"He is a banker"

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Getting to end of primary and some parents are moving their DC into private schools. One mum mentioned to me 'he is a banker'- AIBU to think it is a bit unreasonable to tell your child this / assume he will be this just because his dad is? I feel a bit sorry for the boy.

I assume she meant that he is certain to get into the private school. The phrase ‘is a banker’ is often used in horse racing and means the horse involved is certain to win.

The whole conversation sounds a bit odd, but not unusual. I have never been around so many absolute weirdo parents as when my DD was at private school.

I’ve said yabu as
A. I don’t really understand what you are on about.
B. I don’t think you’ve understood the mum you’re talking about either.

I'd probably have assumed she was calling her ds a wanker (and hoping private school sorts him out) otherwise it makes no sense at all (not that its acceptable to call your 11 year old ds a wanker obviously)

Op
Based on this thread alone - you’re aren’t particularly clear in how you present yourself.

So I’m wondering whether you weren't clear in your understanding of this conversation.

chickchoccy yep I've heard adults referring to other adults as a banker when being derogatory and hoping the children don't hear.
Can't imagine that the mum would think that private school would fix this though.

Yes I am also confused whether she meant her child is a wanker, a banker as a job in future or a dead cert for something?

You must have misheard, or it doesn't make any sense. If someone said that, the only response would be; "What do you mean?"

Can you relay the full convo please? Your post makes little sense as a one line comment out of context.

This is very weird. I would assume she meant her husband is a banker and you misheard/misunderstood or she used DS’s name when she meant DH’s name.

Even if someone intends their child to be a banker they wouldn’t say he IS a banker since clearly he’s not.

Other explanation is she meant he’s a banker as in “dead cert to get in” rather than “works in finance”.

Ok- well the dad is a banker. She mentioned her son is leaving our primary to go to the private school instead. I mentioned we are staying out and she said "Well, he is a banker" (about her son). I didn't ask further and changed the conversation.

I don't know anything about banking or private schools so have no idea what she is on about really.

Still no wiser after update I'm afraid.

I wouldn't feel too sorry for him on the basis of that comment

Agreed. Yabu as I would assume the mum meant her son was a dead cert to get into private school, or going there would make him a dead cert to do well. Your interpretation makes no sense!

I think when she said banker she means dead cert not literally banker. Your posts are a bit garbled so I’d be inclined to think there has been a miscommunication.

You have misheard or misunderstood what she said

If she was convinced he was going to be a banker. She would have said 'he wants to be a banker, we felt this would be good for him'

Not he IS a banker. Because he isnt.

Maybe "he is a banker" referred to the dad - ie because dad is a banker they can afford private school/there is an expectation of private school. Still a rather odd comment but makes more sense linguistically.

I think you’ve misunderstood or misheard too. Maybe she was saying her husband is a banker ie we’re choosing school because we have loadsa money

I think she was saying they're putting their child in to private school because her husband's a banker (and so they can afford to do so).

Oh Christ- of all the things to get annoyed by?! Would you rather have her saying he wants to be a murderer? Kidnapper? Serial killer? Or is it because it’s private school? There’s nothing wrong in kids wanting to be like their parents is there? My son wants to be a banker like his daddy too.

I said “we are staying out”

Bloody hell OP. You’re as clear as mud!

I'd guess it to mean that given that Dad is a banker, he can afford private school/wants him to go to private school...

Do you know any "banker" referring to themselves as "a banker"? I don't.
That's not really the term they use.

If I'd had that conversation I'd have thought the mum was saying "well he is a banker" as in we can easily afford the independent school, so why not?

I still don’t understand.

I also don’t understand why a banker’s child would go to s state primary and independent secondary. Surely if you are saying your job/income means you want your child to have a private education you would start at the very beginning of their school days and not towards the end.