How would you split this holiday?

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3 generations holiday in cottage complex thing

Mum and Dad (one double room)
DD1, husband and 2 kids (one double, one twin)
DD2, husband and 2 kids (one double with cot, one single)
DS no kids no partner (one double)

How should the cost be split if they're all sharing one house?
Should the cost be different if they have to split across 2 houses (ie. 1 DD2, husband and kids in one house; rest in other house)

Does it make a difference is DS is in a single room instead of a double?

Split by room fairest. The one using the most rooms pays more.

So the option with a second house is because one place (slightly cheaper total) doesn't have a house big enough for everyone.

So no one is choosing to have a separate house- we'd all rather share.

Does that make a difference ?

Divide the total by 7, each adult pay a share. Simple.

Ask DS what he thinks is ‘fair’?

Ok fair enough on not choosing two separate places. I'd still be inclined to give DS a bit of a discount particularly if he's in a single room for some non scientific reasons. Firstly it's nice that he still wants to go away with you all, secondly he's a young adult presumably not on huge salary and thirdly my SIL has never managed to get a contribution out of any of her adult DCs when we all go away ( we don't pay extra though on their behalf just her).

I don’t think each adult paying the same share is in any way fair. That basically means the Ds who is alone not only gets the smallest room but is funding other peoples children too!

Divide by 9? (Make the children 0.5 of an adult)

So single person pays 1 adult.
Couple pays 2x adult.
Families pay 3x adult.

I'd divide by 9. Mum and dad of 2/9. Dd1 and Dd2 pays 3/9 and ds pays 1/9. We always split by adult and 2 kids equals an adult. Or if they are a teen we price them as an adult.

Per room

How should the cost be split if they're all sharing one house? Divide cost by 6 rooms and allocate depending on number of rooms used.

Should the cost be different if they have to split across 2 houses (ie. 1 DD2, husband and kids in one house; rest in other house) no still divide by 6 if thats the only way you can get the number of rooms needed, unless they are different standards of house and dd1 is getting a palace for the cost of a bungalow.

Does it make a difference is DS is in a single room instead of a double? no

I think the folks who get their own cottage should pay a bit more. But generally by room.

Maybe parents could pay a bit more than DS. 250 t0 150. That might honestly be fairer.

Feeling like I'm drip feeding! I'm not trying to!
All DC are in 30s. DS is actually on second highest salary of all DC and partners...

So salary wise (which I don't think should make a difference in 30s)
Highest earners DD1 & partner combined
Then DS
Then DD2& partner (but not a low salary, just less)
Then DM&Ddad on pensions.

Yeah historically (pre LT partner) DS did get the shit room. But this was also pre- kids so doubles were just given to couples and we split by adults.

DM&DDad could not afford to pay for whole house. We wouldn't ask them to as we all earn and they're retired.

Same situation as us, but my parents earn more in their pensions than we all do working!

My parents would in all likelihood pay for the house anyway.

Your brother is being difficult-why? Would he rather not come?!

What does your brother think? Personally, I would suggest paying per room, perhaps allowing for the one sister taking a twin room and the brother being single, so:

Parents double = 20%
DD1 double + twin = 35%
Dd2 double + single = 30%
Ds double = 15%

In my family my parents would pay but if that's not realistic then it's by room. It's the number of rooms that tends to have the most significant impact on cost.

If you're all wanting to stay together but end up split between two houses it becomes a bit tricky because it's likely the family in their own house will end up paying significantly more (4 bed houses are not usually 2 x the cost of 2 bed houses).

Simplest thing is to ask DS what he thinks is fair and go from there.

I think I'd divide the total cost by the amount of people going, so if the holiday cost £2000 I'd divide that by 11 and each person pays that amount, including children. So dp will pay £182 x2, ds £182 x1 and dd's husband and 2 kids £182 x4,

I think it does make a difference if DB is in a single - if he’s effectively in the same quality room as one of the children then it seems unfair on him to have to pay more than the child’s notional share.

I’d assign values to each room and charge accordingly. So master bedroom say, £300, double en-suite £250, double shared bathroom £200, single £150 (making up figures but you get the idea)

Per adult. ... income is not relevant really expect maybe determining an overall budget - I'm not sure about the split houses unless it gives you better standard of rooms overall- how would the rooms work in the big house

I would assumme dd1 would do seperate house as they have 2 dc whereas other have dc and baby..

i would feel a bit miffed if I had crappy single room and paid same as those in bigger rooms... generally they are much worse... why should he get penalised for not having a partner....

if he was in a hotel (most ) he would not get a smaller room..

I would divide the total cost by the number of people, less the child in the cot. So if it cost £2k, divide by 10, parents pay £400, couple with older children pay £800, couple with younger children pay £600 and db pays £200

If one house with no meals included:

Mum and Dad (one double room) - 20%
DD1, husband and 2 kids (one double, one twin) - 35%
DD2, husband and 2 kids (one double with cot, one single) - 25%
DS no kids no partner (one double) - 15%

Are all of the adults working?

Sugar - I didn't get that right. You are right that it is more complicated than it looks

Ignore my message...just looked up.