Family think I'm bad for leaving child at school 10mins before door opens

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I take my year 4 child early 10 mins before the school doors open and leave him there. I have another child to take to another school. He's 9 , I see no problem with it , other children are there too. Also, I don't regularly do that just occasionally.
My family seem to think this is very bad and I am putting my child at risk as the kids mess about. AIBU?

Fine from me. Mine started walking to school alone in year 4. Only five minutes walk to school, but they were unsupervised none the less.

It's fine, provided you accept it is at your own risk - a lot of schools deliberately do not have staff anywhere near the school playground before official school opening time, because they do not want to take responsibility for, and thus have liability for, children dumped on the school playground before the school has agreed to take responsibility for them. If your child did get hurt during that time, therefore, please don't try and pass the blame onto the school - it will be an accident you happily accepted the risk of all by yourself.

Fine unless you’re assuming another parent will help him if he has an accident/ needs the loo.

I would think a 9yr old could manage to wait 10 minutes till school opened then go to the loo on their own!

@Willow2017 my point was about my own experience of a child who injured themselves twice! Would you expect a 9 year old to bleed for 10 minutes until the door opened?

Loads of people do that at our school from far younger. Yanbu at 9

Totally fine no issues anyone sticking their nose in can sod off. If you can’t leave your 9 year old on their own for 10 mins you haven’t raised them right.

CountryGirl1234

If your child is on school premises without a parent, nobody is “sticking their nose in”. The school staff are responsible for what happens on school premises.

Well the school can easily refuse access onto premises should they want too, I feel they’re being reasonable allowing children there probably for that very reason, they have said nothing.. so that only leaves the family as OP stated ‘sticking their nose in’

If you are leaving your 4 year old early YABU totally

Christ alive the child is 9 and in Year 4z

CountryGirl1234

I agree that it is not up to the OP’s family. But I suspect the school leave the gates open because otherwise the children and parents would have to wait in the street.

Is there a teacher on duty at that time? If so, it’s absolutely fine to leave a nine year old.

This is very low risk especially if there are other children there yanbu

Where we live (not the UK) kids walk alone to school from age 6. DS is 9 and gets the tram across town alone to get to school.

Each to their own but 9 is too young IMO.

WillLokireturn
*I was trying to be understanding that you said
So I read 4 year old...That is why I said it was confusing..
as you have struggled to read Original post nor have RTFT. I haven't made anything up. 🙄

Not sure why you are tagging me into a still-not-rtft comment from you, but please don't tag me in again. If you then have a point to make, RTFT and make it to other people. Thanks.*

You tagged me and I responded!
Your aggressive comment, above, was unnecessary.

I'm out guys ... this is never ending... thanks for the responses though

In our school we drop off at the gates when is ks2. No parents hang around or really walks into school! Yanbu op.

Yes nothing wrong with that at all

He's 9. It's fine!!

Not to restart the argument, but it is telling that the OP doesn’t want to comment on why she doesn’t send her DS to school on his own, if he is so responsible and mature. I wonder why she prefers him to be sat outside his teacher’s window. 🧐

Not to restart the argument..
Oh the irony!! 🙄

Hercule OP has left and so have many others. You have single handedly taken over this thread, badgering and being unpleasant to anyone that states different to your point of view. Repetetive points.

Do you usually find it hard to let conversations move on. Anyway, like many others I'm out.

WillLokireturn

I don’t think I’ve been unpleasant to anyone. But certainly, I’d prefer the OP to explain why she doesn’t think she’s cheeky. Oh well.

@herculepoirot2 will it give you some satisfaction to say I am cheeky?

Will it give me satisfaction if I say it or if you say it?