Nits - husband has told whole class on WhatsApp

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A child gets nits, you tell the school and they send out an email to the whole class to let parents know. It's anonymous obviously, no child is named. We discover nits this morning on DD1. Husband decides to announce it on our class WhatsApp rather than wait til Monday and let the school know. I don't think he should have done this. AIBU?

YABU. Two DC. Niace school. we get a warning from a parent on our whatsapps every other month or so. no biggie. no need to be anonymous.

Waiting until Monday and giving any affected kids a chance to spread it to the rest of their families seems a bit U though. Especially if just done so as to save yourself embarrassment.

It’s only nits all kids get them at some point and I’d appreciate the heads up, some schools take a few days to let parents know

Our school don't send out nit emails so its fairly normal to put it on the class fb. I work in KS1 and its fairly common to get children announce it themselves anyway, we've never had teasing at that age, its the older years where it becomes an issue.

YABU - if it leads to bullying then there is an issue in the school and its not nits...

A bit U.

The kids usually know who has and hasn’t got them and it shouldn’t be stigmatised. I suffered with threadworms for ages as a kid because I was too embarrassed to tell my mum. I never want my kids to feel like that - but no one, even the school mention the W word, ever!

I think it's a good idea and wish this type of communication had been around when mine were small.

My bloody dc attracted nits like they were going out of fashion. I'd have loved an early warning system although I'd be the one posting weekly

I don't know anyone that thinks nits are shameful..The only parents children I have ever heard discussed are the ones that don't treat them..

Good for your DH.;

Out class WhatsApp group was full of Nit Watch chat. No one was bullied and it was really helpful as everyone treated their children regardless and stopped infestations spreading.

I would be grateful for a heads up over the weekend. I could spend time nit combing with conditioner, during the week with 3 DC I would have to pay a small fortune and chuck the chemicals over their heads due to lack of time.

Years ago in DD1s class there were repeat infestations due to someone not treating at all. At one point we had no eggs or little ones, but were daily pulling out HUGE ones. Someone snapped and let loose on the class group chat. Everyone knew who it was and it was affecting the poor kid socially.

All the kids know anyway, in my experience- DC often informed me cheerfully that so-and-so has nits, and then we’d check. School would send a note in book bags sometimes but not infallibly so I’d have appreciated the heads up from your DH on WhatsApp.

I wouldn't care one bit. When my kids got nits, they were delighted and wanted to keep them as pets.
I see no shame in talking to other parents about it. I was even relieved to learn that I wasn't the only parent battling and we all shared tips together (and bought nitty gritty combs).

I do hate it when parents are not vigilant and it goes round and round and round and round the classes...

I ALWAYS say on the class groups gives everyone a chance to check their dc and I’m in no way bothered who knows we have had them it’s nothing to be ashamed of !

Oh god, I did have a little giggle at this (sorry). Men aye??

On the plus side at least all the parents might check now!!

I would be annoyed too but the truth is the vast majority of children will get them at some point and it’s nothing to be embarrassed. The issues with nits in school are the parents who don’t check or the parents who don’t do anything about it. When I went to school. There was a child who was always riddled. She knew, her mum knew but nothing was done! Why? Because the mother had 6 kids and supposedly couldn’t afford to buy treatments over and over again (a comb is fine). She said her children were more prone to them. Bull!! She was just right and lazy.

I think it's brilliant of him. Parents often announce this on the year group Facebook page at my children's school.
Why wait until Monday? Easier for people to sort any issues over the weekend.
Kids just get nits on occasion, it's nothing to be ashamed of.

That's a great idea to tell the parents. How very bizarre.

They're nits, not genital warts. That's like being embarrassed about having chicken pox.

We didn’t have what’s app etc when dc were in school, instead you’d drop the dc at the gate and a parent would say ‘I found nits on x last night when washing their hair’, then that parent would tell others as they turned up and so on. No child was ever teased for it, and at one stage ds2 had them 4 times in 6 weeks. His worse, he stayed at a friends, came home and a day later mum text me to say they had nits, checked ds and he had them, got dp to check me, and I had them- 3 days after have hair extensions glued in. They all had to come out, £380 for 3 days hair. I wasn’t bitter.... honest.....

I am on the fence, if the other parents had any sense they know any child can get nits, they don't tell their DC the WhatsApp business BUT not all.parents have sense so yes I'd be annoyed with him.

I wouldn't have done that, but if she's only in yr 1 then it's probably fine.

I remember a girl being horribly bullied in my school because she was suspected as the one who had nits (there wasn't even any evidence!), but this was in yr5.

Buy tea tree shampoo, or the oil add it the a water spray bottle, my DC have never had them, there has been many notes, I'm convinced the tea tree keeps them away.