I'm bored of all my mum friends

[RainbowGlitter]

I've got my judgy pants pulled right up high at the moment.
I'm bored of their petty squabbles, their one-upmanship and the unrelenting dullness of their Fatface clothing.
I like their children, most of the time, and I need the reassurance that all our kids are heading in the right direction when I have a wobble.

So should i drop the friendships that are really just due to having kids at the same time.

[ConkerGame]

Not everyone is suited to mum/dad friendships. My mum wasn’t friends with any of the parents at either of my schools as she didn’t have much in common with them. Not everyone finds talking about kids interesting. Better to slowly take a step back from this group and re-focus on your own friends from before kids, who you can talk about other things with. Don’t cut the mum friends off completely though - you never now when you might need their support.

[Rachelover40]

Rainbow Glitter, I never joined groups of mothers and children, didn't particularly want the company of other mums with babies and toddlers, I felt shy around them and as if we had nothing in common apart from being parents. Your post resonates with me, I instinctively knew that was how it would be if I got involved.

It was much better to have friends at work; they had children too but conversation didn't revolve around the kids, there were other things to talk about. Plus we were more stretched at work.

I understand and agree with what you and Haworthia say.

Being part of a 'mum group' is not essential. There is far more to each and every one of us than being a mum.

(I wasn't familiar with FatFace clothing so googled. Quite nice ordinary clothes.)

[AgnesNutterWitch]

YABU, Fat Face is amazing. Pretty much my entire post-baby wardrobe is from there.

[SolsticeBabyMaybe]

Mute the watsapp group. It's so much easier to deal with big chat blowups when you can read them at your leisure!

Spend some time with totally different friends.

You don't need to 'drop' the mums, just maybe distance them for a bit as they are driving you potty.

[userxx]

Dont you have any friends without kids?

[CocoPops901]

This is why I don’t make friends with the other mums at school. We all barely have anything in common except the fact our children are roughly the same age.

Find a hobby, something you enjoy, and find more like minded people

[InsertFunnyUsername]

Id be bored of it too so YANBU.


You don't have to be friends with just Mums, and your DC will do just fine if you aren't in the mix.

[roundturnandtwohalfhitches]

I feel like this. A lot. I think I'm just not suited to being a proper grown up. I'm sure my ears start to bleed when the perfectly nice friends I've made through DCs school start talking about perfectly reasonable middle aged things like new bathrooms, teachers, prosecco evenings and kids dancing classes. But it's me. Not them.

[NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace]

Well, I have no children so I don't have a plethora of 'mum friends'.

However, I LOVE my FatFace shocking pink hoodie

[ZillaPilla]

ALL your Mum friends?

I have a 20 and 10 yo. I have made some very, very good long term friends through the initial friendships made 16 years ago with DS1. They are people I would choose to spend time with, but it was our children that brought us together.

I am in a small book club with friends from DS2's class. He's going into yr6 next year so many casual friendships will just run their course in a year or so, but I know our book club will continue.

And while the talk about kids will decrease, we will still always have that in common.

I like it.

Mum friends

[ZillaPilla]

I have muted the class whatsapp though!

[1wokeuplikethis]

Are they actually your friends? Because I have mum friends who are funny and interesting and don’t blether on about boring kid stuff constantly.

I have acquaintances who bleat on relentlessly about their children and how talented and perfect they are and how many cakes did I bake for the pta and are they gluten free vegan lactose intolerantly plausible. These are the people I am polite to but would NEVER have a coffee with.

[surlycurly]

I moved house a few years ago to a new town and resolved not to make any new mum friends. None. I didn't. So... you should move. You're welcome.

[HundredMilesAnHour]

You had me at Fatface clothing. But I'm shallow like that.

[Paddingtonthebear]

It sounds like you are too involved.

I am nearly at end of Y1 and whilst I am friendly at drop off and pick up, I don’t socialise with anyone from school or get involved in anything other than light chit chat. In the two years of being a school parent I haven’t once had a conversation with any other parent about my child’s progress, reading levels, how they organise the classes each year, teacher grumbles, friendship issues, PTA demands or whatever else some people like to obsess about.

It makes life sooo much easier. My sister warned me about parents and school dramas and I decided not to get involved from day one!

[Paddingtonthebear]

This is perfect timing to back away from it all over the summer hols though!

[raspberryk]

I am almost never friends with the school and baby group mums, I have recently been added to Whatsapp for the class which I had avoided til now and I largely ignore. I don't socialise with these people ever but I am civil and I make no mistake about the fact that we are definitely not friends. I save my time and energy for my actual friends (most with kids nowadays and a few not). They probably see me as the hopeless, unorganised and non caring about school mum and I don't like a monkeys.

[raspberryk]

Give a monkeys haha

[RainbowGlitter]

I am being punished - the Fatface ads are now stalking me!
It is perfectly pleasant might have the odd thing but on mass it looks like a parental school uniform

[hollieberrie]

Yanbu. Fat Face clothes are horrific. Definitely sack them off for that alone

[formerbabe]

Hilarious...I'll be your mate op!

[formerbabe]

I know just the type you're talking about so for that ready, yanbu

[formerbabe]

*reason

[bluefruits]

My dcs are 2 and 1 and I'm already dreading the school mums. I've found a solid 80% of the mums at baby and toddler groups painful to be around.

Maybe it's the area I live in as it's a bit middle class/try hard middle class.

But it's just a mass competition and comparisons for every child's achievements to date. Ridiculously boring. I'm hoping it improves as they get older...

[madeyemoodysmum]

I thought when I first read thisThat your kids were little. Are they secondary age! If you don’t feel they are true better friends by now they never will be