So do all men lack common sense?

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Or is it just the one I live with?

"Darling I'll do some housework today"

"Oh fantastic" I think to myself as he hoovers the stairs etc whilst I'm at work.

Return home to find he's hoovered AROUND the objects on the stairs which were clutter to be put away (think post, keys that have been flung on the bottom step and various other bits and bobs).

AIBU to be IRRITATED by this?!

My usually competent and intelligent husband is frequently devoid of common sense. Think pouring boiling hot water directly into paddling pool last wkend with young kids leaping around. Me and the other adults were

But that's insinuating that every woman does every household task perfectly. When the reality is we don't. The difference being men wouldn't post on a forum moaning about it. 💁

My dp gets annoyed when I tidy up by chucking crap behind my sofa and shove everything in the huge chest in our living room (( as opposed to sorting through stuff and binning as needed like he does )) the difference being he wouldn't moan about it online.

And if he did it would be a jokey dig. As the op has obviously meant. The attitude from some women towards men on this site is fucking bizarre.

My H is like this. He'll say he cleaned the kitchen and I go in and the dishwasher is fully loaded but not ran and the stove is filthy, counters have crumbs etc.

Mine just attempted to open my leaving gift of Prosecco pointing at the expensive glass light fitting, redirected it towards the huge window and then, when the possible consequences of that action were pointed out to him in a slightly panicked tone, nearly took out DTwatCat with the ensuing projectile.

I reassure him sometimes.

'Just as well you're pretty, isn't it?'

So much for a lighthearted thread.
Anyway, my DH does the same. I've learned he's not doing it on purpose, he genuinely doesn't see mess.

My ex-wife was incapable of opening a Samsonite suitcase.

From this I deduce that all women are stupid.

No they don’t - and generalisations like that even if lighthearted are a bit tedious. I always feel a bit when women talk like this - to me it often sounds like they’re trying to make themselves sound more organised and ‘in charge’ by infantilising and belittling their DPs when actually they are just being a bit of a mug. I say this as someone who’s DH is much tidier. I’ve done messy things that bug him and I’ve made an effort to to stop because although he jokes about it like the OP I know deep down these things do really annoy him (and deep down I know it does makes the house look nicer! - I’m much tidier now and like it) It doesn’t take much effort and shows respect for your partner.

Po faced mumsnet at its finest.
No jokes allowed it is all deadly serious and you are horribly sexist for laughing at men
Instead we must virtue signal about how offended we are at inappropriate comments

OP I find it is poor observation skills and laziness but I do accuse him of having nothing going on upstairs when he does silly things. Main bugbears-he cannot find anything, fails to notice obvious things, doesn’t check dates on perishables when he buys them so I have two large smoothie bottles both out of date two days after purchase....if he goes to a family function without me I ask how’s so and so or ask for any gossip. Nope. No idea. Didn’t think to ask. Must’ve gone to said do and stood like a silent statue for the entire time😂

Nope. No idea. Didn’t think to ask. Must’ve gone to said do and stood like a silent statue for the entire time

I bet he didn't. He probably spoke to other men who, like the vast majority of men, are just as uninterested in pointless gossip as he is.

calling "all " men something is sexist not "light hearted"
((I dust round ornaments ))

Can we stop with all the men hating, sexist comments ??

Yes please. I say that as a man who hates men.

What is this hoovering the stairs you speak of? TBF he did some housework so is an honest chap.

Jesus people can’t have fun around here!

Today dp home from work 2pm loaded washer with work clothes, I come home 5.30pm... he still hasn’t bothered to turn on! Why go to the effort of loading and miss the last step lol

Po faced mumsnet at its finest

Tbf the OP didn’t say it was lighthearted initially and given the depressing amount of threads daily from women complaining their husband doesn’t lift a finger or wants a standing ovation when he does, it’s no surprise people reacted they way they have.

Bet you wished OP to not started this thread.

My husband has common sense. Maybe that means he is actually a woman?

What process did you use when introducing the Hoover to your husband? Mine doesn't know what it is never mind how to use it

If my wife earned more money and I didn't have to to out to work too (part time and fitting in with the kids' school times) this house would be a lot cleaner and tidier. My wife' is a spectacularly messy person whose speciality trick, while 'doing her bit' with the housework, is to ignore the pile of dirty crockery in the sink and run the dishwasher on the hottest, longest cycle she can find - sometimes with half a lemon in the cutlery rack - "because it hasn't been done for a while". i.e. since the last time she manouvered me into throwing her out of the kitchen telling her not to get in my way.

(For clarification I am a man. I'm not her wife.)

The empty dizhwasher.

Do it yourself and enjoy your dinner

Sooooo one day I hear screaming, he had burnt himself right on the penis!! You could see the triangle top of the iron and the wee steam holes and everything 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ total numpty!! Oh no! Poor MrSundaylast - and MrSundaylast junior as well! A lesson that won't be forgotten in a hurry! 😁

Women may have many faults
but men have only two
everything they say
and everything they do

OMG @sundaylast you just made me spit my coffee right across the hotel restaurant and now the waiter thinks I'm bonkers. I'm still laughing now, thanks for that image 😂😂😂😂

I see a lot of reference on mumsnet to laziness as a male trait.

I’m sure none of the people posting that are ever lazy.

Sometimes I’m lazy, sometimes I’m not. That’s life.