To want to visit not be visited ?

[dontfollowmeimlosttoo]

Anyone else like to visit people ( so you can escape when you want to ) rather than the visitor getting comfy and sitting there all day in your home 😂 and you wondering when they will leave ! Also anyone else really not a fan of people visiting there homes in general even though it's nice you just feel it's abit " this is my space " massive introvert and I do have family friends etc and I do have plenty of visitors but secretly this is how I feel 🤣🤣

I'm the same

@SilverNewMoon glad I'm not the only one ! I will gladly travel further to see someone so I am more in control as to when I leave

I'm exactly the same especially as I have a few friends who don't understand boundaries and always outstay their welcome

I'm the same too. Iv always done the visiting so I can leave when i want.

@newmomof1 I know exactly what you mean ! I have a young baby and can't stand it when they just watch me feed ,watch me get them to nap watch me settle baby etc. I just end up feeling drained everyday life in your home with an audience

@Saltnpepper5 yes feel much more in control

Yes, I agree. One relative recently stayed 7 hours!!!!! Let her dc nap here because her dcs nap time would get messed up if she left earlier and she slept in the car, which of course would affect her night time sleep.

Forgetting the fact that I'm in the same position except I have two and my dc don't nap when someone is here, said repeatedly...hinting many times.

Massive introvert and also hate people in my space. Recently a guy coming to quote some work, due at 4pm turned up at 9am and said I saw your car and thought I'd pop in. I'm in my fucking pjs, house is a mess...there's a reason I asked you to come at 4 Derek you dick!!!

Said visitor in my post also watcher her darling stamp food around my entire home, didn't offer to help with the mess and then admitted that it's so nice to go out for the day and back to a clean home .

No invites are heading their way for a while.

I just ask politely for them to leave. If they get offended, I don't allow them to visit again as they are clearly not friends.

Yeah. I'm the same.

Oh gosh it's exhausting isn't it when someone is in your space that long ! Yes derek is a massive dick! I also hate it when people don't actually say what time they are vague and say they will pop by in the sometimes in the afternoon so is that 2 /3/4/5?! Lol I am really not a casual just turn up and go with the flow person 😂😂

Totally. I don’t live very close to family and friends which is good day to day but means when they visit they frequently outstay their welcome. I reckon I have a 24h tolerance before the internal rage starts kicking in.

@dontfollowmeimlosttoo
I also have a baby and people say isn't it easier if we visit you so you aren't messing around.
Nope!

As long as it's planned, I am happy with visitors, that's why we have a guest room, so even longer stays are not only welcome but not a bother.

I have never had visitors overstaying their welcome though, so far it's been pretty clear how long people were here for. I find it more relaxing in my own home.

@pinkteapoops Oh gosh it's exhausting isn't it when someone is in your space that long ! Yes derek is a massive dick! I also hate it when people don't actually say what time they are vague and say they will pop by in the sometimes in the afternoon so is that 2 /3/4/5?! Lol I am really not a casual just turn up and go with the flow person 😂😂 . Oh no the cheek!

@Blankspace4 yes I am the same at least an hour away .. but when they visit I never know how long ... I hate doing the whole routine with baby whilst being observed

when people don't actually say what time they are vague and say they will pop by in the sometimes in the afternoon so is that 2 /3/4/5

just ask them to clarify?
If it's not convenient and you prefer to know, just .. ask?

I can have one particular friend here all day but everyone else after two hours I’m antsy.

@Saltnpepper5 yes totally agree it's so much worse just plonk themselves down.. meanwhile you carry on feeding changing etc and having to talk to them .. and you have no idea how Long this day will carry on. Least if you visit you can time it around what ur doing and leave when u want

Yes I know what you mean @NoSauce . I am ok with my mum being here few hours mainly MIL is the issue as she likes to watch us do everything with baby including Getting him to nap and watching him feed which distracts him so then I have to have that conversation every time ...

I am entirely with you. I always go and see people especially family so I can just leave when I want. I don't really like people in my calm, quiet, peaceful space. DP and grown up DS are obvious exceptions but a lot of the time it's just me and Dcat. Perfect

MIL is the issue as she likes to watch us do everything with baby

just go in your bedroom, close the door and come back when you are finished. If people are too rude to understand, make it clear!

@WhenOneFacePalmDoesntCutIt I have tried and she has followed me

I hate having visitors, mainly because I live in CHAOS and am afraid of being judged.

sorry MIL, would you mind giving me some privacy, I'll be a minute.
Take off your top or your trousers off if that helps!