Date ended up meeting her friends ...aibu to be annoyed?

[yetrer]

I've been dating her for about 2 months now.
Anyway we had a date and we planned to spend the day /night together.
We had a few drinks in the pub and her friend text (who I've socialised with a few times too )
She said let's go meet her and her boyfriend.
So we only got 2 hours just the two of us and the rest of the time was with her friend and friends b/f
I was a little annoyed as I just wanted time together.
Aibu ?

You sound like hard work

YANBU, if it was a romantic date you'd expect it to be just the two of you, you can meet her friends later. That's just me, though. I've always preferred one-to-one and I'm aware I'm in the minority.

YANBU because you'd planned to spend the day/night together and then she changed that on a whim, because her friend sent a text.
This ^^.
And a £ says people assumed you were a bloke and did the usual Mumsnet 'don't be nice to men' routine. If you'd said you were also female in the OP you'd have had a different response. (I know, bloody stupid but that's how some are on here)
Maybe you should say that you'd like a bit of time just the two of you 'because we've only had 2 dates so far just on our own and I'd like to get to know you better' (or something)?

First same sex attraction? That's makes a big difference OP. You are navigating new ground. Am I right that your gf is more experienced? You need to talk with her about your feelings. I was overwhelmed by my feelings when I was in your shoes OP. You need to schedule some one to one time and talk.

Normal rules apply- you are entitled to honesty in any sexual/romantic relationship. If you don't know where you are with her you need to ask her for answers.

And a £ says people assumed you were a bloke

Yes I did tbh.

and did the usual Mumsnet 'don't be nice to men' routine

No, it's not about not being nice to blokes. It's because there are many, many blokes out there who are possessive and want to control women. Yes, some women are like this too, but in general it's women who are socialised into putting others first and men who are socialised into putting themselves first. It's more likely to be men who start with red flags to do with controlling women and working up to domestic violence.

The OP's posts did raise red flags for controlling men. Yes I do read it differently if she's a woman, as she's less likely to be acting out a desire to control women in that way.

I assumed bloke too. What I said still stands BUT I understand if it's your first female thing that you are not sure what the rules are. I haven't got a clue either. I still think just chill out and go with it. I hope it works out for you OP!

It's not really a reasonable or not thing. You can feel how you want to feel. Different people have different levels of expectations, enjoyment etc of meeting other people particularly on the extrovert/ introvert scale as well.

I wouldn't start any conversation saying you thought it was unreasonable of her it's generally quite a compliment in general if they want you to hang out with their friends. If it becomes a pattern then it's something to discuss about how you both like to socialise and whether its compatible
I have other friends worried cause they hardly meet the friends of the people who they are dating.

Not sure why you're getting such a hard time? Maybe people are extra arsey on here at the weekend because they've had a few drinks or something...

Sounds like she thinks this is definitely going somewhere if she wanted you to meet her friends, but you aren't quite there yet and want to get to know her a bit more first. I think you should have said at the time that you'd rather it was just the two of you, but I can understand you not wanting to under the circumstances.

Maybe for the next date you could do something a bit more structured, like bowling, cinema, dinner etc. That way it can't turn into "let's meet up with my mates".