To still be upset about SIL giving away result of tennis final

[Twigletgirl27]

I can’t work out if I’m blowing this up out of all proportion. Was out this afternoon and unable to watch final of men’s singles at Wimbledon. I recorded it to watch this evening. SIL is big tennis fan and my husband messaged his sister asking her not to send any spoilers as we weren’t watching live. She is a huge Federer fan and sent us a message at approx 7.15pm with lots of sad faces and told us he’d lost. We’re not going to watch recording because to be honest what’s the bloody point. Still feeling very upset with her.

Seems spiteful of her when she’d been specifically asked not to.

Why did your dh tell you if he knew it was important to you?

Watch it. I promise you will not regret it. Some of the most incredible tennis ever played by 2 of the best players ever.

The tennis was amazing. But the cricket was better. Highlights just starting .....

Watch the cricket. Brilliant game.

Sil applied it for dh.
Dh spoiled it for you.

Its totally shit and rude of her after being asked not to. I suppose though there is worse things that could happen in life.

YANBU, but I can't believe your DH told you! Not into tennis here, but we both love formula one and nowadays record the races to watch in the evenings when DD is down. Occasionally one of us will be spoiled but we never say to the other.

Is she usually spiteful? Yanbu in the fact you said you wouldn't be watching. This is different to accidentally coming across the final.

And the award for the most middle class post of the day goes to....

Why are you blaming SIL when presumably it was your DH who actually told you?

Maybe she actually didn’t see the earlier message? U less she’s usually horrible, I would give her the benefit of the doubt.

If she text your husband how do you score? Why didn’t your husband keep it to himself? He should be annoyed af his sister, but you should be annoyed at your husband for then passing the spoiler on and ruining it for you too.

She may well have gotten caught up and not seen the message
It’s the risk you take with these things

This time last year, my very good friend was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, she was dead 25 days later.

If you want to discuss my upset versus yours I am all for it.

Start watching it now OP. Be prepared for a late night/early morning 4am! But it's a match for the history books. Absolutely superb.

I’m genuinely sorry for your loss naomi. One of my friends had just been diagnosed with inoperable brain metastasis from what is probably lung cancer. She has two children under 8. It’s awful.

I don’t think your experience is relevant to this thread. The op isn’t comparing her feelings to anyone else’s.

Watch the cricket instead! My heart's thudding and I know the score, it was briliant!

And the award for the most middle class post of the day goes to....
grin

One assumes that had it been football, snooker, darts, or whatever activity you consider sufficiently oikish it would have been different. The cricket was amazing too and the Grand Prix was well worth watching, how does that fit your non-'middle class' credentials?

purpledaisies

I am so sorry you are going through the same sort of thing.

However, I do feel it is relevant, what you and I are experiencing is life forming and life changing in the worst possible way.

Tennis is annoying but just an irrelevance. IMO

Tennis is annoying but just an irrelevance. IMO

It’s relevant to the op.

The tennis part isn’t even the problem, really. It’s the fact the SIL supposedly did it on purpose.

Whether other people have worse problems doesn’t make a difference. The op is upset about this and shouldn’t be made to feel as if she shouldn’t have posted because other people are dealing with more difficult things.

Ok best we agree to disagree.

So what did your dh say when you asked him why he spoiled it for you? This is what would bug me more than sil. Can't imagine dp doing that even if he was exasperated with his sister.

That is a terrible sad thing to happen Naomi but not at all relevant to the thread. You can't really think that no-one can ever get upset about anything ever again, because of your sad loss ?

I too am wondering why you aren't blaming your dh, OP, as it seems it was him that told you, when he needn't have.
If it mattered so much though, you needed to turn off all phones / radio / TV / social media on any device.
Its annoying, but still worth watching from what the news reports say.
I'm not so interested in the tennis, but have still picked up the cricket on catch up even though I knew the result, because it was so thrilling - it is still worth watching.

YABU, v hard to avoid information, if the tennis was a high priority you could have organised to watch it live.

YABU, v hard to avoid information

The op had avoided the information. Apart from the text, which she’d specifically asked not to receive, she wouldn’t have known the result.

Op what makes you think your SIL did it deliberately? If my SIL has done this, I’d have assumed it was just an accident because she hadn’t got my text.