How would you split this holiday?

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3 generations holiday in cottage complex thing

Mum and Dad (one double room)
DD1, husband and 2 kids (one double, one twin)
DD2, husband and 2 kids (one double with cot, one single)
DS no kids no partner (one double)

How should the cost be split if they're all sharing one house?
Should the cost be different if they have to split across 2 houses (ie. 1 DD2, husband and kids in one house; rest in other house)

Does it make a difference is DS is in a single room instead of a double?

What ages are the kids here sharing the twin room and with the single room?

Are we talking teenagers?

I agree it’s unfair for DS if he’s historically been shafted with crap rooms due to being single.

On balance, I think:

25%
35%
25%
15%

What @fedup21 said about the rooms.

With food/drink we've always done one share per child and 2 shares per adult. So there would be 18 shares; brother and mum and dad would pay 2/18ths each and parents with kids would pay 6/18 per family.

Adjust to 17 shares if baby not eating.

Sounds complicated but really isn't. Do all food shopping on one credit card and when the bill arrives just divide by 18 and multiply by number of shares. Simples!

Per adult as all holidays are.

Per room.
Your folks - 1 share
Your bro - 1 share
2x room fam - 2 shares
2x room fam - 2 shares

Split the food shop (if doing it) by perspn with each adult being 1, each over 12yo being 1, then all other kids bundled into 1 share.

Simplest way, just split it per person (including kids as they are still taking up rooms!). So your parents wold pay for two people, families 4 people each, brother 1 person. Then all is fair.

So I think DS wants to pay per person. I can see why

I bet he does

By room, seems the fair way.

Maybe family in house the 500. Family of 4 in big house 350 . Parents - 200. Sister the rest? Although DS is getting an unfair advantage months price of a single- hmm. Maybe 300 for family of 4 , the other 2 doubles 300 each.DS could suddenly find a partner of bring a friend. Family in own house enjoy the extra space and facilities themselves maybe that justifies them paying extra. What do your family say? Or make family in big house pay 400. A small discount and split the rest?

Well, what I would actually be doing would be letting the rest of my family sort themselves out while I booked a nice quiet holiday for myself 500 miles away.

But in terms of splitting, I would split the accommodation costs by bedroom and the food costs by adult. If you really want to make it more fair than that, I would say that a single room is usually at least 75% of the price of a double. So then you get a ratio of

M&D: DD1 : DD2 : DS = 2 : 4 : 4 : 1.5

M&D: 17%
DD1: 35%
DD2: 35%
DS: 13%

But it really gets quite petty doing that, imo.

Oh sorry I thought DS was your son not your brother. I still don't think he should pay as much as two people sharing a room, particularly as he will be given the smallest one, so how about Family 1 & 2 30% each, DPs 22.5% and DB 17.5%. Nice and simple .

Far too complicated. My head is melting reading all this.

Just divide the cost of the cottage by the number of rooms. If you are a happy family no one will mind this arrangement.

If some object, step away and do your own thing! Sorry to sound so blunt, but honestly.....

I share with family outsamia and we have done similar calculations over the years as to what is fair. Complicated somewhat by DS usually sharing a room with a cousin or two. Far better to have an honest conversation and work out what seems fair, than have someone suffering in silence secretly resenting having to cover the cost of his nieces and nephews whilst sleeping in the maids room in the attic.

Mum and Dad (one double room) - 20%
DD1, husband and 2 kids (one double, one twin) - 35%
DD2, husband and 2 kids (one double with cot, one single) - 30%
DS no kids no partner (one double) - 15%

For the food bill I personally would just divide between the adults if the bill includes a fair bit of alcohol.

I thought per room first, but best suggestion on here 1 share per adult 0.5 per child sounds better. If you go for 2 cottages I would ask which family wanted the cottage and have them pay for it. They have their own space and own bathroom etc. If no one wants it I would exclude the 2 cottage option as I suspect DS won't be happy about splitting that in the same way.

Argh. This is now infinitely more complicated than I originally thought
Thanks for the input everyone.
I think () that fairest is 1 share adults, 0.5 share children.
If two houses I think should be same, but I feel that will cause arguments. Best try and find one big house (more work for me)

Thank!

Why would you charge for Kids? In package holidays and most hotels kids are free.

Would DS be happy if you split per adult?

By room - so split into the 6 and then each person/couple/family pays for each room they are using.

I've just been on a package holiday and kids were most definitely not free!

I think I'd split by room but class the rooms with only 1 person as half?

DP - 1 room
DD1 - 2 rooms
DD2 - 1.5 rooms
DS - 0.5 room

So if the house was £1,000:
DP £200
DD1 £400
DD2 £300
DS £100

I've just been on a package holiday and kids were most definitely not free!
Need to book earlier then next time.

And for the English summer holidays.

Thanks for the patronising response - booked with Jet2 both early and late, and the most you can get is one free child place. And not necessarily for the accommodation you want. So yes, it's accurate to say that children are not free in package holidays.

I wasn’t being patronising, free places are almost always for the English school holidays and if you book early.
I was giving you advice for next year.

rental split per bedroom

food split per adult (assuming none of the kids are teens - if they are they count as adults - but then split alcohol between those drinking)