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To wish MIL would get her own life

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cadburyegg · 12/07/2019 17:38

DH told MIL we were considering getting a cat. She does have form for interfering behaviour, but this time she went ballistic. He showed me the following texts from her, more or less word for word.

"You who don't have time for us, but you are now getting a pet to look after?"
"Your house will be ruined. What a waste of money"
“Not happy about the litter tray and the children 😡”

DH (politely) texted that it is our decision and she went off on one again. “Well you just do what you want then as you always do. Either that you know we are right!"

He said to me he feels really down and undermined but he knows if he tells her that she'll just start moaning at him again. I don't know why she made the comment about us not having time for them, they come to over at least once a month for a cooked lunch. We saw them last weekend, the two weekends before that DH was working. We don't go round there much because they find cooking a meal for all of us a lot of work (we have two young DC).

It is between him and her, but I just wish she would butt out. AIBU?!

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TwistyTop · 13/07/2019 01:20

Ah, this one is easy to sort - send her a text that says "fuck off".

You're welcome Smile

HerRoyalNotness · 13/07/2019 01:31

70is. Your black cats are beautiful!

I was at the pet store today getting litter and a one eyed kitten was waiting for adoption. I fear she won’t be taken and get put down. One of her bastard siblings scratched her eye which got infected.

GenuineKlatchianPottery · 13/07/2019 01:32

Get a cat and teach it to hide then pounce on her

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YesQueen · 13/07/2019 01:39

My mum claims to be allergic she just dislikes them and she was going on about how she could always smell a cat and her allergies and how they were vicious and..
My dad started sniggering and she was all "what? What?"
My dad "well YesQueens cat has been asleep behind you for an hour..."

He's black and blends in well Grin but he really is the sweetest cat. My neighbours child likes to carry him under one arm and then cuddle and brush him and he just sits and purrs at her. He accidentally clawed me once and cried for about an hour and hid Sad

RosesAndRaindrops · 13/07/2019 01:45

I don't like cats, and allergic to them to boot
but even I'm saying it's nothing to do with your MIL, it's yours and your DH's decision, nowt to do with her.
Just mentally file under "Oookay" and get one anyway!

Jemima232 · 13/07/2019 02:10

Well if this is a free-for-all cat-posting thread

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MooseBeTimeForSummer · 13/07/2019 02:39

This one is expert level hard stare

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Jemima232 · 13/07/2019 03:01

And here are two more

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Birdie6 · 13/07/2019 03:25

I'm loving this thread.

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visitorthedog · 13/07/2019 03:35

Definitely name it after her.

Topseyt · 13/07/2019 03:38

Get a cat and a dog, or even a couple of each.. That should rile MIL up nicely

Stop oversharing with her. Just get on with your lives without telling her your plans and then it is just a fait accompli when she does become aware.

Sharing your plans is giving her the chance to critique them, so tell her fuck all. That will stop most of these arguments. If she asks why you didn't tell her before doing something then you tell her firmly that it is/was none of her business.

Jemima232 · 13/07/2019 05:08

This splendid cat is very appealing

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Jemima232 · 13/07/2019 05:10

Another shot of McVicar

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Fluffycloudland77 · 13/07/2019 05:54

I agree your dh not knowing it’s its abnormal is the worst bit. Adults don’t tell other adults off like their still kids.

Effendi · 13/07/2019 06:00

My cat is judging your MIL.

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JellyNo15 · 13/07/2019 07:30

My cat is appalled by your MIL’s attitude

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Nanasueathome · 13/07/2019 07:35

Just wait until Cheddar gives her opinion........

Nofunkingworriesmate · 13/07/2019 07:37

It’s a fucking cat! Not a wild tiger! How dare she speak to you like that, if you were the au pair and she the mother of baby text would make more sense

timeisnotaline · 13/07/2019 08:00

She does sound nuts but if they aren’t far, once a month is not often really.

thegreylady · 13/07/2019 08:43

Colin needs a tummy tickle, would your MIL oblige?

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YouTheCat · 13/07/2019 09:42

My cat is smiling at you.

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LadyRannaldini · 13/07/2019 12:38

My MIL was shocked that we weren't "getting rid of" our cat when I was expecting DS

My mother reacted in a similar way when we told here we were having No 1, Oh you'll have to get rid of the cat! We told her that as we had had the cat a lot longer it had far more rights than the new pet we were expecting, she wasn't happy!

Oldraver · 13/07/2019 13:21

Get DH to send the text.....We understand f you dont want to come over when we get the cat

Singlenotsingle · 14/07/2019 16:58

This is Louie, friendly but timid. He can't understand why anyone wouldn't love him.

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Loyaultemelie · 15/07/2019 15:40

I'll lend you Franky. He's fat, stinky farty and bites when he wants food or stroked (not hard just a nibble) and never mind dcs with him around you can forget ever going to the loo alone. Despite all this we love him and he loves us. He's also bomb proof with dc. Your mil would hate him Grin

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