I just want to rant. Rather light-hearted. Do not take it too seriously, it’s not like I have a big problem or I hate my boyfriend. It’s just a weird habit of him and I’m getting so annoyed with it sometimes. I mean, he just repeats my stories, thoughts, viewpoints with his own words and additional examples all the time. Have you encountered such behaviour? I’m wondering why would a person behave this way. I do not have a question exactly, just a rant about someone’s weird behaviour. Weird to me, to be precise. I guess we just have so different communication styles. Some days it’s funny, some days I get so annoyed. Usually I just ignore it somehow or just go with the flow, but today I feel annoyed again.
For example, we discuss some general topic. I explain my view or opinion and make a point. He does not acknowledge my point, just starts talking and gets to the same point like he just figured it out, not even acknowledging that my point was exactly the same. If someone tells me something and I think the same way as them, I just say “yeah, exactly” or say “yeah, exactly, and.. (adding some additional examples)”. Or when I’m excited and start talking without acknowledgment and realise during talking that I have the same point of view then I end my sentence with “oh, well, yeah, it’s exactly what you said”. Basically – I acknowledge that the other person had the exact same view, point. He does not do that most of the time.
An example – we discuss an exam/test situation where you need a certain number of right answers to get passed. He says “it would be good idea to let people answer questions in a row and when the number of wrong answers is full then the test would close and you do not have to bother anymore with the test instead of letting the person see the entire test and puzzle with it all and then discover that too many wrong answers were given”. I say “Yeah, it’s a good point, it would save up time. However, thinking about it, it could give a false result because at first people tend to be nervous and/or their brain is somehow locked, so it is a good idea they get a chance to see the entire test all the time so when they loosen up they get the chance to review their first answers”. He then tells “when I usually do the tests then I start answering the questions but only in the middle somewhere I feel like a door in my brain opens up and new information starts to flow in and then I discover that the first answers could be wrong or they are easier to answer”. Saying it with a tone/behaviour like he never heard my point. If I would be in his position I would say like “Yeah, ok, good point, I know what you mean, when I do the test…”. The thing is, he does not show one single clue that he acknowledges my point. When I told him “yeah, exactly what I meant”, he does not react to it, not even with a “mhmh, yeah”.
Or when I tell him something funny or interesting or anything, he cannot just laugh or say “yeah, it was funny/interesting” or similar. He basically takes the story and starts talking the same story in other words or giving a lot of other examples relating to the story. For example, it would go like this: I say “OMG, I just read a very surprising forum thread. You want to read it?” (it was a long story and full of interesting details; but it would go the same way if I told him the story). Then he reads it. It was about a mother writing how her daughter and daughter’s DP wrote a letter to the mother (who they lived with) asking her to sell the house and buy a smaller one so they could share the money and they could also buy a house to themselves, detailing all costs and profit and steps to take and potential houses listed etc. A really weird surprising situation.
Anyway, so he reads it and instead of just saying “wow, it certainly is a weird situation”. Or saying anything new, like how would he react if he would be the mother or thinking why would someone do something like this. Instead, he goes like “wow. So it’s like imagine your friend would do this it would be very disturbing, or hey imagine your sister writing a letter to your mother saying I want you to sell your house, jesus, it’s like we would go surfing in the internet and found two houses one for ourselves and other one for my mother and then we would write a letter saying how we found some houses and they should really sell their house and then we could share the profit and we would buy a house to ourselves and they would move to the other one”. I’m thinking like.. yeah.. that is exactly what the person was writing.. why do we have to repeat it in several other ways, we both get the point..