Nits - husband has told whole class on WhatsApp

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A child gets nits, you tell the school and they send out an email to the whole class to let parents know. It's anonymous obviously, no child is named. We discover nits this morning on DD1. Husband decides to announce it on our class WhatsApp rather than wait til Monday and let the school know. I don't think he should have done this. AIBU?

Why is there such a stigma over nits? Kids get them.

I would be pleased your DH had let me know over the weekend so we could check etc. Rather then on Monday evening.

In our class what’s app group people often flag up kid has nits and people just say “thanks for heads up”.

If a child bullies another child for having nits then I guarantee they will find something else to bully them about if the nits weren’t mentioned!

well unless you are home growing and distributing the nits, the children got them from school.

so on the whole I bet more parents appreciate a prompt NitAlert than waiting till Monday for the NitEmail.

Normal to tell the class WhatsApp group in our class. Just because you're the parent who noticed them first doesn't mean your child is the source of the problem. Maybe you're just more observant!

i dont think its something children get bullied for these days, certainly not at my dc's school. The school doesnt do an email for nits and even say you dont need to tell them if your dc have them, so i tend to put on the class fb if my dc get them so do other parents, the dc themselves usually tell everyone anyway.

At my kids’ school, some do announce on what’s app, some don’t. The email from school can sometimes come 2 weeks or more after a parent has told them! So I was always in the ‘tell everyone’ category to encourage everyone to check their own children asap. But recently one of my children had a hard time from another child, whose mum had told them to be careful around mine. I’ve learned my lesson and don’t tell now.

I’d appreciate the warning so I could check and I certainly wouldn’t tell my child that a child in her class had nits - I would hope the other parents would react the same way but perhaps some are not very discreet?

The stigma to nits has now reduced. No hushed tones. Dd had them about 3 times. No bullying.

This is quite common amongst the parent Whats app and facebook groups at the school I work at.

I don't really see the issue!

Children get head lice. It's one of the most common things ever. It's not shameful or something to be embarrassed about. Treat them, tell others so they can check and treat and move on.

The children at our school tell one another if they've been treated. There's been no bullying or anything amongst them over this.

well done that man.now they are all aware.no excuses.i hate nits

When DD got them I ‘announced’ it on the group chat. Another mum said to me ‘you’re brave telling everyone’. I just wanted people to know ASAP so they could check their children.
No one was mean to her (to my knowledge).

Totally agree it is nothing to be ashamed of. It's probably more the string of 'helpful' suggestions to us and other parents on how to deal with them. Year 1 age so would have thought we've all had plenty of experience already. And I hope parents do check and treat if necessary as it's a complete ball ache and I don't want to be doing it again in a hurry.

depends on the age, depends on the class.

Around here, parents inform the class, no one is bullied or shame, it's just one of these things.

I don't believe anyone would take their kids out of school for nits!

At least it gave the other parents the weekend to check and treat their children's hair. I'm sure they do this sort of thing on my Grandchildren's school Facebook page. As a teacher I've never known of children bullying each other about headlice, it's just 'one of those things'.

That's very normal on our class WhatsApp. It's nothing to be ashamed of

Well done to your husband.

Head lice are absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and the stigma around what is a pretty normal childhood ailment is ridiculous.
They're should be no embarrassment. Treat them and that's that.

I think it's fine to tell the other parents now also, gives them time to check before school on Monday.

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Bloody phone. They're = there

I think it's a sensible thing to do and exactly what I did when my child got them.

I don't understand why anyone is embarrassed that their child has them, it's a perfectly normal part of early school life!

What made you cross about your husband posting about it OP?

As it's the weekend i think it's the perfect time to check and treat before school on Monday. I think your DH did the right thing. It's unlikely your DD is the only one in the class with them!

Well done him.

I'm with your DH. I have found nits on my son 3 times in the past month. Treated every week for 4 weeks. Told pre school. Not once have they sent out a text or letter. So I treat him, he goes to pre school and comes home with them again. If we had a whatsapp group or fb page I'd have happily announced it.

I find it idiotic that parents don't put the ages of their children in their OP's.

Your DH did the decent and most sensible thing. YABU.

I find it idiotic that parents don't put the ages of their children in their OP's.

I find it idiotic that people can't be arsed to read a thread or all the OP's posts.

I’m just really glad I’m not on a class WhatsApp or Facebook group for either child 😅😅

I think it's great he did that, but I'd let the teacher know what happened too so if s/he sees or hears any comments they can be nipped in the bud.