WIBU to ghost my boyfriend?

[madeahugemistake]

In a fairly newish relationship. Been very up and down, we both have issues but mainly it's me.

I broke up with him three weeks ago saying how I need to concentrate on myself, he gracefully accepted this. I then went batshit crazy on him for three weeks, saying I'd made a mistake, I love him, begging for another chance. He refused to meet me for the three weeks and hardly text. He then eventually agreed to meet a couple nights ago.

He gave me another chance, we talked it out and he asked me to stay. What was meant to be a quick meeting ended up with me being there for 14 hours.

I left, I was happy for a few hours, we text and the texts still seemed a bit awkward even though it was back to normal in person.

Now I've decided I don't want to be with him again. I know how utterly fucked that seems. But the sex is shit, he never takes me out, he points out my flaws. I just feel suddenly so over it and I'm not sure, it was as if the three weeks away from him I put him on a pedestal and then when I finally seen him I just noticed all the things I wasn't happy.

I don't feel like I can text him again and break up so soon as I think he would be fuming that I'm doing it again. And I can't deal with the back and forth of it all.

I left something at his house that I'm meant to collect tonight but I really don't want to see him. It's nothing that can't be replaced.

My question is would I be wrong to just ghost him? I know that sounds awful but I don't think I can face it. I am 100 percent sure I don't want to be with this guy.

Just grow up and tell him it's over and don't contact him again ,none of this ghosting bullshit

I think ghosting people is awful, but in the circumstances, with the way you have treated this man, its probably the lesser of two evils. If you stick to it, its a big bonus that the guy never has to speak to you again. Hopefully once he realises he is being ghosted, he will block to you and ignore any further attempts when you change your mind and want a bit of attention/drama.

Jesus what a horrible way to treat someone. Why are you doing this?

Christ alive - you’re a catch. He’s had a lucky escape. See how you like it when someone dicks you around like this. God - grow up.

Grow up.

It would be awful if you ghosted him. He took you back after you split up with him and agreed to give it another go. He deserves your honesty and would probably be happier without you to be honest. Don't treat people like this, it's really not nice at all.

how would you like to be ghosted? i'm assuming you're old enough to tell him how you feel. tell him, whether by text or in person, and focus on yourself for a bit.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

I’m not sure if you can read or not, but basically this means that if you don’t like the idea of being ‘ghosted’ yourself, then don’t be a gigantic sh** of a person and inflict that pain onto another.

Pretty simple really.

@TwentyEight12 no I can write but I can't read, doh!!

‘@madeahugemistake’

‘Ghosting’ and ‘Doh’

Says it all.

Grow up.

Sorry OP but you sound a bit emotionally unhinged and immature. You need to act like a responsible adult. Be honest with him and explain how you feel, rather than copping out with childish ignoring tactics. You seem to blow hot and cold. Maybe think about not being so emotionally invested so early on.

You cannot be serious with this behaviour?!
Instead of lovebombing him for no apparent reason, why didn't you do the grown-up thing of discussing your relationship, and what you'd like to change about it?

Unsure how I love bombed him

This, I then went batshit crazy on him for three weeks, saying I'd made a mistake, I love him, begging for another chance and staying for 14 hours sound like love bombing

If you were male I'd SWEAR you were my ex!

You’ve already been such a dick that in some ways there’s only so much more damage you can do now, so maybe you don’t have much to lose by ghosting him. But it would be incredibly cruel, and cowardly, and it would leave him confused and asking questions and with a massive dent to his self confidence. He doesn’t deserve that just because you made a mistake and are embarrassed about it.

Be decent and brave. Tell him you fucked up, you’re hugely sorry, you know it was wrong.

I expect in the long run he'd be relieved not to hear from you again. Please consider getting some sort of help, therapy to work on your issues. It's not healthy to treat someone like this, for either you or them.

your behavior has been frankly shambolic

Well aren’t you a delight!

Yes you’d be wrong to this, you’ve fucked him about enough already. Be decent and tell the poor sod you don’t want to see him anymore.

I think you should meet him dressed as a ghost. Pick up your thing and leave. Tell him you are from the future but a paradox means you're fading away.
Have some fun!

"There's no good men out there" - women.

Wow. That reads like quite a bad situation, I will withhold judgement (you've had plenty so far)
Are you ok? Is this the normal sort of way your relationships go? It reads like theres quite a lot going on with you.

Please, take the step of explaining to him how you feel, then dont contact him again, this will have all confused and hurt him.

And please work on whatever is going on before getting in another relationship.
Atleast assess why you've acted this way, and whether youd be treating new prospective partners this way x amount of time down the road.

YWBU to leave that bunny boiling on the pot on his hob. At least go and collect it.

Lol I'll try be less abusive.

I think you should be the bigger person and just speak with him, even by text, but that's the easy way out. Don't just ghost him, that's not very nice, but doesn't out you in a good light either. Do the right thing and tell him that you aren't feeling the relationship.