So do all men lack common sense?

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Or is it just the one I live with?

"Darling I'll do some housework today"

"Oh fantastic" I think to myself as he hoovers the stairs etc whilst I'm at work.

Return home to find he's hoovered AROUND the objects on the stairs which were clutter to be put away (think post, keys that have been flung on the bottom step and various other bits and bobs).

AIBU to be IRRITATED by this?!

Of course not all men lack common sense.

And that’s not a lack of common sense. It’s laziness.

Lordy do you have to remind him to breathe in and breathe out as well?

Nope. But I drive DP mad by doing stuff like this

I know. It was lighthearted.

OH GOD @ShirleyPhallus you're the one in your house! You people make me mad

Your DH is a bit of a bellend. That's not a man thing, that's a lazy thing.

@Chune I probably should to be fair! Ha!

And that’s not a lack of common sense. It’s laziness.

Yep.

He can't be bothered to put things away. That's clearly your job.

Yes I am! In fairness, I genuinely don’t notice things as much as DP does. For example, I do all the cooking and don’t notice the micro splashes like he does

I thought I was quite tidy before I met him!

Intentional incompetence so you don’t ask him to do it again. I am sure he can drive and hold down a job...

Of course not.
Do all women ?

@ShirleyPhallus haha! Are you sure you aren't my husband hidden behind a Mumsnet account 😂. He does all the cooking in our house and I literally follow him about tidying each crumb and spillage as it happens ha!

I forgot lightheartedness wasn't allowed on MN

That’s just plain laziness and nothing to do with common sense.

This is very outing cause I tell everyone this story... my husband used to iron naked and I used to always tell him not to because one day he would burn himself. Sooooo one day I hear screaming, he had burnt himself right on the penis!! You could see the triangle top of the iron and the wee steam holes and everything 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ total numpty!!

Can we stop with all the men hating, sexist comments ?? He didn't move the stuff. So what ?? It doesn't make him a woman hating neanderthal.

My (( male )) dp is currently washing up because I never do it properly apparently......... Suits me 💁 he is however banner from hoovering. Because he's crap at it and has blown up every hoover we've ever had.

What’s lighthearted about sexism?

My husband has plenty of common sense and is much better at hoovering than I am.

It’s laziness. Pure and simple. He consciously or unconsciously thinks it’s your job to put the things away.

Oh god, I married my DH because he's got so much common sense and I can just faff about as much as I like. Obviously other reasons too, but it's brilliant not having to think about day to day stuff after being a single parent previously and having to do it all.

I forgot lightheartedness wasn't allowed on MN 😂😂😂😂😂😂

I'm a SAHM and DP is the breadwinner. I do majority of housework by default and I'm not the cleanest but get by with 2 DC's but he will come home and moan about x being left out or y being there for days or z not being put back in its place. Lots of the time I didn't even notice it's there as I've been multitasking with DC's my new response of "well if you know it's been there for days why don't you fucking muck in and put it away" seems to have deterred any recent comments.

And I wasn't referring to the OP........but to the tinpot feminists whose main point of reference seems to be a dog eared copy of the handmaid's tale.

Man hating, sexist comments?

What do you want people to say? Aw how cute

Nobody is man hating fgs, I just don’t see how it’s supposed to be funny when a man can’t do a simple job like hoover the stairs properly 🤷‍♀️

@ShirleyPhallus snap!

I'm also the 'incompetent' one.

I lived by myself and DC for years before dp moved in and I always thought i was pretty tidy. Dp notices things I don't and gets annoyed.

He gets annoyed by:
Cooking splashes
Not wiping the sink after washing up
Bin splashes up the wall
Not scraping plates before dishes are washed
Chargers not being where they were left
Me not being able to find my keys most mornings (even after he built me a key rack)
Toast crumbs
Butter knife
Tea bags on sink

Basic shit that just doesn't register with me but does get done. My kitchen sides ect get wiped each evening, I just don't clean up as I go iyswim?

However, he had to be trained not to leave wet towels on the floor and when he mentions the above gripes I remind him that I also pick up and clean after him with regards to his collection of cups on his bedside table and his pile of dirty clothes that don't make it to the basket...

I am more incompetent than him when it comes to thorough cleaning up, but I'm not changing. That probably sounds terrible but he doesn't have to clean round after me, it will get done, in my own time.