Family think I'm bad for leaving child at school 10mins before door opens

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I take my year 4 child early 10 mins before the school doors open and leave him there. I have another child to take to another school. He's 9 , I see no problem with it , other children are there too. Also, I don't regularly do that just occasionally.
My family seem to think this is very bad and I am putting my child at risk as the kids mess about. AIBU?

I am not cross. I just don’t see the point in arguing with someone who seems incapable of understanding me correctly.

Well clearly if I'm incapable of understanding what you have written then so are other posters we don't have a clue what point you were or were not trying to make. I'm not even sure if the point was relevant to the OPs question or whether you just wanted to make it so that you had another thing to argue about? Please enlighten me as to what I didn't understand?

I know. As much as I could, I challenged it. Appalling stuff. Not surprisingly same child thinks a scratch is a massive issue. Maybe we should be dropping more kids off early!!

No, it isn't. Supervising is different. It means to observe, and nobody is expecting you to do that in this scenario.

Fair enough. Not supervise, but be responsible. The OP would not, I expect, accept a teacher saying, “Yes, I saw him crying but I was photocopying.” Whereas, if someone on the street saw her child crying and didn’t ask if he was okay, she might be privately annoyed, but no complaint would be forthcoming because she would be aware that her child wasn’t their responsibility..

Perhaps the OP can come back and tell us whether she would leave her 9 year old sitting for ten minutes in a shopping centre because the security guards could help him, or in a restaurant because the waiter could help him.

Doubtful, seeing as she has stated that her child is never otherwise alone.

@herculepoirot2 I only mentioned bullying and grooming because you mentioned this as one of the perceived risks to a 9year old waiting for 10mins.
Are you also saying the 10 or so children's parents milling about before the classroom doors open are cheeky and unreasonable?

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No.

Are you also saying the 10 or so children's parents milling about before the classroom doors open are cheeky and unreasonable?

Sorry, could you clarify what you mean?

@herculepoirot2 again I reiterate taking in account child's behaviour, situation he is left in, amount of time left- I am assuming my 9year old is sensible and responsible enough to look after himself

@herculepoirot2 I am asking if you think as a collective all us 10 or so parents are being unreasonable leaving out children

again I reiterate taking in account child's behaviour, situation he is left in, amount of time left- I am assuming my 9year old is sensible and responsible enough to look after himself

And again, I reiterate, you expect - not hope - that teachers will deal with it if he does get into any difficulty. You expect the teachers to do your job for you.

pointbla

You are saying 9 other parents do what you do?

No.

Well that was productive. If I apparently am so inept at understanding your point surely you would wish to enlighten me. Given that you are so adamant you are right?

I read it wrong at the start sorry. Very long day yesterday. Year 4 thats fine. Its outside school. Sorry again

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You don’t like being told no, do you?

I think breakfast club seems extreme for 10 mins.
Ide be much happier to pay e.g. 50p a day for time before school in the playground.
All my dc needed that 10 mins run around in the morning. I found it calmed them down a bit for school because they had burnt off come energy.

You don’t like being told no, do you?

I'm happy to admit when I'm wrong and when I misunderstand hence why I would like you to further clarify. As I don't understand how or what you said that I and others on the thread have clearly misinterpreted so spectacularly. I also think you were pretty rude to the Op when all she did was respond to a comment you made.

As I don't understand how or what you said that I and others on the thread have clearly misinterpreted so spectacularly. I also think you were pretty rude to the Op when all she did was respond to a comment you made.

Well, you’re entitled to that view. I am entitled not to explain myself endlessly when my posts - having read through them again - just don’t say what you repeatedly said they say. It’s tedious.

I am entitled not to explain myself endlessly when my posts - having read through them again - just don’t say what you repeatedly said they say. It’s tedious.

They really do say what I said as I quoted them. I don't see how you can claim they didn't when I was using your exact words.

I genuinely feel you were just looking for something to moan and argue about which is why you continued to post random comments on this thread that had little to do with the Ops actual question.

They really do say what I said as I quoted them. I don't see how you can claim they didn't when I was using your exact words

This is like debating with an early doors AI computer. It sounds like someone talking, but there’s no logic to it.

@herculepoirot2 you are missing the point.

Realistically , I am not expecting anyone to supervise or be responsible for my child or do my job for me.
If and I reiterate if an incident was to occur would I expect and hope staff would help.

Therefore I'm not expecting any supervision

If and I reiterate if an incident was to occur would I expect and hope staff would help.

Cheeky.

This is like debating with an early doors AI computer. It sounds like someone talking, but there’s no logic to it.

Of course there is logic to it. I asked you to explain if I had got the completely wrong idea from your posts but you wont. I used sentences you typed out and yet you claim you didn't say those things? Very little of what you are saying relates to the OPs question and yet you wont explain to anyone even the Op why you mentioned those things?

But anyway, you clearly don’t agree, OP. I can’t change your mind for you.

Its fine! Blimey, he’s 9, not a toddler. Lots of kids are in the playground before school starts!

Cheeky.

Its not cheeky. Any good teacher or school staff member would offer to help if there was an incident that required it, e.g. a broken leg even if the child's parent was present. Believe it or not most people working in schools actually care about the children and would willingly help even if it is outside of the designated time to look after them.

Next sept my kids will both be in the same school so I will definitely be staying until the doors open no issue