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To think I could be pregnant?

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treathertokeepher · 18/07/2019 20:10

I've just taken these. I done the blue one first but I know they're notorious for 'false positives' so tried a pink dye test. Same thing, a squinter of a faint line but with a tinge of colour too.

I'm due on in two days time. I had a feeling so I just had to do a test 

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treathertokeepher · 18/07/2019 20:11

Tests

To think I could be pregnant?
To think I could be pregnant?
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Smilingthru · 18/07/2019 20:15

I’m really sorry but I can’t see anything. It could be too early though so maybe test again in a few days if your late??

Jamiefraserskilt · 18/07/2019 20:16

You are taking a test before your period is due? Why the hurry? Patience my friend. See what transpires over the next week or so.

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treathertokeepher · 18/07/2019 20:16

Smiling Don't be sorry Grin

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NoSauce · 18/07/2019 20:18

I can see very, very faint lines OP. Wait two days and test again, hopefully you’ll have a conclusive answer.

SmallHope · 18/07/2019 20:26

I can see a squinter of a line on your pink dye test, OP.

I hope you get the result you're hoping for!

Cantthinkofanythingrightnow · 18/07/2019 20:29

I think I can see something on the pink one! Fingers crossed for you.

Hopefully someone will be along soon who knows how to do the infrared thing.

AllTheGlitter · 18/07/2019 20:30

I can see lines, take a FRER tomorrow morning!

HJWT · 18/07/2019 20:35

I think your line is better than mine !! And I am 27 weeks now! FX op 😁🤞🏻

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HJWT · 18/07/2019 20:35

Defo get a FRER for the morning if you can x

Weevle84 · 18/07/2019 20:45

Yes I can see lines on both! Congrats!!

Thehop · 18/07/2019 21:02

I see it! I hope you’re happy?

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treathertokeepher · 19/07/2019 12:24

Really, really don't want a positive but took a cheapie on lunch break and looks darker Sad

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SmallHope · 19/07/2019 12:29

I'm sorry if it's not the result you were hoping for. :( Do have someone you can talk to IRL?

Thehop · 19/07/2019 12:33

Oh OP I’m sorry this isn’t what you hoped.

Can you get some support with decision making? X

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treathertokeepher · 19/07/2019 12:33

Small Thank you Thanks

Just DH really but I don't feel able to talk to him about it yet. He will be thrilled and I just can't stand to see that sort of reaction right now

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IsobelRae23 · 19/07/2019 12:35

I can see a shadow on both of them. Sorry.

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treathertokeepher · 20/07/2019 09:44

A clear positive on a first response this morning. Absolutely gutted.

I want to speak to someone but don't know who. I don't really have anyone. And the one person I like and could really talk to would eventually tell DH for sure.

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KTD27 · 20/07/2019 10:29

Tell us. If you need to. You haven’t got the result you wanted - are you able to say why?
Flowers you don’t have to remain pregnant if this is not what you want

TwistyTop · 20/07/2019 10:32

You don't have to decide right away. Take a few days to think it over. Hope it all works out for you x

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treathertokeepher · 20/07/2019 11:57

I don't want another DC.

I'll be honest and say we were using natural family planning for years successfully. We stopped for one cycle and I got pregnant with DS.

After DS we continued to use natural family planning for a while before I thought "another baby just isn't worth the risk of this" and so I got a coil.

I'm now pregnant with it.

I'm extremely annoyed and I feel so angry. DH would be thrilled that I am pregnant. He would adore another DC and knows I don't want any more children, but that I would consider again in 4/5 years.

He would be absolutely heartbroken if I had a termination and has expressed to me before that he respects that I don't want another baby but if I did somehow turn out pregnant, he could never forgive me for aborting it.

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JustMe81 · 20/07/2019 12:13

You don’t need to make any decisions right now OP. You’re very early going by lightness of the lines. Give yourself time to process what’s happened.

KTD27 · 20/07/2019 13:44

What sort of coil OP? If it’s a mirena you need to get checked as there’s a high chance it could be ectopic

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treathertokeepher · 20/07/2019 13:55

KT Copper coil. I know I need to get it checked over to be on the safer side but I just don't know what to do.

I feel like having all of this on my medical records is too 'final'.

I know hospitals and whatever else have a duty to provide confidentiality but they have failed me twice on that on two separate occasions

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KTD27 · 20/07/2019 14:08

Oh gosh you poor thing. How frustrating that you’ve been failed in terms of confidentiality. I’d suggest seeing your GP but if you’ve had issues previously I understand you wouldn’t want to.
Could you afford to do it privately? If you want a termination you could make an appointment with Marie stopes and you would not need to share this information. Not saying it’s the best idea in terms of keeping it a secret but it’s a route you absolutely can take if you have the funds.
Only you know what to do about your husband. You’ve only even spoken about it in theory so there could be a chance he will agree that not having a baby is the right course of action. If you think he will pressure you though then take some time to think things through. You don’t need to be in a massive rush there’s time. Flowers

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