lo in trouble then comes straight to tell me. For example my lo isn't allowed out of the close and his friend knows this, my friend dared him to leave the close and told him he had to do it as it's a date, then ran straight to me to tell me he had been out and I should tell him off. Invites my lo to his (via PS4 chat) then when my lo gets there this boy shouts and screams at him to get out of his house. This friend is also a compulsive liar, only little things but at 10/11 should no better ie 'I've got a hot tub,my shoes coat £450, my parents are millionaires,. My lo does what this kid does though, he thinks the sun shines out of his a*se so will do exactly what this kid tells him to do, and goes along with everything he says even if it is unkind, he told my lo he was trash the other day and my lo agreed with him. AIBU to stop contact? As it stands I've told my lo he's not to play with him.

@Tails5290 hopefully he starts staying away. They're not in the same school are they?

Well done Tails. He might even develop a conscience and improve his behaviour in general as a result of you telling him that he's not a nice kid. Not that you or your son have to take him back. Just thinking out loud. It certainly won't do him any harm to be told a few home truths.

My son is due to start the same school as this kid in September, I'll be going in to male teachers aware of the situation. The kid cornered my son yesterday and grabbed his glasses off him and threatened to give him a bloody nose. My son was ok and I'm glad he told me. I went over to the parents and they were very apologetic and promised to have words. I will keep making sure they stay apart.

I assumed your child was 3 or 4 since you said LO so I was initially completely horrified! But even at 8 this kind of behaviour is a worry.

I think there’s a difference between choosing your son’s friends and intervening when he is being bullied, which is what’s happening here. At 8, your son is young enough to be told that his friend isn’t treating him fairly and that they aren’t to spend time together and more. You have to protect him from a child who, by the sounds of things, could actually endanger him.

My nephew was sexually abused by an older boy when he was about 11. He's 23 now and a complete mess. Never take anything at face value, if you feel your dc has been targeted by a damaged/damaging child, keep them away from your children.

Delighted that you spoke to the boy. Not so delighted to hear what he did by cornering your ds. He is a bad one alright. Being nice to your face and a shit when near your son.

Re the school just make an appointment with the principal and explain everything. Explain it also to teachers. The more who know the better. We were lucky as ours were really understanding and looked out for ds. Even though most things happened off school grounds they still got involved, I guess so it wouldn't escalate into school, even though it ended up doing so, but as the school were aware they were ready to step in as they had all the information they needed and it wasn't a case of ds having to suffer weeks/ months of bullying while I explained the history .

Hopefully this little shit gets the message.

My son has had some terrible friends come and play. One boy came to play and he ripped the week old trampoline, trashed my ds room (took 2 hours clean) and he locked my other son in the toilet a toy also went missing and he hid a remote control. I told my husband. He was furious, he said you can take that as his last visit he's crazy. He was right, boys are boys but some aren't good to be around. I didnt invite him again and invited other kids around and he soon forgot all about him.