"He is a banker"

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Getting to end of primary and some parents are moving their DC into private schools. One mum mentioned to me 'he is a banker'- AIBU to think it is a bit unreasonable to tell your child this / assume he will be this just because his dad is? I feel a bit sorry for the boy.

'One mum mentioned to me 'he is a banker'- AIBU to think it is a bit unreasonable to tell your child this / assume he will be this just because his dad is? I feel a bit sorry for the boy.'

Sorry, I'm not understanding. The DM told you that her DH is a banker?

And from this you have decided that they think their own DC should become one too?

Your post is a bit confusing.

I'm imagining that most primary school dc know what their Parents do as a career

She said ‘he is a banker’? Not ‘he’s going to be a banker’?

I don’t understand.

Huh?

I thought it was rhyming slang for 'wanker'

No, the mum neat her son will be a banker, like is dad. Therefore the private school (I assume, as she said it after telling me about the move).

They are sending their DS to private school because 'he's a banker'?

No he's not, he's an 11 year old boy.

YANBU to think WTF!

meant, excuse typos.

I presume you mean 'banker' as in 'dead cert'? Yanbu.

I think the OP is saying that the parent of the child is referencing the child. “He is a banker”, meaning “he needs to go to the private school otherwise he won’t get a good career.”
The obvious answer is “no he’s not, he’s a child.”

Yes, I thought 'he is a child' - I didn't quite know what to say to be honest.

I think YABU

To Assume quite a bit here Op

Well, I think DC to achieve what their parents expect of them, so if she really wants him to be a banker she better keep saying it!

Let's just hope he enjoys being a banker and doesn't decide he'd rather be an artist or actor or something.

Could she mean a banker as in a certain bet? As in, if they invest in him he'll come good?

Otherwise it doesn't make any sense.

Are you sure you didn’t mishear? Maybe she said ‘he’s a bit of a wanker so I’m sending him to private school. His dad is a wanker too’.

Are you sure she didn't say 'my DH is a real Merchant Banker'

I'm with op I think the DM probably did mean that he needs to go to Private school to achieve his destiny ( of being a wanker, sorry banker).

I can't imagine this conversation however hard I try. "Where is little Johnny off to next year?" "Community Secondary. What about little Jack?" "Oh, he's going to Harrow, because he is a banker." ???

It's a weird thing to say OP! To say that an 11 year old is going to private school because they are (going to be) a banker is ridiculous.

That converstation and your conclusion of it makes no sense.

Don’t really understand
You don’t need to go to a private school to be a banker
But if she thinks her ds has to be a banker because his father is, that’s unreasonable.
But the child might be obsessed with numbers/maths so that’s her little joke?
Maybe he wants to be a banker
It’s probably just a throw away comment, just idle chatter, I wouldn’t have given it too much thought!

I'm really confused...I don't understand...the child's DM told you that the boy is going to a private school so be can become a banker?
It's a bit of an odd thing to say but some parents are just weird like that. They have all of these aspirations for their DC and try to live vicariously through them. I think I wouldn't have taken any notice to be fair. Just smile and nod.

I would have asked her what she meant. I don’t get it at all. If she literally meant banker he certainly doesn’t need to go to a private school. If she said ‘future PM’ then maybe... but a tad ambitious!

I do hope the kid in question ends up doing virtually anything but banking.