Isn’t child controlling me .

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I am at my wits end . I have an eight year old son, youngest child , who wants to dictate and know my every move. He can be anxious and gets upset when I am not in his vicinity. It is a habit I believe, as he will not sleep unless he begins his night sleep in my bed . He has now started to be aggressive and angry when he feels wronged and his demeanour is sometimes threatening. I could write about the family dynamic that has led to my realisation of this for a long time but the situation is that we have a stable and happy marriage and another child with special needs who takes up a lot of our time and attention . Am I being controlled or is he lashing out at our lack of sufficient time with him. Can you please please advise me. He does not speak to me with respect and I need to nip this in the bud right away. Thank you for reading.

Shes 11 now and is a happy confident little girl today, I was pulling my hair our crying and struggling with the stress of looking after my youngest dd and her big sister that was very used to coming sadly 2nd to her sister due to her dissabled but we've had a good hard few years of making sure shes not forgotten and shes just as important. Has your sen child got a social worker or health visitor? They might me able to suggest some activities or groups for your son to attend or even getting acsess to funding so he can do something fun like sports or horse riding? All the best op

Sounds a lot like my son! He is nearly 11 and has HFA/Asperger's Syndrome. He also began ritualising hand washing and becoming overly obsessive about hygiene. Please try to have him assessed. My son was diagnosed age 6 after being on paed radar from the age of 3 and recently his behaviour worsened (blood tests and physical exams all normal so they think he is pre-pubescent, and indeed, he's showing signs of this) so he is now on fluoxetine and seeing a paed psychiatrist and behavioural psychologist for further assessment and therapy and treatment to manage his anxiety.

He doesn't sound controlling to me tbh. All of what you have said makes it seem like he is very anxious and because of that he is acting the way he is. He want's advance notice if you have to transition to another activity or go out, his needs to know where every one is, trying to dictate what others should do. It all shouts high anxiety to me and he might want to be in control as he feels like things will go out of hand if he doesn't do things a certain way. Get him some therapy please. He definitely needs it.